Although I have always believed in god, reincarnation & an after life - I do have an idea of what you mean, when I became a mother (almost 15 years ago) & since the fear of death (of deserting my children really) has often caused me to be depressed.

I don't belong to a specific faith, I don't think we need to, what we need & for me at any rate, what god intends is for us all to be unique & find the beliefs that are "right" for us. Look at the trees, the beauty of nature & the faces of your children, you don't need a manmade building of any sort to pray in when you have these god made miracles.

I am not trying to convert you, I am totally opposed to that, but it is the only thing I can think to say that might help you.

Much love

cheri

I worry about death constantly!!!
There's many times I can't sleep becuse of it.
I have terrible dreams and sometimes their have been parts of them that
have come true and that really freaks me out!!!
I had one recently about my husband and what I did becuse I couldn't live without him.The dream was so vivid and real I can't even tell him about it
cause I get too upset.
I have had dreams like this for a long long time.
I worry alot about my brother and I have lots of dreams about him.
Ussally I wake up crying and alot iam hysterical,very upset.
I don't want to die or leave my family or the oyher way.I don't handle it well.
I do believe in heaven.
And than sometimes I wonder.

Chez,

i too suffer the same. I'm starting to think every mother does. I worry that my children will not be here the next day, and find myself always checking on them to make sure they are still "here". Then I worry about leaving them, them not truely knowing me. I just wish that I could be assured that we will be together for a long period of time...If not forever. I wonder how my husband would feel if I died. Sometimes I can't bear to think about it, but do anyway. But then I realize that I have to live for "now", because tomorrow may not come. I hope we can get over this.

Jennifer

Thank you all for replying to my e-mail. I think that many people want to talk about death and the afterlife but it is not a subject spoken about. I do believe in angels and I hope that they will give me some answers someday. With love, chez

I too am afraid of dying, wondering if it will hurt, how does it really feel when you dye. I have lost my mother and father, and that was really hard for me. And now I am so scared of losing my husband and sons, and grandkids I don't know how I would handle this, it is something so hard to go thru.

I guess you look at death differently when you are faced with health problems, (which I have many of), I know that I will die and in the begining I use to cry all the time because I thought it was so unfair that I have to deal with everything and have to fear dying because it's not a what if for me it's a it will happen. I've watched my mother suffer for the past three years and know that if the cancer doesn't get me this will. I've come to realize that everyone dies and we have no control over that, why spend time scared of something when you are alive now, you have this day and tomorrow will take care of itself.

Hi chez well I too go in to a depression when I think about death I mean I dont understand it and I dont know where we go I mean I think about being put in the ground and I think about how my kids would suffer losing there mother and I tend to think that I made a mistake bringing them into this world I gave them a birth day and a death day if I knew what I know now I prolly would of never had kids just to spare them the pain... But anyways I wanted to let you know that you are not alone its a very depressing issue that we all will go through hopefully the transiton isnt so bad.

I too worry about dying and wonder about anyone who doesnt.

Im not scared of the pain of death anywhere near as much as I am scared of the inevititability of death - the complete end of life as we know it and the loss of everything we ever value as part of that

my fear is that death is the end and that there is nothing else to follow.

The complete and utter certainty that I will grow old then die haunts me and has since I was a child - went through a phase where I couldnt sleep because of it

how do some people just live their lives with no thought to this? We are all going to die and its so totally utterly final - how come we are not all complete freaks thinking about it????

I'm not scared of dying, i'm scared of the process of dying regarding pain. I know what is awaiting after life. Anyone who is scared need not be. If you do some research and read the bible, it is all made clear. Have a little faith, give your life to jesus christ and you'll be fine. I was scared before I walked the right path, now that i'm on it and know what the score is there is nothing to fear.

Jesus is with you always, just pray and open your heart to him.

Great things await us in the after life... But you have to admit jesus christ is the son of god. If you do not believe this you're eternity will be dark. Don't take my word for it, again read the bible. God's personal letter to us.

Iv been worrying about it to its scares me when I wake up I think about it and it eats me up inside untill I dont know what to do its like im getting older now and I think about how much more longer do I got plus I have anxiety and depression and I dont wanna die like this you know I wanna do something with my life and live it happey and not worry about it constantly but I do and it sucks so yeah I think about it to your not alone ...

In some sort of weird way I kinda glad to read that I am not the only one with this problem. I have been thinking about dying every day since 2 years now. I remember very clearly, I was walking my dog and it suddenly hit me that someday that I was going to die.

It was very weird and since that day I have never stopped thinking about it. I too am scared of the thought of not existing. I sometimes forget about it and then it just hits me right in the face.

On the outside nobody knows that I suffer from anxiety attacks, my mom thinks i'm being stupid so I am really glad I can write it down here.

I just want to live my life like before, when I didn't think about it. I don't wanna think about it and just be like everyone else...

Okay i've read the posts and it makes me feel better to know i'm not the only one who thinks about this... I think about it constantly though... I mean there are very few days that it doesn't pop into my mind... And it starts really messing with me... Like it will make me have bad anxiety and i'm only 20!! I know where i'm going when I die... It has nothing to do with the "fear of actually dying"... My dream is to make a life for myself and have a family one day, kids, career,home,dog... Ya know, just the works... Thats all i'm living for.... I've seen young people go in my time, and I know god has a plan for me... But for some reason, i'm scared his plan won't be for me to grow old and see my kids have kids... I don't have kids yet... And honestly i'm in no hurry to right away... In a couple of years or so.... But I don't know... I worry about everything... Sure.. I'll welcome death too when i'm old and gray and i've lived my life ya know.. I don't know why I stress about it cause I know theres nothing I can do to alter god's plan... But i'm always thinking something is wrong with me, like I have cancer or i'm going to choke, or I get dizzy so I think i'm bout to pass out and die or something... Any advice would greatly be appreciated!! P.S. The reason for this post even is cause I was just having an "anxiety" attack I suppose... Cause I was shaking, lightheaded,and dizzy..... So I looked fear of dying up on the internet
thanks!!!

I know how it feels, it take me years to finally deal with it but sometimes I cant help it but to worry and in the end when my imagination runs! Men! My head hurts really bad.. Mine started when I was about to go to school and the suddenly a crazy question pop in to my head "what if this is your last day" at that moment I can tell I you I had chills and then fear came, the whole day im thinking of it and sometimes I feel that it is hard for me to concentrate which is very unusal to me.. Last year i've decided to talk to a counselor, because I feel like giving up..But my friends know about it, and they keep on supporting me which I guess help me..But I cant deny it the fear is still there.. But what the !@#^! Life is beautiful!! And I won't those crazy thoughts manipulate me.. I know our mind are very powerful, but hey I dont want to be miserable for life and it can lead me to a branch of complicated disease which I dont want to happen!..
Whenever I feel my attacks, i'l just get my pad and pencil and then draw or a pen and paper and then write the things inside my head.. And viola! Im okay atleast and then il talk to my friends about our adventuresa and all those stuff... You'll just have to deal with it and fight that battle on anxiety!.. Im not saying that im completely over it I still have those but c'mon im not born to be anxious for the rest of my life.. :d

I know how it feels, it take me years to finally deal with it but sometimes I cant help it but to worry and in the end when my imagination runs! Men! My head hurts really bad.. Mine started when I was about to go to school and the suddenly a crazy question pop in to my head "what if this is your last day" at that moment I can tell I you I had chills and then fear came, the whole day im thinking of it and sometimes I feel that it is hard for me to concentrate which is very unusal to me.. Last year i've decided to talk to a counselor, because I feel like giving up..But my friends know about it, and they keep on supporting me which I guess help me..But I cant deny it the fear is still there.. Life is beautiful!! And I won't those crazy thoughts manipulate me.. I know our mind are very powerful, but hey I dont want to be miserable for life and it can lead me to a branch of complicated disease which I dont want to happen!..
Whenever I feel my attacks, i'l just get my pad and pencil and then draw or a pen and paper and then write the things inside my head.. And viola! Im okay atleast and then il talk to my friends about our adventuresa and all those stuff... You'll just have to deal with it and fight that battle on anxiety!.. Im not saying that im completely over it I still have those but c'mon im not born to be anxious for the rest of my life.. :d

I do that every night but it's more hysterical laughter and insane thoughts than depression. If you are of higher intellect and ever get manic it seems like you are having a million thoughs a second and that you might actually figure something out no one else has. It's a design, it's a curse, we'll be reincarnated into dolphins or trees, blah blah blah. Fate and pre-destination, does it even matter what we do? What if you have no control over what you do(design and fate). Is god dead and are we on a runaway train of stuff I am agnostic but I highly doubt that a god? Cares about sophisticated monkeys who like guns and mcdonalds. What's everything to one person but nothing to anyone else. Your mind! Meditation helps a lot of people but I haven't done that. Exercising a few hours before bed will get your endorphins pumping and then bring on a great wave of calm. If not, maybe take something like xanax or klonopin so that you'll relax and not have so many thoughts of doom, panic and what happens when we die.

"every living creature on earth dies alone." - donnie darko

"people say that you'll die faster than without water but we know it's just a lie, scare your son, scare your daughter." - the arcade fire

I have always been a little scarred about dieing, but not enough to really bother me about it. We all have to die some time and the sooner you face the fact the soon you will forget about it. Dont let something like this stop you from enjoying life.

Wow. I am new here but I have been suffering depression on and off for many years. When I saw this topic I was in shock because I have been having fears of death lately. I was doing well and depression free for a while untill this summer. I had two very close family members die here recently and I have had a hard time dealing with it. Also, this summer I have been pretty sick the whole time, in and out of the hospital and emergency room. First it was my gallbladder and it got removed but I was still having pain. The next thing they did was a scope and found and ulcer caused by h pylori. They also thought that I might have this rare syndrome that is fatel and I had to wait on the results for about two weeks. During that whole time I thought I was going to die. Luckly I dont have this syndrome but it was sure scary. I am still feeling sick all the time and I am constantly thinking I have something that is going to kill me. The docs keep telling me to relax because it is preventing my ulcer from healing but thats easier said than done.
Anyway, that is my reason for being scared. I am a christian and I do believe in god and jesus. The thing I fear is if there is really a heaven or just nothing. I know I am just supposed to believe and I also know there is nothing I can do about it, but is scares me so much. The thing that bugs me is that we have no proof that there is a heaven because no one has been there and came back besides jesus. I read this one website about near death experiances and how these people believe they went to heaven for a breif moment. The stories sound neat and all but they are different from one and other. That brings me to the question that I thought we all went to the same heaven, so how could it be different for each person? I also went and talked to a pastor which did help me a little because I am not worrying constantly now but it is still happening a lot. I am just really glad to see that I am not the only one suffering with these thoughts. Maybe we could all be a support for one and other.

Tia

I am also afraid of death, I am 23 and I dont drive, I am terrified that the day I drive im going to get in an accident and die lol its crazy, im also afraid that if I leave my daughter and go to work that if im not there then something bad will happen to her, it sucks, I always tyhink the worst is going to happen and I have always been like that, when I was little I used to ask my mom every night before bed if something bad was going to happen :lol: I make myself sick with worry.

I think everyone is scarred of dieing a little bit. I mean I really dont care that much but obviously ifyou think about it. It is going to scare you a little bit. Its normal. The best thing to do is just not too think about it. You are still young so you dont have to worry about stuff like that for a long time yet. And when the time comes it wont be so bad its your time to go. And you wont be scarred anymore :d just try not to think about it.