My ex-boyfriend is always playin around with me. First he wants me then he doesn't I mean its drving me crazy. I am really in love with him, he say he loves me but I dont think he really means it just like when he says he misses me. He tells me every time he is about to get back with me I mess it up but I dont think I do only 1 or 2 times b4. I dont get it will someone help me please
If he knows he can keep on getting you back just when he feels like it then he will just keep on doing it.... This time put your foot down, tell him.. Either you want to be with me or not.. If you ask me out again but then reject it, theres going to be no more returns so make up your mind so I wont be wasteing time all confused and sh!Z ... And dont be scared at what he says your a women be strong, if he's going to say fine its like that then forget it, dont be scared at that you can get someone who can actually make up his mind stay with you and not keeping you wondering.. Just put your foot down and dont be scared just because you love him, you wont love someone forever once you find something sooo much better who treats you 100% opposite and be happy... Takes time but be strong and confident, never let anyone especially someone you love step all over you because they will just keep on doing it, and for some people once you leave em and put ure foot down and show them that, they eventually want you back but still be cautious
i must say I agree largely with onesmallcookie's advice. At the moment you are allowing him to play games with you. So he has all the power and you are kept dangling on a string like a puppet.
If you take back the control you may risk losing the relationship but what you will regain is your pride and self respect and, believe me, these things are a lot more important in the long run.
Force his hand. Ask him to make a decision on what he wants to do. If he can't do that then walk away. But have enough faith in yourself to know that whatever happens you will get through it.
At the end of the day if someone truly loves you they should not enjoy torturing you. And you should not keep torturing yourself.
Try to weigh up the positives and negatives of your current position. If the negatives are outweighing to positives then it's definitely time to call it a day. Find yourself a decent guy, there are a lot more of us about than you might think.
It sounds to me like you are very upset and confused right now, and rightfully so.
Being confused and not knowing where you stand is a horrible feeling. It sounds to me like this guy either 1) Can't decide what he wants, or 2) Is playing with you, by having a bit of fun and then pulling back when he realises you want more than that.
I agree with Cookie. Put your foot down and take a stand. Ask him what he wants and tell him that you don't want to be messed about anymore. Explain that what he is doing has hurt you and if he can't make up his mind and tell you what he wants, then walk away.
It's not worth wasting time on people who are just going to mess you about. Go out there and find yourself a guy who won't leave you hanging on a string. If he is a decent guy he will stop leading you on and then pulling back.
That's not to say you can't still be friends but make it clear that it goes no further than that until he decides what he wants. I know that it's difficult but you deserve respect and letting you know where you stand is a simple respect for your feelings! Be firm.
If you do get together then good luck and I hope everything goes well for you.
For the time being, try not to focus on him too much, you might be overlooking someone else who is better and will treat you with the respect and honesty you deserve.
Good luck and keep smiling. : )