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Q: Angry (teens Plz Read.)

asked by: randomgurl06 on October 5th, 2006

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I am very angry with this whole teen pregnancy rates going up higher than ever now days.
Nobody is shocked if a 15-17 year old is pregnant.Its nearly nomal now.Because we hear about teen pregnancys everywhere,especialy on soaps. If a 12-14 year old says they are pregnant we will be a little shocked but we wont be as shocked as we would of been 10years ago. We will accept it.
I actualy thiink it is becoming a trend. To shock your family anf friends and your boyfriend by saying your pregnant, and get all the attention in the world, and get lots of drama, and you go around being a drama queen. I do actualy believe that teenagers who have kids love their child but I also believe there is a part of them who really likes the attention. This most stop! If this gos on in the future every little kids parents will be only about 16years older than them, and they will not be with their father. They will be either divorced and single and looking or married to someone who isnt their father. And they will probably have step-grandparents and half-siblings. And half-uncles and step-uncles. I do not think that is healthy.
A child should have a mom and a dad who love each other and grandparents who are together. They should not have to be put through haveing step families. They will probably feel think love is cheap and not really know what love is (no matter how much the mother tells him/her she loves him/her to make up for the messy family thing) and become a bad behaving rebel.

I am so sick of all this teen's coming up to their parents or whoever and saying 'im pregnant' they are secretly thinking they are gonna get the attention they want. It is perfetic. If your life's boring and you think no one really care's about u and you think you need some drama dont get pregnant, you dont need a baby to show people your a strong intresting person.

I dont think it helps that soap's on tv always has a plot where teen's get pregnant. Teens watching will see it and see all the drama and think 'i want a piece of that' and I dont think it helps that they talk so much about sex now days on tv and laugh about it and they turn around and start talking about how teen pregnancy rate is an issue. They were talking about sex. And they expect teen not to watch and suddenly swich the channel. They are all hypocrites.

I think the best way is to not give teens too much symphony and attention, just tell them oh, ok your pregnant. Well good luck.Bye. And eventualy all the teen's will start to get sick of it. And they will stop having children.

And I think all this accepting teen pregnancy thing must stop. They should at least pretend to be appoled. And then ignore (not completely but dont go on about how she is pregnant and having a child so much) her.
I think teens who want to be pregnant they think if they have a child you can still get lots of good things in life like boyfriends still. Teens in the past may have thought if they have a child thats it. Your life stops there its feeding your child for the rest of your life. But teen now days know better and know there are many many options out there helping you and your child. So they dont really mind having one or two children. Its even pretty cool. 'oh im called mia and im 17 I have two children.'

all im saying is teen's out there who are considering not using protection tonight and gonna pretend you forgot to take the pill think twice. Why do you want a child now? You are still a intresting amazing person with out one. Wyhy do you need a baby to make you whole? I bet there are many other things out there besiders a baby that will make you feel complete. Say finding your perfect man and building a good strong relationship with him. Or concentrating on your school/college work. I bet you want to be someone with a important job when your older. Or you could concentrate on you looks and try to shapeup if you think u look as good as you can get your self to look that will maybe make you feel complete. See you dont need a son or a daughter to make your self feel complete.
Yo dont need a label on you saying 'mother' . You can have a label on you saying 'pretty clever girl with lots of friends who wants to become a nurse someday' or something like that.(if that make's sence.) its just as good or even better as having a label saying 'mother'.

Im not saying teen parents are bad parents. I would never say that. I know a 16year old who is the bestest mom you could ever imagine. But im saying you can be a great mom when your 20 or something. Not now.. Why do you want your child to have a messy family?(like he/she's gonna live with you and her/his step father and see his real daddy on weekends or he/she dosnt see him at all because you and him dont talk.) why cant you wait just at least 4 years? When you have a good b/f or when your married and when you have lots of qualifications and when youv done traning or wotever. Why now? Isnt it gonna be harder finding mr.Right? Going to uni/school/college/traning? Because you have part time jobs to pay for her/his nanny/day care while your out studying?? Just think. Why do you want to hurry????? Life is really long and I think it wud be as cool to be pregnant when your 20-23 as when your 17 or under. Dont you think so????
I want to get pregnant when im 19 or 20. And with my husband/fiance.And when im nearly done training to become a nurse. Dont u all think thats much better than being preggo when your in school doing ya gcse's and having a part time job??(and your bf somewhere out there drunk and lyeing in some gutter hammered )

Replies(15)

Zanny

replied on October 5th, 2006

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Ok.. You freak.

I shouldn't have to tell a total stranger this.. But you've seriously p*ssed me off, so I will.. I used protection and it didn't work. Ever think of that, b*tch? It wasn't some big plan to get attention. I was in 6th form at a grammar school.. Where we're all meant to be good little girls who should "know better". I couldn't get an abortion because it's something that I personally could never do.

Yes i'll only be 18 years older than my daughter... So what? That won't make me a bad mother. And i'm still with the father and have been for 4 years.. We're planning on getting married as soon as we can afford the wedding we want. We're a little more bothered about earning money to buy things for our baby at the moment.

Never ever post anything like this in a teen pregnancy forum.. It's a place of support. And, erm, you plan on getting pregnant at 19? You'll still be a .T.E.E.N.A.G.E.R then, you retard.

Melissa_20

replied on October 5th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

I'm not a teen and I took offense to that.You are one rediculous individual. Most the teens I know did not get pregnant on purpose,it was due to the birth control only being 99.9% effective.And most that I know don't go around trying to start drama and get attention just because they are pregnant.Do you relaize how many of them are ashamed because it is looked down on? Do you think they're happy to tell their parents that they will be grandparents at the age of 35-40 years old,and (some) will have to support that child because (some) are not old enough to work yet? No.Get a life.

randomgurl06

replied on October 5th, 2006

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zanyzanny wrote:

ok.. You freak.

I shouldn't have to tell a total stranger this.. But you've seriously p*ssed me off, so I will.. I used protection and it didn't work. Ever think of that, b*tch? It wasn't some big plan to get attention. I was in 6th form at a grammar school.. Where we're all meant to be good little girls who should "know better". I couldn't get an abortion because it's something that I personally could never do.

Yes i'll only be 18 years older than my daughter... So what? That won't make me a bad mother. And i'm still with the father and have been for 4 years.. We're planning on getting married as soon as we can afford the wedding we want. We're a little more bothered about earning money to buy things for our baby at the moment.

Never ever post anything like this in a teen pregnancy forum.. It's a place of support. And, erm, you plan on getting pregnant at 19? You'll still be a .T.E.E.N.A.G.E.R then, you retard.

1st of all I meant I want a baby, but id rather wait until im at least 19. U health question. At least I didnt medical answer say I want a baby now. At least I have the decentcy to wait. Even if it is just 4years. At least im not jumping into bed with the 1st dude I see. Thats wot I meant. So dont you dare critisise me for willing to wait. How dare you. (u di*k)
omg u hav really pis*ed me off there.

And I wasnt talkin about all teens god cant u even think? I was on about most teens. Not those small percentage of ppl who got pregnant accdently (and not just pretend it was a accedent) and who are *really* upset.But the truth is there are lots of girls out there secretly wantiong attention. Why d'ya denay it?? (rolls eyes)

yes, im sure your not a bad mother. I mentiond that before. Teen moms can be medical answer great moms. Thats not the point, if u could read ud notice that I said why b a gud mom now, why not b a gud mom later on in life.

And lastly yes, its a place for support. If you keep on giving them lots and lots of support then their friends will see it and think 'o gosh being preggo wont b scary look at all the friends and support you'll get' and think its alright to have kids early. Anyways its just sumthing I feel strongly about.
U giv support andfeel sorry for each other (and tell ppl like me to medical answer off )and teen pregnacy keeps growin n grown n growin n growin n growin.... N growin......

Anywayz good luck wit ya babys ppl (rolls eyes.)

Melissa_20

replied on October 5th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

1st of all I meant I want a baby, but id rather wait until im at least 19. U health question. At least I didnt medical answer say I want a baby now. At least I have the decentcy to wait. Even if it is just 4years. At least im not jumping into bed with the 1st dude I see. Thats wot I meant. So dont you dare critisise me for willing to wait. How dare you. (u di*k)
omg u hav really pis*ed me off there.

And I wasnt talkin about all teens god cant u even think? I was on about most teens. Not those small percentage of ppl who got pregnant accdently

anywayz good luck wit ya babys ppl (rolls eyes.)[/quote]

she was saying 19 is still young and its still concidered teen pregnancy, which you are obvioulsy against and I think that gives her every right to critisize you since your doing it to all other teens. . .If you meant *some* teens,maybe you should have mentioned that in your first post smart one.And not *all* teens who get pregnant have just "jumped into bed with the fist dude they see".Its usually a boyfriend.Not all teen moms are skanks : )

randomgurl06

replied on October 5th, 2006

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Yes it dosnt work 99.9 percent of the time. But its so hard to believe that protection didnt work for all those teens cos seriously preggo rates r rising. Teens 10years ago used protection like now days but 10yrs ago hardly any1 got proggo. Isnt it funny how now everyone is gettin knocked up wen theyv used protection now days..? Hmmmmmm...

I mean its a 00.1 percent chance. And for everyone it dosnt work. Wow. (rolls eyes) think of the facts, bi*ch,before telling me that im perfetic?? (rolls eyes )

randomgurl06

replied on October 5th, 2006

New User

Ok...21 then.

Melissa_20

replied on October 5th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

randomgurl06 wrote:

i mean its a 00.1 percent chance. And for everyone it dosnt work. Wow. (rolls eyes) think of the facts, bi*ch,before telling me that im perfetic?? (rolls eyes )

wow,hopefully before you have a kid you learn how to spell and mostly I hope you grow up.Whats the name calling for? I didn't call you one name.Why don't you look up the percentage of teens who get pregnant on birth control each year in the .U.S.A.Maybe it was so low a long time ago cause hmmm,teens didn't have much sex??? Wow,theres a concept.

Eyes Wide Shut

replied on October 5th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

Yikes....Random, I respect your opinion, as I do everyone. But come on, you only posted this to twist the girl's panties....Please go to the abortion forum and post nonsense there....They like it...

Sarah

AyaMiyaki

replied on October 5th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

I read two paragraphs and stopped. You make my head hurt with your fantastically lacking grammar skills.

Teenagers get pregnant. Get over it.

By the way, by the time most teenagers find this forum, they're either already pregnant or think they might be. Bit late for telling them they're doing the wrong thing, really. What's done is done, and they'll either learn from their mistakes or they won't. Some random internet person spewing garbage at them certainly won't help any. We offer support here, not lectures. These girls catch enough crap in their lives already.

If you won't be supportive, kindly leave. Have a nice day.

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and another thing! A lot of teenagers don't set off trying to make babies. They thought sex is this huge awesome thing, the ultimate romantic fantasy... Just like they think that boy from .Algebra class will love them forever and ever, and that they'll die if they don't have a cute prom dress. It's just how the teenaged brain works. Reality kicks in with time and experience. Most of them didn't think pregnancy would happen to them, for the same reason that teenaged boys don't think about paralysis when they race their cars on the highway. Teenaged pregnancy is, for the most part, a mistake of some kind.

We support teenaged mothers and expectant mothers. We don't .P.R.O.M.O.T.E teenaged pregnancy. In fact, many of the young mothers here try to talk other girls out of it. But do you know what happens if you spend your time rubbing their mistakes into their faces? Telling them they're s|utty, and stupid, and ruining their lives? That's how these girls wind up in the .E.R giving birth and their families have no idea they were even pregnant. That's how newborn babies wind up in trash cans at the big formal dance. That's how a lot of girls drop out of school when they can't walk down the hallway without getting dirty looks and giggles behind their backs.

You don't have to like it. No one is expecting you to. But get over yourself and keep your damned "advice" to yourself, because you're helping no one.

emiliej87

replied on October 5th, 2006

New User

Ok, first of all, regardless of the fact that I am almost 19, I am an adult and I can make my own decisions. I think you had no right to come in here and insult everyone like this. You obviously have nothing better to do with your life so here's a suggestion:

get a life, go to school, learn to write properly, including your syntax skills before you critique someone else's typo, and just screw off and leave the rest of us alone! What do you know about me? I'm in university, i've been with my boyfriend for over a year, I have two jobs and more than enough money in a savings account to support myself and my baby while continuing to go to university, and I am sure that there are other people on here who are just as stable as I am, even if they are going to be parents at 17, 18, or 19.

You obviously have some resentment issues with your own family life if you have to come here and complain about other family types. I bet you're racist, sexist and prejudiced as well? It wouldn't surprise me anyway...

Go away and find some other people to talk to because, obviously, no of us want to read your bullsh*t.

HcoBrunette06

replied on October 5th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

Um this is a teen pregnancy forum, if you don't like hearing about it or seeing it dont come here.

Zanny

replied on October 5th, 2006

Supporter

randomgurl06 wrote:

sweetie, can you read? I was commenting on the fact that you said you were gunna have a baby at 19, as if that was waiting .A.G.E.S compared to having a baby at 17. You'll still be a teen at 19, technically, so why bother making out you're some sort of saint for waiting til then?

And calling me a "health question" is a bit of a joke, being that you obviously can't spell or use punctuation or grammar.

Sometimes life doesn't go to plan.. And i'm telling you that so that if, despite using contraception, you fall pregnant before your "ideal age" of 19, you'll be prepared for it. Although I sincerely hope that doesn't happen, for your kid's sake Laughing

hopefulmjz

replied on October 5th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

How ignorant to come in here and post a bunch of crap. Go preach somewhere else pal, because nobody here wants to see what you have to say (if they can read it that is.)

are you living some sort of fantasy...Thinking every single marriage will work out and nobody will have to have an evil step family? I agree that would be great if all marriages ended in "happily ever after", but get real. Your probably some lonley old guy whose wife left and now you have to come and try to ruin everyone elses day with your nonsense. Get a life.

emiliej87

replied on October 5th, 2006

New User

Most of us on the forum are way older than you are and know a hell of a lot more about this stuff considering we're pregnant and some of us acutally already have babies! You're just a childish fool. Clearly, by posting what you did, you're just showing us that you are the attention seeker.

Kia

replied on October 5th, 2006

Supporter

This is a support forum for teens that are pregnant and/or young mothers.

This is not a preaching to teens about not getting pregnant - each of the girls here draws from the others experience.

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