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Q: Is This a Valid Reason to Abort?

asked by: Becky on October 1st, 2006

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My (not so close) friend confessed to me that she is nearly 18 weeks pregnant but doesn't know who the father is. Her boyfriend is black but she cheated on him with a white guy.
She is now scared that the white guy is the father and the baby will be born white (she is white also)

she was very happy initally to be pregnant and wanted a baby (her boyfriend and her were trying) she come off birth control to try for a baby with her boyfriend and didn't use a condom with the one night stand Rolling Eyes

she is now saying that she is going to get an abortion as she is scared that the baby will come out pure white. She .R.E.A.L.L.Y wants a baby and is upset at wanting to have an abortion but she said that she can just have another.

I think her reasoning is wrong and she will regret this. What do you think?

Replies(27)

Carifairy

replied on October 1st, 2006

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The truth is that any reasons that is good enough for the woman, is good enough to have an abortion.

Even though you may not agree, it is not up to you as a friend to necessarily agree... We do not know her inner feelings, and what she is going through.

Yes, she technically can have another baby later.

Becky

replied on October 1st, 2006

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I know this but it is the way she is saying that she really does want this baby and has picked out names/bought clothes etc already.

She has already bought a push chair too. This to me isn't someone who truly wants an abortion... She goes on about the baby kicking all the time,

Jules

replied on October 1st, 2006

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It does seem a bit twisted to be buying a pushchair one minute and then talking about abortion the next.

How long has she known she is pregnant? I think she's leaving it a bit late, personally.

Maybe she is just attention seeking?

Carifairy

replied on October 1st, 2006

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She may in fact want a baby, but he doesn't want a 'white' baby because it would be obvious that she cheated.

Nataliachick7

replied on October 1st, 2006

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Yeah, its pathetic that she would abort just because its a "white" baby.
Maybe she should learn to use protection, especially with a one night stand, what a promiscuous person . What if he had aids? Then what? fool.

cherry88

replied on October 1st, 2006

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Gotta say beck, your mate is only thinking about herself. She cant keep chopping and changing her mind. Shes obviously confused and needs to decide soon, or seek professional help. None of us can decide for her. Its her life, so she needs to live it.

Nataliachick7

replied on October 1st, 2006

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stillherelosers wrote:

nataliachick7 wrote:

maybe she should learn to use protection, especially with a one night stand, what a promiscuous person .

you really shouldn't take about the night of your conception that way, cunt.

commit suicide.

jenn_smithson

replied on October 1st, 2006

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At 18 weeks, she would need a lot of money, time to travel, and to find a doctor willing to perform the abortion.

She is fast running out of time for that to even be an option at all.

They can do prenatal paternity tests if she is so inclined. However, I think it may already be too late for her to seek an abortion anyway so she might as well suck it up, tell her boyfriend what happened and that she doubts he is the father. I don't see any other way for her.

Meandering Away

replied on October 2nd, 2006

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cherry88 wrote:

gotta say beck, your mate is only thinking about herself. She cant keep chopping and changing her mind. Shes obviously confused and needs to decide soon, or seek professional help. None of us can decide for her. Its her life, so she needs to live it. And as for this whole ''white baby'' shite- well im gonna leave that alone. Cause thats the most bollocks ive probibly heard in my life. Whats she scared of? Shes white! Rolling Eyes

can you read fool, she has a black boyfriend, did you actually learn anything at your special school, black father, white mother = mixed race child.White father, white mother = white child, damn these illiterate children the education system must of gone bad since my kids were at school.

cherry88

replied on October 2nd, 2006

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cowboys wrote:

cherry88 wrote:

get out of here sicko. Considering your 70 years old your kidsn went to school a loooonnnnng time ago.

So I mis-sread so what.

Meandering Away

replied on October 2nd, 2006

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cherry88 wrote:

cowboys wrote:

cherry88 wrote:

get out of here sicko. Considering your 70 years old your kidsn went to school a loooonnnnng time ago.

So I mis-sread so what.

then are you not just as illiterate as those you attack [ which is all you do ].

Anna_Belle

replied on October 2nd, 2006

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I can't believe what i'm reading. Someone has come on here asking for help and advice, and these are the replys she gets?

'can you read fool'??? Not very friendly if you ask me Rolling Eyes

cherry88

replied on October 2nd, 2006

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anna_belle wrote:

i can't believe what i'm reading. Someone has come on here asking for help and advice, and these are the replys she gets?

'can you read fool'??? Not very friendly if you ask me Rolling Eyes

exactly. You cant escape the anti-women pro-lifers. Theyre everywhere like a fucking virus. Just ignore him. He will go away.

diamond splinter

replied on October 2nd, 2006

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cherry88 wrote:

anna_belle wrote:

i can't believe what i'm reading. Someone has come on here asking for help and advice, and these are the replys she gets?

'can you read fool'??? Not very friendly if you ask me Rolling Eyes

exactly. You cant escape the anti-women pro-lifers. Theyre everywhere like a fucking virus. Just ignore him. He will go away.

just pass the blame and don't blame me ehh

diamondsz

replied on October 2nd, 2006

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cherry88 wrote:

anna_belle wrote:

i can't believe what i'm reading. Someone has come on here asking for help and advice, and these are the replys she gets?

'can you read fool'??? Not very friendly if you ask me Rolling Eyes

exactly. You cant escape the anti-women pro-lifers. Theyre everywhere like a fucking virus. Just ignore him. He will go away.

i would say your anti-rights

pro-life has just as much right here as we do

second off we dont agree with their views vice versa get used to it, they have a right to an opinion as we do so if your pro-choice then support their choose to think that way..

I left a post regarding this in the abortion debate beck

cherry88

replied on October 2nd, 2006

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At the end of the day if your not pro-choice then leave.

Diamond I am not anti-rights I do agree with some pro-life things. But not many. Just cause I dont write that I agree with them doesnt mean I dont.

In fact I dont really write much cause when I do, it gets turned into a massive slagging match started by pro-lifers like cowboys and diamond splinter.

diamondsz

replied on October 2nd, 2006

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cherry88 wrote:

at the end of the day if your not pro-choice then leave.

Diamond I am not anti-rights I do agree with some pro-life things. But not many. Just cause I dont write that I agree with them doesnt mean I dont.

In fact I dont really write much cause when I do, it gets turned into a massive slagging match started by pro-lifers like cowboys and diamond splinter.

why should they leave when they have rights as well, you need to understand that even if you think you are right they/you will need to learn that but dont worry it comes with time, everday I learn something new.

cherry88

replied on October 2nd, 2006

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diamondsz wrote:

cherry88 wrote:

this is an abortion support forum. So its not me who needs to learn anything. If your not offering support then as tazzy has said before to those two many times nicely. Leave. They know it. I know it. Now you know it Smile

Jules

replied on October 2nd, 2006

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I don't see why pro-lifers should have to 'leave' this board. As long as they are not being argumentative and imflammatory then I think their opinions and advice is just as useful as a pro-choicer's (to whom the same rules apply). Obviously, if someone is writing to say they are certain they want an abortion and want to know about procedures and stuff then it would be inappropraite for a pro-lifer to tell that person that they are evil and wrong etc.

However, if someone wants advice about what to do in their circumstances of, for example, an unwanted pregnancy, then a pro-lifer has as much right as a pro-choicer to respond on this board.

Everyone just needs to respect each other's opinions, not stoop to childish name-calling and most of all, be supportive and helpful to the original poster.

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