I want to first ensure everyone that I am saying this in a general tone, and that I am not saying it to secretly get to someone... This applies to anyone who reads and responds to posts in this forum. I really don't want to hurt anyone's feelings or get on anyone's nerves so rest assured that this is not about any one specific person, but just a general observation.

Being a pregnant (for the second time) 18 year old, I can empathize with many teen and young mothers on this forum. I think it should be understood, at least this is how I see it (i am just new so maybe i'm wrong), that most teen parents or teen parents-to-be come on here for support and advice, not to be condoned and told things like "why didn't you use protection?" or "what were you thinking?" believe you me, we get enough of that from our parents, family members, and friends when they first find out that we're pregnant. This being said, I think that it is insensitive and inappropriate to comment in this way to someone's forum when they are asking for help, advice, or support. Maybe, if we have to turn to an internet forum, we aren't getting much support on the home front... And comments like that really make us feel like crap. And how can total strangers online know if we used protection or not? Condoms aren't 100% effective... My first pregnancy happened due to a snapped condom. We were using protection and I still got pregnant. But the second time, we didn't use protection. We made a bad decision in the heat of the moment, but that doesn't matter now, does it? Because what's done is done and we can't change the past.

I guess what i'm trying to politely say is that it would be really nice if other people who read this forum would take into consideration that everyone who posts here either has parents or grandparents or aunts, uncles, siblings, cousins, friends, etc. At home who know them personally who probably say those things like "what were you thinking?" and "were you using protection?" etc... So maybe, if you don't have anything supportive to say or anything nice to say, it's probably best for all parties if you don't comment at all. I hope the rest of you agree with this, but if you don't that's ok. This is just how I feel.