My next-door neighbor is a man who is a waste of flesh. His long term girlfriend lives with him. He is verbally and physically abusive to her. We have often listened to them fight with our hands on the 911 dial. Tonight, we had to call. He was pulling her around, slapping and hitting her in the street. She walked off, he followed, and in the course of events he saw the phone in my boyfriend's hand. We went into the house, but we could hear the tirade of 'f-this' and 'f-that' and how he was going to beat us and do this and that to us for calling the cops. You could hear her crying and saying "but you always start it" and he's being very foul mouthed to her and eventually they left. Came back, more screaming "you've got it coming, buddy!" to my boyfriend.

I am shaken; here i've seen this man hit this woman, and then physically threaten myself, my boyfriend, and our dogs. I don't believe the police ever showed. Later, I saw the girlfriend sitting out back, crying, and he's doing more yelling-"let's get out of here you b*tch" et cetera...

I can handle my own feelings about the matter, but I would like to know if there is anything I can do for the girlfriend. If I talk to her and she is hostile towards me, she could tell him and I could be the subject of retaliation...

For those who were abused and chose to stay in the relationship, is there anything you wished someone would have done for you???

The whole thing has given me a whopping headache. Any responses would be better than aspirin!