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leanne 28

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Scared About Dying Posted: 01-19-07 12:29pm


I am scared of dying I say 2 myself from getting up 2 goin bed that I am scared of dying and I start aving anxiety attacks I am on medication but still the same these r caused bec I cant get this out of my head iv been like this for 6weeks know will it ever end I need help ive ad enough its majking me depressed I am scared of dying but will I be always thinking of this people say stop saying it but I cant help

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Scared of Dying Depression Posted: 01-19-07 12:39pm


Im not depressed just av anxiety but im gona end up depressed what it is I am scared of dying but I think off it from getting up 2 goin bed everyday I say 2 myself I am scared of dying I am but will I ever stop thinking of it help

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Re: Scared About Dying Posted: 01-19-07 14:57pm


Hi when u say ur scared about dying does that mean ur scared of dying

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Scared About Dying Posted: 01-19-07 15:00pm


Im scared of dying I think of it from gettin up 2 goin bed I say 2 myself I am scared of dying and start panickin for 6weeks now iv been like this I need help

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Bren17

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Posted: 01-22-07 01:57am


Im not scared of death. Im scared of leaving the people that feel like they need me alone.

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Wow Posted: 08-26-07 18:26pm


I have been having a really rough time lately. I am a nurse and I am used to dealing with death, but in April, I was doing palliative care and the woman died. I was so not myself. I became scared and panicky. I kept thinking she was going to be in the car with me on the way home and then there watching me as I tried to sleep. I had a couple panic attacks. Racing heartbeat, felt irregular, chest pain, short of breath, I thought I was dying. It past and in a couple weeks I was feeling better. Then my boyfriend and I found his mom passed away in her apartment. We were all very close, she was really close to my kids. Ever since I have suffered with panic attacks, I ended up in emerg because my face went numb and my arm. My heart was fine. I have put it down to I am scared of death. I am scared of leaving my kids alone. I keep thinking something is wrong with me and I am dying. My Dr. gave me ativan to calm my nerves but I always feel like I have a lump in my throat. I don't know how to fix it. I am glad I am not the only one going through this, that I am not crazy.... But what an awful way to spend days and nights. Any suggestions on how to get rid of this????

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No Loger Scared of Death... Posted: 08-31-07 20:01pm


I have been sitting hear reading all these post about fear of dying and what happens. I thought that I might share an experience that I had a few years ago, that really changed my fear and beliefs forever. I was very fortunate to be with my dad in the hospital when he passed. Before he passed, he asked me on several occasions who that person was over there, when in fact he and I were the only ones in the room. Once it was a women he saw and the last vision was a man. Im convinced that the women was his mom(deceased) and the man was Jesus. After his visions, he went into a comma and died within a few days. Have you every heard pennies from heaven. Well, to this day, everytime an important date or family gathering is taking place, I will find a penny on the ground somewhere and Im convinced that he is telling me he is with me still. I am at peace with dying now that I know that my family will already be there to greet me. Im sure he saw family there to greet him and help him cross over and that did give me faith of life after death. Hope that this helps someone that still questions.

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Thanks Posted: 08-31-07 20:30pm


Thank-you for your story, it does help. But I guess my biggest fear is leaving behind my children. What would they do without me? I want to see them grow up and play with them and go on trips. I guess that is where my biggest fear is........

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Posted: 09-02-07 15:36pm


I am not afraid of dying, this because I grew up in a christian home and firmly believe that those who believe in Christ will go to heaven, no matter what else happens. I DO worry that i might loose my faith, as I feel it weaken as the years go by, and I think of my friends that I love who fear death and in general have problems in life and has no-one to turn to. many accuse chritians of using God just as a last straw to cling onto, but to me He is not, but He IS my guarantee of something better after this life. A place with no pain, fear or sorrow.

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Re: Scared About Dying
Posted: 09-03-07 17:25pm

chez1 wrote:

I suffer from the blues on and off. I've recently got over post-natal depression thanks to prozac, but the feelings still come and go. I know when i'm getting down as I wake up in the night frightened about myself dying or my children. I sometimes have late-night discussions with my husband about the meaning of life and what happens after we die. My main concern is that I will be alone and not see my loved ones again. The next day when I wake up with puffy eyes I feel really stupid and pathetic. This has happened since I was a kid and it gets worse as i've got three young children now. Am I the only one who worries about dying and where we go afterwards?

This happens to me too... It happens to me more at night when I'm trying to go sleep-- thoughts just start going through my head. Eventually I had to have a TV in my room when I go to sleep to distract me. I do know exactly what you mean, when I wake up in the morning I feel silly about having those thoughts of dying.

I've always believe in Christianity, so I don't feel to fearful of the afterlife. I just don't want to die to soon because I want to experience as much of this life as I can.

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Re: Scared About Dying Posted: 09-18-07 18:10pm


i am only 14 years old but i have a fear of dying, i have spoken to people, even specialists they worked but only for a month or two. at one part of my life i felt like i was waiting to die. i am growing more and more scared, not knowing what to do. i feel nervous and i have to move around. i am scared of mainly just seeing black hearing nothing, nothingness and not seeing anyone at all. what happens when we die do we just stop or is there something else. i do not bileev any religion, i have read about them but i do not bileev in any of them. my fear is very bad as it is affecting my life and i want it to stop.

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Death And Life. Posted: 09-22-07 15:18pm


lately ive been thinking about death alot it goes and comes sometimes im happy the next i cant stop thinking of death. it really sux but the thing is to remember we we're blessed with the life that is given to us. use it to your full advantage. and dont see dying as death but as being 're-born' again.. before u were born were u scared at all? no... cause u dont remember anything cause u were basically 'not alive' so we've all basically seen what it is not to be 'living' somewhat.. but the question is what happens after death is what scares ever person and someimes us who have no diseases or life threatining illnesses take advantage of what we got and complain about dying someday in the future but u gotta remember there's kids who only have gotten to see 1 day of life or only a few years and die. i cant imagine what they must go through its a really tough topic cause its going to affect everysingle person someday so dont see it as ure being alone when u die but everyone else too so u'll have the company of others with u regardless what happens just live life and love it and everything about it..... do you think something as good as havng life was just created for no reason for us just to breed and die then re'breed so more can die? nah man.. look around.. god put all of this here on earth for us and to enjoy it. forget scientist and all that crap i didnt evolve from a monkey i was giving life and im gonig to enjoy it and so should everyone fear is whats going to make u have a horrible death and life.. but if u take hold of fear it cant do anything to u.. take a hold of ure life dont let it take a hold u

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Scared About Dying Posted: 09-23-07 19:15pm


ive been dealing with this for a while it goes and comes i just realized its a waste of time thinking about death... its sad yes.. but i mean if humans have been dying for thousands of years -= and u look at some of their lives the ones who sat in the corner and freaked out cause they were gunna die someday are the ones who actually did die a misserable death only cause they just let it get to them or they just couldnt take it... what ive been thinking about alot is the future. ya its gunna be awesome but then i dont wanna be an old person waiting to die. when i look at my grandpa hes 98 years old and he doesnt seem to be scared at all and when ure 98 its like wow.... but after a while you learn 2 deal with it. i mean think about it .... would u really want to live forever? imagine all the pain and sufferring that goes on in this world. some people blame god for not helping us but man.... F u who say that ' we have come a long way a few years back i was playing on a atari now im playing on a hi-def graphics game card and crap that shows u the power man was givin. over all others some are like y doesnt god come or cure us? i say why dont u go make a cure we have the power and minds thats why it was givin to us.... u think we just lucked out and.. like a rock hit another rock...and sat there..... then every single possible thing we need to survive plus more was there? look at all the other dead planets.. look at ours... kind odd how ours is like.. perfect distance from the sun... with water.... food.... iron metal everything... y would all of this be put here.. if we came from monkey we had no reason to evolve then.. even before the monkey what ever they claim we were u think that we even needed to evolve into what we are today.. people in the past died so u could have a better future and god gave us the tools to survive and make it the best we can some just take it for granted. and need to realize ure not alone... im sure someday with those who believe in heaven we'll have a good laugh about how we used to freak out about death lol

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Scared About Death Posted: 09-25-07 18:58pm


heres a video about someones actual experience with death not some theory and stuff check it out it helped me alot and now im not afraid at all but looking foward to spending time with people of the past and even loved ones that i never got to know check out this vid http://www.youtube.co m/watch?v=HSgH2AHkfkw

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Dying Posted: 01-19-08 16:08pm


I sometmes think about death, and if I think about it too long, It freaks me out a little. We take every day for granted, and never really imagine it will all be gone. Sometimes I watch TV, and think, all of you will be dead one day. Gone. Nothing left, and then I think about myself, and realise Im not gonna be here - be me for ever more. One day I will be gone, and if anyone cared about me, it will be just the memory of me. One day life, and the memories and everything we take for granted everyday will stop. I wont know when it happens of course, as we all wont, but just thinking that one day it all stops is hard to fathom. We always think life is eternal, as we dont know when it ends. I just hope, when the time comes, I have become sick of life. No one can imagine being dead. I guess its like going to sleep, but without the prospect of ever waking to a new day. Only 2 things in life are inevitable - your birth certificate and your death certificate. You cant do anything about either, but you have a long time to think about the latter. Im not someone that thinks about it all the time, but like most of us, It occurs to me sometimes, when I realise I am "x" age, and feel I havent fulfilled what I have wanted to in life. I think its natural to think about the time when your time on this earth is up. Im not religious, and dont believe in an after life. I guess it makes death easier for some people, but its not something to cling to. There is an inevitable finalisation to ones life, and that is returning back to the earth. Nothing more.

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scared of death Posted: 01-21-08 18:22pm


heres the story ever since i was about 7-8 i understood death not fully but to an extent but who knows about death realy apart from it happens, i think i suffer from ether anxiety or depression and i dont know cause i'm to worried to sound like an fool as im only 16 next month and im worrying about death, i sat up all last night thinking about it and i dont like doing it cause it makes me feel sick and i jsut wanna know what the hell i can do about it everyone faces the same problem but am i just being a jerk. i am notjsut worried about me dying though i am worried about losing my parents and my girlfriend can u please tell me what rong with me please yours thankfully chris ...............................

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Posted: 01-21-08 18:42pm


hi everyone, facing death is a issue we all have to face. so much time can be spent being scared of death,that we loose the gift of being alive. i always say we each have an aloted amount of time here, spend it wisely. No regrets. i am 34 years old and very pleased to be alive, each breath is a blessing, yes tough times come but no regrets. it is typical tale signs of depression is the dwelling on death. when i had my first bub i became very ill and ended up in a coma, it was a very traumatic experience but it really did help me to evaluate what i held precious in my life-people,faith.we now have 4 children. i view life as creating memories, what will stand out to our children about us. I am a christian so the sting of death has gone as my hope lays with an eternity with jesus. before i was a christian all i knew was darkness and fear, it controlled my life, death seemed a better option, i was so wrong. i was raised in a violent home and my mum died young of alcoholism,we really did raise ourselves, one thing that really spoke to me of her, is that she loved us and that covered a multitude of shortfalls. i would encourage all of you to seek help purhapse profesional, its wise to be scared of death if you dont know where you are spending eternity, because without hope it is darkness and fear, and terror. you know when you have that peace that you are on the right track. get help as this life is far to important to waste on things that are not yet here.i also learnt that self control with our thoughts, if husband late i would presume he had crashed the car and in a short while i would mentally have the funeral planned, the details etc, by the time he walk in the room i was a complete mess. i had to learn to think, is it real, is it true, if my answer was no then i would force myself from thinking those thoughts, its made a huge difference to my mental wellbeing.

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I go through it too.. Posted: 01-25-08 10:28am


I am 21 years old and I suffer from the same type of thoughts/depression. It's sad because you're seeing it on t.v. everyday you're hearing about it in your neighborhood or through family & friends all the time young people are dying a lot now. Grand parents and parents are out living their children. I am not sure if it is the times we're living in.. I just don't know but it consumes my thoughts.. death, leaving my son, wondering what his life is going to be likeif I'm not here why did I even bring him into the world with a set date of death and just crazy things like this. But apparently, it is not crazy because others are going through it this is a daily thing for me out of no where the thoughts will come and just take over for the rest of the day. I fear driving, crossing streets etc.. and what I have fears of I see here many of you are having similar fears... I just don't know how to "overcome" them.. my motivation to not just lose it is my son and trying to give him a decent life and making preparations for when the day comes that I'm really not here.. any feedback on this? is this a form of depression or disorder???? sometimes I can't even sleep at night these are all my thoughts..

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TO CHEZ1: I watched my grandmother die Posted: 01-27-08 14:08pm


All of her children the ones who she helped into the world were there to help her out of it. She was 98, all her organs failed and we literally watched her die over the course of a day. We had her on clean sheets, powdered, perfumed and in a new nightie. She was born in Puerto Rico where little frogs sing at night and we had a tape of the frogs beginning at dusk. The hospice people had her on morphine and my uncles who are doctor's monitered it and explained every stage she was going through. she died a very peaceful death. NOW TO CHEZ1: YOU WILL SEE YOUR LOVED ONES AGAIN. Weeks before she died my grandmother told me that her dad (and she was a BIG daddy's girl) came and told her he was taking her somewhere. He had a tobbaco plantation (No slaves, but wages & a rippen party that lasted 2 days at the end of harvest.) Anytime we saw some outhern scene with a man in a panama hat riding through fields she'd say that's my dad. One day two weeks before she died she was totally out of it. all of a sudden she sat up, opened her eyes and said "Amparito, Amparito! It's been so long since I've seen you!" Amparao was her favorite sister who had passed two years prior but we didn't tell her because she would have been devastated. We just pretended that she was still at home with her daughter and family with her Alsheimers. After she passed I went to a cat show w/ my husband and he teased me mercilessly the entire time. Espescially when we saw the cat "Psychic." After she was done she motioned me to stay and I thought "How bizzare." She asked me if my grandmother had passed and then described my grandmother in great detail. I almost passed out. She told me that my grandmother was standing behind me the entire time she spoke and she was making a scene because she wanted her to tell me that she loved what I said at her funeral. I turned white because- I gave the eulogy. So yes I believe you will see your loved ones and that as we speak they are watching you with great love. When someone dies we say"There she goes" and cry. but think on the other side there are people waiting and crying with joy "Here she comes!" I hope this makes you feel better. God Bless