So, today my friend told me in the lunch
line that she's pregnant. She's about 5
weeks and she's due sometime in june.
We're not best friends or anything but
we've know each other for a few years and
i'd say we're good friends. She's in
grade 12, a year above me.
My point is, i've never known anyone
besides my mom that's been pregnant
before. I don't know what to say or do!
Should I be happy for her, scared for her,
excited for her? What should I say to
her? What kind of things are
acceptable/unacceptable to say to a
pregnant 17 year old? Was it wrong for me
to act excited today when she told me?
I'm lost here. Any advice from real
pregnant teens would be greatly
appreciated.
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Purple_Butterflies
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Joined: 04 Oct 2006 Posts: 55 Location: UTAH!
Re: My Friend Posted: 10-05-06 20:55pm
smoothiesryummy
wrote:
so, today my friend told me
in the lunch line that she's pregnant.
She's about 5 weeks and she's due sometime
in june. We're not best friends or
anything but we've know each other for a
few years and i'd say we're good friends.
She's in grade 12, a year above me.
My point is, i've never known anyone
besides my mom that's been pregnant
before. I don't know what to say or do!
Should I be happy for her, scared for
her, excited for her? What should I say
to her? What kind of things are
acceptable/unacceptable to say to a
pregnant 17 year old? Was it wrong for
me to act excited today when she told me?
I'm lost here. Any advice from real
pregnant teens would be greatly
appreciated.
was she excited about it? Just be
supportive. That'll help.
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smoothiesRyummy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Apr 2006 Posts: 151 Location: Earth
Re: My Friend Posted: 10-05-06 21:02pm
purple_butterflies
wrote:
smoothiesryummy
wrote:
so, today my friend told me
in the lunch line that she's pregnant.
She's about 5 weeks and she's due sometime
in june. We're not best friends or
anything but we've know each other for a
few years and i'd say we're good friends.
She's in grade 12, a year above me.
My point is, i've never known anyone
besides my mom that's been pregnant
before. I don't know what to say or do!
Should I be happy for her, scared for
her, excited for her? What should I say
to her? What kind of things are
acceptable/unacceptable to say to a
pregnant 17 year old? Was it wrong for
me to act excited today when she told me?
I'm lost here. Any advice from real
pregnant teens would be greatly
appreciated.
was she excited about it? Just be
supportive. That'll
help.
well I asked her and she said she's both
scared and happy.
By supportive what do you mean? What sort
of phrases are supportive? Sorry i'm
absolutely clueless.
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HcoBrunette06
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Joined: 06 Dec 2005 Posts: 8005 Location: Missouri, United States
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Posted: 10-05-06 21:24pm
I know i'm not pregnant but that's okay.
By supportive, just tell her you're there
for her if she needs someone to talk to,
that'll mean a lot to her i'm sure.
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Purple_Butterflies
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Oct 2006 Posts: 55 Location: UTAH!
Re: My Friend Posted: 10-05-06 21:26pm
smoothiesryummy
wrote:
purple_butterflies
wrote:
smoothiesryummy
wrote:
so, today my friend told me
in the lunch line that she's pregnant.
She's about 5 weeks and she's due sometime
in june. We're not best friends or
anything but we've know each other for a
few years and i'd say we're good friends.
She's in grade 12, a year above me.
My point is, i've never known anyone
besides my mom that's been pregnant
before. I don't know what to say or
do! Should I be happy for her, scared
for her, excited for her? What should
I say to her? What kind of things are
acceptable/unacceptable to say to a
pregnant 17 year old? Was it wrong for
me to act excited today when she told me?
I'm lost here. Any advice from real
pregnant teens would be greatly
appreciated.
was she excited about it? Just be
supportive. That'll
help.
well I asked her and she said she's both
scared and happy.
By supportive what do you mean? What
sort of phrases are supportive? Sorry
i'm absolutely
clueless.
its ok, well when I found out I was
pregnant, I was scared and happy. It
helps if you act excited and try and have
fun with her. Like talking about names
and what sex she wants, stuff like that.
When I found out my bf started looking up
names for boys and girls stuff like that.
Just try and tell her she'll be ok and
that your there for her. And that you
think she'll be a great mom, stuff like
that, and what a great job she'll do. And
how she can count on you for moral and
emotional support
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smoothiesRyummy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Apr 2006 Posts: 151 Location: Earth
Posted: 10-05-06 21:30pm
hcobrunette06
wrote:
i know i'm not pregnant but
that's okay.
By supportive, just tell her you're there
for her if she needs someone to talk to,
that'll mean a lot to her i'm
sure.
thanks. =]
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smoothiesRyummy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Apr 2006 Posts: 151 Location: Earth
Re: My Friend Posted: 10-05-06 21:31pm
purple_butterflies
wrote:
its ok, well when I found
out I was pregnant, I was scared and
happy. It helps if you act excited and
try and have fun with her. Like talking
about names and what sex she wants, stuff
like that. When I found out my bf
started looking up names for boys and
girls stuff like that. Just try and tell
her she'll be ok and that your there for
her. And that you think she'll be a
great mom, stuff like that, and what a
great job she'll do. And how she can
count on you for moral and emotional
support
I remember telling my "best friend" that I
was pregnant.. She was shocked, but also
kinda b*tchy about it. And then started
talking about herself, coz she couldn't
stand that I had bigger news than her.
Needless to say I no longer consider her
my friend.
Most of my friends were extremely
supportive though, and those are the
people I want in my child's life.. Just
make sure your friend knows you're there
for her; this is one of the hardest things
she'll ever go through and she needs her
friends.
