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Q: Will He Ever Ask Me? *sigh*

asked by: Zanny on October 9th, 2006

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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for over 4 years, and we're having a baby together.. And yet he doesn't seem to want to make our relationship official any time soon. I wouldn't expect us to get married straight away, but just being engaged would mean the world to me. I know it shouldn't matter so much.. But to me it does. I guess we're not "taken seriously" as a couple because we're just boyfriend and girlfriend.

Whenever I mention the m word he changes the subject.. And it hurts because in my heart I feel he's the one I want to spend my life with and it's like he doesn't feel that way about me.

I've decided.. Men suck.

Anyway.. Whinge over.. I just needed to get it off my chest. I'm sorry if I seem selfish, I just want my baby to be raised in a stable relationship that's actually going somewhere. I know, I know, i'm not even 18 yet and there's plenty of time to be worrying about marriage.. But to me it's all different now we're having a baby. I dunno if that makes sense.

I don't mean to moan about every little thing that happens to me, and i'm sorry.. Tell me to f*ck off if you like Laughing

ah I know, i'll post this week's bump pic.. Just to liven up my post. My ass looks huuuuge thanks to my sexy maternity jeans.. But there it is in all its glory.. My little bump.

Replies(8)

diamondsz

replied on October 9th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

Honestly dont get married because of baby, if he doesnt want to get married dont get upset it would probally be for the better!

I think he still wants to live young and let him get it out of system while he has a chance that way he can dedicate himself to you and baby, I know every girls wants to get married but getting married for the wronf reason usually ends in divorce.

I got married and got pregnant 4 months after we were excited as hell but if we would have got married when I though I was pregnant in the beginning we would have never lasted cause I was still kid!

Eyes Wide Shut

replied on October 9th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

I agree. Don't force him into anything. He might just be anxious with the baby(which is a huge thing) and then you bringing up marraige. He might be having a hard time coping.

Me and baron make 5 years in .March and he proposed on our 3rd anniversary.

You and he will know when the time is right. You never know, he might pop the question when your child is being born!!

I hope the situation gets better girl! Reguardless of if he's your 'husband' or boyfriend, heis still going to be the 'father' of this child. And I know whether yall are married or not isn't going to make him love yalls child and less!!!!

Good .Luck!

Sarah

Sophie585

replied on October 9th, 2006

Experienced User

I know what you mean about wondering about marriage... My bf and I have been together for around 2 years, give or take a few months. We moved in together in january. We have never really discussed anything about marriage though...Although now that we have a baby on the way, it would be nice to have something official. I know babies shouldn't be the reason a couple decides to get married, but I know how you feel. I don't expect my bf to ask me to marry him, I still honestly think we're too young yet, even though we're having a baby...Lol that probably doesn't even make sense, but oh well. Your really not being silly by wanting him to pop the question at all hunnie!! <3

taya*

replied on October 9th, 2006

Experienced User

Zan, it doesn't matter if people aren't 'taking you seriously' becausde you're not married. You're in love, and that's enough for you, and who gives a sh*t if it's enough for everyone else? Personally, I think you're a great girl, and when he's ready to pop the q, you'll both be ready, ready to get married on your time, and be happy. Just because he hasn't proposed doesn't mean he's not taking your realtionship seriously. He's probably a little overwhelmed. Give it time. I'm sure when jenni's born, everything will be fine.

Xoxo tay

oh_mommy

replied on October 9th, 2006

Supporter

Awe... Ur belly is still tiny... I know what u mean about the engagment thing.. Shawn and I were sposta get engaged this summer, that never happend he never bought a ring because everytime he had money he spent it on caca... And he knows I wanted to be atleast engaged befor the baby is born, I doubt that will happen because theres less then a month to go... But yeah.. Sometimes things dont go the way as planned or as you would like so I would say just go with the flow, and if people ask whens the wedding when u two are togeather (people ask shawn and me all the time) all I ever say "it aint up to me, he's still gotta pop the question, so ask him"

AyaMiyaki

replied on October 9th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

You're not wrong or silly for wanting more of a commitment from him. Even a small gesture like an engagement ring means so much. I understand. I got married on my 6 year anniversary. So for six years straight, I was in a commited relationship that had no real definition other than "together".

It's beautiful that you want to give your child a stable home with married parents. It's not required, but it's becoming increasingly rare these days. I'm sure that he *wants* to marry you, but he's probably waiting for better circumstances first.

Keep your chin up!

(by the way, your tummy is adorable!)

Zanny

replied on October 10th, 2006

Supporter

Thank you girls, I really appreciate all your advice. I won't be pressuring him into anything, i'd rather it be an amazing surprise when he asks me =)

tay, you're so sweet, I love you hun! Mr. Green

thanks for being so understanding .Laura, and for the tummy compliment! =)

Melissa_20

replied on October 10th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

Re: Will He Ever Ask Me? *sigh*

zanyzanny wrote:

but there it is in all its glory.. My little bump.

ummm hun, that thing aint little. . .Lol

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