Since the age of 14-15 and passing
puberty. I have always enjoyed
masturbation like any normal male.
Particurly with soft objects one I found
to be espcially nice was iinflable neck
pillows used in the bath.
I m now 27 and have been with my partner
for 5 years. We have a good sex life
considering I work shifts so we dont
always get to bed at the same time as each
other. In the past masturbation has been
resorted to, my gf and I have always been
very open about the whole thing and and I
have even wanked off infront of her which
I find a great turn on and I she likes it.
But until the other day I never plucked
up the corrage to tell her about using the
inflatable pillows. When I told her
initally she was shocked and used me why,
I told her that they make me feel nice and
its a way I can realise sexual tension
when her sex drive is not upto it
im not sure if that was the right thing to
do at this stage but the next day I blew
one up, and it near myself while she was
semi awake in the bed. I felt very
naughty but in a nice way and was the
hugest turn on ever. To be doing what I
find a turn on next to her was great. I
waited till she was asleep and came all
over the infatable pillow.
The next day she went to bed early she
wasnt feeling to great so I said I would
join her, the pillow was in the drawer
next to me, I couldnt help but pull it
out. This time I wanted her to know I was
using it, so the soft edge of the pillow I
put near her for a momet she felt it
agaist her bum, after several hours of
play it ended up in my climaxing again an
hour later she woke. She said she wasnt
sure about it, she didnt seem to mind like
in the first day.
My girlfriend would tell me if this
bothered her. I know I asked her about
the pillow and remains shy about it didnt
seem to mind. Her initall reaction the
first night was it grossed her out.
Im not sure if its right for me to
masturbate in the bed like that, and I m
hoping that over time she will warm up to
the idea of using the pillows with me.
One of the things we used to do when she
was feeling insecure would be to make love
in a spoon position, I would love to have
a pad near us whilst we do that. I there
any help anyone could give me to help warm
her up to the idea.
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deebaby621
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Aug 2006 Posts: 251 Location: North Carolina
Posted: 10-06-06 11:59am
That's kinda weird/creepy. How could you
get off with a pillow? Ew.
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maia
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Sep 2006 Posts: 49
Posted: 10-06-06 22:09pm
Alright, everybody likes different things
and I know for a fact that there are
people out there that do much stranger
things than you.
I think the biggest problem is that she
was feeling sick and you proceeded to
masturbate next to her. No matter how you
were masturbating, you were doing it right
next to her and she wasn't feeling good.
It is kind of hard to rest properly when
someone is masturbating four inches away
from you.
You were probably just happy and excited
to get one of your favorite things out in
the open and were simply indulging in it.
However she may have percieved that as you
were so obsessed with it that you couldn't
even give it up when she was sick.
If you guys have been together for five
years then you really should be open with
each other like this. But you said she
used to feel insecure so maybe she just
feels insecure about sex alltogether.
You have to approach her the right way
about this kind of stuff. Don't just
bring it up out of the blue. Start
talking about sex in general and then open
up about kinkier things. Ask her about
her fantasies. Most people have them and
a lot of people are afraid that others
won't accept them.
Try this: set a time - like while you two
are lying in bed before you go to sleep -
just to talk to each other and the one
rule is that niether of you can judge what
the other says.
Or take turns confessing your fantasies to
each other. And agree to try each other's
ideas at least one time.
Or go online or to your local adult
bookstore and buy a book about sex
positions or ideas to spice up sex life.
Agree that you'll both read it and mark
the pages that you'd like to try. That
might help you guys feel more comfortable
about this kind of stuff.
And above all you two have to talk to each
other.. Communication is so vital in a
relationship.
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Jumpoff
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Oct 2006 Posts: 10 Location: NYC
Posted: 10-07-06 11:39am
Your 27 grow up and stop being
selfish..Instead of pleasing yourself
start pleasing your wife.
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HcoBrunette06
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Dec 2005 Posts: 8005 Location: Missouri, United States
Thanks: 2
Thanked:1
Posted: 10-08-06 17:55pm
Quit trying to start drama, he came here
for support and for you to answer his
question not for you to call him selfish.
Theres nothing wrong with him pleasing
himself.
