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Q: My Bro Is Screwed

asked by: diamondsz on September 30th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

Well my bro and I had a chat tonight, him and his girlfriend have hit a wall, his girlfriend wants to get married to him asap and he doesnt as he isnt mature enough, well he still lives at home,goes to school and works part time.

The thing is I have this odd feeling his girlfriend might be pregnant cause she has been all god loving lately and she has been saying she wants to get married before the end of the year. She is a nice girl and I told my brother to compromise with her maybe get engaged first and then get married, do you think this girl is trying to pull a fast one on him"?

I told my brother to talk to her and mention the real facts of life, like they should have a full time job and a place to live as being married and living with mom and dad is kinda low(depending on the sitiuation.)

personally I am hard on my family, I believe if you an adult and can get pregnant or be married you should have the finances available as well as a place to live. I told him to ask her if her parents were paying for the wedding or not, what will happen if shes pregnant.

My brother is 18 and his girlfriend jsut turned 18, my brother just started college this year for social sciences and she is getting her last credit at adult ed as she was home schooled need some advice!

Replies(7)

ANGELOS MAMA

replied on September 30th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

Probably she is pregnant.

Cambion

replied on October 1st, 2006

Active User, very eHealthy

If he's mature enough to risk knocking the girl up before he heads off to college, then he should be mature enough to handle the consequences of his actions. If he can't, then he can give the child away - just because they're going to be married doesn't mean they need to keep a child they may not be able to support or have the time to properly care for (not saying this is the case, but if both parents are in college, they won't have all the time in the world for junior/princess).

He graduated high school, so he must have some kind of a mind. Tell him to use it. How will your parents feel about a baby being in the house? How will your brother feel working full time to support his child? That is, if he doesn't mooch money off his parents. I would advise you to simply have him think about how life will be with a baby - make him babysit some infants if need be. Remind it's not all kodak moments. No need to talk him out of being a father, but make sure he knows it's no bowl of cherries.

arcadia

replied on October 1st, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

Traditionally, the parents of the bride &groom help with the cost of the wedding.

michelle1981

replied on October 1st, 2006

Supporter

Brian & I paid for our own wedding completely.

Which brother is this .Jess?

AyaMiyaki

replied on October 1st, 2006

Especially eHealthy

How long have they been together? I personally think 18 is a bit on the young side for marriage, but if they've been together long enough to know they're suited for each other then maybe it will be a successful union. I was in a serious relationship with a guy starting just before my senior year of high school, and we've been together for 8 1/2 years now. But we waited until we were 23 and 25 before finally getting married, because we wanted to really take our time and make sure we really wanted this.

As far as a possible pregnancy, I would be very worried if she were trying to get him to marry her without telling him she was. Marriage is based on communication, honesty, and trust. It's not a great idea to start things off with keeping secrets. I would flat-out ask her if she was if I were you, and tell her your brother deserves the truth before he decides to commit himself to her.

For their sake, I hope she isn't pregnant. I hope your brother can finish college without the worries of being a young father. It would be nice if he had solid ground under his feet before starting a family, but either way, I wish him and his girlfriend the best and hope they find their way through this situation.

Jules

replied on October 1st, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

Perhaps she isn't pregnant yet but wants to be? She could be testing the water to see if your brother will commit to her because she is getting broody.

diamondsz

replied on October 1st, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

I dont know gals, my brother has been with her for 8 months, now because I got married to abel after being with him for a year and some she thinks my brother is the same im assuming.

Second off, my family isnt very traditional, they paid 85% of my wedding, my brother is ready for marriage but would be willing to compromise 50/50.

Purest, that is what im wondering if she is testing the waters I hope not cause its not funny, plus I told someone at work I felt someone close was pregnant and we both agree we think something is going and my bro wont say yes or no. Oh well im not the one suffering but mom and dad expect so much of him, they think im a screw up, which is unny cause I make more money than they do but they think he will be the next primeminister lol!

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