Yes every woman and man has the right ti greive the death of their baby be it by choice or spontanious it is still the death of their child and greiving is part of the bodies way of handling death

Of course they have the right to grieve - if they didn't, that would be like telling someone who chose to have their pet euthanized (for whatever reasons) that they couldn't grieve because they chose to have the animal put down. Some women feel something like post-partum depression after an abortion, even if they're totally thrilled to be rid of the fetus they didn't want. A lot of these women think about the "what if" factors, like what would it be like if they kept their child? And they probably get told by at least one relative/friend/acquaintance that what they did was evil or immoral, or it was homicide, and this doesn't exactly make the woman feel better, and through a series of thoughts, the woman may develop a sense of regret, which leads her to carrying around ultrasound pictures in her purse, having a fake birth certificate made for the child, keeping the fetus next to her bed in a jar of formaldehyde, et cetera.

Despite feelings of sadness or guilt post-abortion, most women will admit at some point after the procedure that what they felt the most was relief. If they feel so awful about the choice they made, they have no one to blame but themselves because the choice was theirs an no one else's. Bed, made, lie...And then they move on.

It sounds like a pro-lifer idea, that women who abort shouldn't be allowed to grieve. Just one more right they want to take away. The extremists, that is. Not all of them are crazy, just some of them.

.I know what you are saying, .Cambion, but the difference between putting a much loved pet to sleep and abortion for 'social' (i hate that term but not sure how else to put it succinctly) reasons it that the animal has been put out of its misery because of illness etc whereas the baby has been terminated because it was just not wanted. I realise many animals are put to sleep for the exact same reason but that is also an issue of contention.

I'm not saying that I believe that women who abort have no right to grieve because emotions are something we all have and have a right to have. Humans are not robots (ust in case anyone didn't realise!).

However, before I researched the subject more, I simply assumed that women who aborted did not grieve their loss because it was self-inflicted.

social abortions are rarely that straight forward and, from my own experience and knowing many others who have aborted 'socially' it's a very complex decision.

Yes women who abort have the ''right'' to grieve. At the end of the day, no matter who aggree's or dissagree's with a woman who had an abortion. It was still her baby, and she can grieve over it if she needs to. And as long as nessisary. Im guessing purest green you are pro-life. I'll tell you this for nothing. Having an abortion isnt like a fair-ground ride. You dont: go on-get what you pay for-then leave. Its alot more emotional than that. Remember some of us cant control how we feel towards something. Let it be abortion or depression. Thats the wonders of the human body.
So it doesnt matter if the woman chose to have her abortion or not, its about the fact that her child is gone now. Like I said everyone is different. Some women are glad, some women are pushed into it e.T.C. So you cant just push all women who have had abortions into one catagory. As some are relieved at the end and some are completely heart-broken. Bit of a silly question if you ask me.

and yet you responded. The question was designed to get a discussion flowing. Your input is appreciated but if you think the subject matter is 'silly' then just don't bother to respond.

As for you assumption that I am pro-life, I can see why you would assume that but I don't think I fall into either the pro-choice or the pro-life category fully. I personally would not have an abortion unless it was for medical reasons eg/ the baby would not survive or would have no quality of life if born. I do however believe every woman has a choice to do with her body as she pleases; doesn't mean I have to like her choice!

indeed I did, because it's not just you and me on this website is it. I was sharing my views to everyone not just you. And it wasnt meant to be mean.

Noone that I know of wakes up and says I would love to go and have an abortion today, sometimes even when it is necessary, which alot of the time it is and even when it is totally necessary it is still not an easy decision! We have that right to cry or do whatever it takes to get over our situation and generally it is not forgotten but is generally forgiven because we realize in the situations that things are better off that way, their are times it can be like crying over a m/c, the fetus or baby is dead and must be removed where a m/c extracts itself. It is o.K. To cry or do whatever you wish to do. It is their choice. It is a part of healing and letting go.