Scared About Dying

well i live my life happy up until twenty nine aceppting the fact that one day i was goin to die in thininking jesus died so i must die to thats how i use to be in i was fine with it living my life like it was golden then i was on the couch one night smoking my joint in it hit me so hard i mean really hard like i might have already died os something i couldnt belive it how yes i im goin to die one day no im really goin to die one day well i got over it i stopped smoking i have been clean for a year now six months had pass i was doin good then it hit me i fell into depression thinking im goin to die any day now crying for no reason it was vary serious im getting better the crying has stoped but i still have the thoughts of dying

I was always so afraid of dying. i mean nearly all my life. I'm 29. The thing that changed it for me was having a reading done through a medium. He contacted my nan and grandpa and the things he came out with no-one could have possibly known. on top of that at the start of my reading my lights flickered. It was a great validation for me that my nan was around. so now after 29 yrs I can finally say I'm not afraid anymore. I know when I die I'll be greeted by my grandparents and by that stage I'll probably be greeted by my parents too. If you are interested in a reading his name is connect and can be found through spiritualblessing.org . He's a member of that site. Just click on his name and you'll find his email address.

Harmony1 xo

i guess i used to be really scared of dying. there was even one time when i couldnt wait to die. but now i realize that you should value life to the max, dont waste any of it. you are here for a reason.
i see death a part of life and life as a part of death. it links somehow.

To anyone that is afraid of dying I don't think there is anyting to be afraid of.
I'd suggest to you to look into spirituality though. Just read some stories and experiences and you will realise that we do not really die when we pass over. Our spirit lives on...

hi there

i am new here and i am so glad i have found this site.

I have been having terrible nightmares and i constantely worry about death. Everyday i get upset by it and wake up thinking about it and going to bed at night the same. I dont kbow whta to do about it. I dont no if i am depressed or just mad! it has got so bad now that i wont let my husband go training in the evening becasue i am obsessed with the fact that i need to spend every second with him. its absolute madness but its starting to effect his work, i ring him in the day and constanely ask him when hes coming home.

does anyone know if i have sort of depression or is it just me?

smr

I used to feel the very same way. Thinking what's going to happen to me. i'm just going to d** and the world is going to go on and on without me. It isn't until recently that my fear has been put to rest. I had a reading done with a psychic medium. I remember when my nanna was a alive she said "when I die I'm going tomake your lights flicker and you'll know that it's me" Well, all my life i thought of that and thought to myself"don't you dare do it because i'll run from here to mexico, over the ocean and all" that's how scared I was. Anyhow yrs later I started looking into spirituality. I've always been a believer though in there being somethong more to life than this but I had no proof so it was just a belief to make me happy. I never really knew for sure that It existed so I was a still a bit of a sceptic.

Late last yr I joined a spiritual forum called Spiritualblessing.org. and felt that i really, really wanted to come across a medium. Funnily enough one joined there and I asked him for a reading. His name was Connect.

I had two readings. With the very first one do you know what happened, well it kinda a funny story. I hate spiders and I had a white tail spider (poisonus) in my computer room and I was al ready to start my reading (over the net) but there was this spider. I'd already msged connect and told him i was there waiting. he hadn't logged on yet. So I was trying to kill this spider (with half a tin of spray) he must have logged on and started the reading. Still trying to kill this spider and as i fear them so much i couldn't go passed it to get to the computer.

My lights flickered. On , off, on , off. I thought nothing of it and went to my computer and there was a message. I have a female here from the other side, two levels higher than you. I feel that it's your grandma. I guess she'd waited until I was ready in life to flicker the lights. She also used it as a validation that it was really her. she described our area, where she lived, the beach, the creek and the walking track. Lots of little things came through that were really amazing. My grandfather came through too. The medium came through with the first letter of his name and said there was a father figure that had come through but he wasn't mine and his name started with c.
Claudio was his name!
Then he made validations that it was him by validating things regarding his daughter (my mum)
Oh it was an awesome experience. i can't even put into words how it has changed my life.
I tell you this though. I'd feared d**th my whole life and at the age of 28 I didn't fear it anymore. I was sure. I wasn't a sceptic anymore. There is no way on earth this man could've known the things he did. None at all.

So i don't fear it anymore. i am true believer in the after life. I've had the validations to prove this for me. I know that when I d**. My nan will be there to welcome me. Then after that the spirit lives on. Do you really think that this life is all there is to life. look at the birds, look at the trees, they'r beautiful. they didn't just come here from nowhere. This can't be all there is to life and it isn't.

If you so much as only belive in the after a life a little. Find a medium, have reading and put you're mnd at rest.

Hi im 16 and i'm not sure if 'scared' is the right word to describe my opinion on death. Instead i would use the word 'dissapointed'. Dissapointed that everything i do will eventually be forgotten. Any children i have will remember me and be effected by me during my life time but they too will end up dying and eventually my name will be forgotten and all of life on earth will end. But this is a fact i have come to accept. I am an atheist and do not believe in the afterlife, in god, in reincarnation, or any other supernatural things- simply because there is no evidence to suggest that these things do exist. To 'harmony1's opinions i would like to point out that mediums are very good at what they do, but its never been proven that they can talk to dead people. Many people who understand how mediums work say that there is no supernatural work involved. (Google derren brown or even better read his book 'Tricks of the mind'.) For example at your age it is reasonably likely that your grandparents would have passed away. I am not aware of any medians on the internet but that immidiately made me suspicious. It would not be very difficult for some people to get your IP adress, your location and more and easily describe your area with a quick google search. Also, yes the birds are very nice arent they? Though i believe that this is caused by 3.5 billion years of evolution, slowly improving all life on earth into the magnifcant animals and plants we have around us. However i disagree about 'this is not all there is to life'. Life is simply the time we have between birth and death. Our conscious thoughts are just random signals inside our brains, made up of similar protons, neutrons and electrons that make up rocks, the beautiful birds, the sun or your computer monitor. Many people say they cannot imagine death but i find it very easy. It's exactly like what your life was like before you were born. Not black, but nothing. Life existed before you came here and it will, hopefully, continue after you and i leave. Death is not to be scared of because after you go your mind will not be able to sense death, sense the infinite nothingness. This is why i simply find death... dissapointing. These are perhaps pessimistic thoughts but i for one would rather accept the dark hopeless truth than live my life in false hope, praying that some magical phenomenon will save me from the horror of mortality.

My lights flickered too and he knew the name that my grandfather went by (unofficially so it's not on record anywhere) but think what you like

You are only 16 though. At your age i thought a bit like you do. Look at John edwards, and all the other great mediums. How can they explain things out of no where. do you honestly think they do research on every single person there and about all they're loved ones deaths ect ect.
I do not believe it is possible for us to be here for absolutely no reason but if thats what you belive then thats your choice.

I have always been scared of dying but just at night in the dark and got rid of it by watching tv. Then when i was 17 i had a operation and thought as i was under anaesthetic this must be what it is like to die. For weeks after that i was so depressed with constant thoughts of dying, thinking there was no point life or carrying on. I turned to the bible but found nothing from this and tried to reach out for god but no one came. So then i watched the medium shows on the tv but my sister found me and laughed. I told my mum my thoughts and she said it was due to the opertation. It went a way after a while. BUt know im 23 its back for the last two weeks. I dont want to wake up in the morning as its one day nearer my death, and i see old people and think why are you happy you will be dead soon. Its the most morbid of thoughts i know but i cant help it it is constant, My boyfriend is asleep now and i cant talk to him cost he has faced death in the army and he does not fear. My mum knows as i have been crying to her but she says it will go away as she had it after she had children. I get the sick feeling in my stomach when i think of not existing and have the sweats and cant eat- the only upside i have lost 7 pounds in two weeks. I cant cope that the world will go on without me. Maybe I should go to a medium? My grandads have both died but as i was young my connection to them was small- and i fear being conned. All my freeinds do not fear and think i am going mental - so i fear talking about it to much so glad i found this froum so i can write what i feel, without feeling mental. Anyone talked to a councillor or on medication will this help or will it just go away and keep coming back forever.

Love to you all

Maybe try and look into spirituality a bit and see what you get out of it. There's a site called spiritualblessing.org. It's a free site and they do free readings there. Some are practicing and some have real gifts.
I am pretty convinced that there is an afterlife. I know a lot of people have a funny reaction to it but who cares. Don't be embarressed about watching shows with mediums on them. you'd be suprised how many people believe in that sort of stuff. I watch john edwards all the time. i have Alison duBois books.

you could also go and talk to a doctor about your anxiety/fear and see what they suggest. maybe some anxiety medication or cognitive therapy.

Dying would actually be a nice break.

Don't say that.

I am actually feeling a little more positive today. I went to the doctors yesterday and he was very understanding. Did not give me any medication as its to soon- but said i should go to some free counselling so I'm going on Tuesday.

He said this problem is normally caused by trauma- last time was my operation and i have a feeling this time its because my nan is suffering terribly with alzheimers and ,y mum is nursing her.

I advise anyone to go to the doctors even getting off my chest helpes- i hope one day i wil be apeace with th idea that lufe ends and i am trying to think its a contiunous cirlce as my mum beleives.

Hi there!

I don't share the same ear of death as you. However, I do share the same beliefs as to what happens after death.

My little brother also fears death. He often talks about it, and unfortunately I can only say so much to try and ease his fears.

Death is going to happen regardless of everything. You may only have one life, you may have a million to come. We will never know for a fact. But, to be afraid of something natural and bound to happen is a very difficult way to live a life. Understanding though, that you cannot choose what you fears.

You can control a fear or even get past it, if you face it. I don't mean to test death, I mean to learn more about it, perhaps different philosophies.

What you really need to try to do is accept it. Sounds ridiculous 'eh? But that's all there is too it. Try to change your mind-set; mind over matter works phenominally. You must try to remain positive and hopeful. Surely you have many, many years before you need even worry about it.

P.S. - You said it gets to you most when you're alone and unoccupied... Find something to do, a hobby. A whole bunch of hobbies. And when you're laying down to sleep, hopefully you will finally think of something exciting (whatever the next day entails) and live your life to the fullest while you are alive. Please don't allow your fear to consume you.

I am 29 years old with a 6 year old and a 4 year old. I worry constantly that I am going to die and leave them without a mother. I don't know what to do to stop worrying about it! I'm home alone all day with my 4 year old and I worry that something is going to happen to me when we're home alone together and what will she do!?! I hate feeling this way. I am glad to read I'm not alone in this. I was on effexor for a couple of years and that helped a bit, but I gained a TON of weight on it (and getting off of it was hell!). I want to try to get over this without the help of pills.

Im still suffering as I was in the post before. But sometimes i forget about it for half an hour when im busy. The lonely times are the worst like now, I live away from my family and friends with my boyfiend and find i immensley difficuilt, as he has friends to go to and spend some evening s with them, where as i have no one and am left with my own toughts. I accept that we have to die, as living forever would be no fun! I just cant compreend that i wont be here- i cant see any way of getting over this! Other people must have come to terms with it otherwise everyone woudl be walking around morbid like me!

Has anyone found peace with the idea?

Thanks

Yeah, funnily enough I have gotten past that. Only because I believe in life after d**th though. honestly that's what has put my mind at ease. do you believe in the after life at all??

Well im unsure at the moment - religion does nothing for me- however i am investigating spirtualism- mediums etc.? If you dont mind me asking how/what convinced you?

I want to put my fears to rest so I can coninue to enjoy my life!