Dear all:

i have been seeing this guy for over a year. We got along quite well and I really think that he is the right one. He is 32 and I am 28. We have reached the point where we are financially and mentally prepare for the next stage of life. Recently he has proposed to me, but I am really not sure what to do because..

My guy has premature ejaculation. This issue has been bothering us since early stage of relationship. We do not stay together, and I am his first sexual partner. Occasionally we tried to get intimate at my place or where we were away for holiday. He always ejaculated early before "entering". Needless to say it was very frustrating.

However i've always give him a smiling face, telling him never mind, and calm him down. I knew it is not something he wanted and thus I really take care of his feelings. I gentled suggested that we went to see doc but he said he would see what he can do before goin to the doc. He tried some self-help methods( like taking nutritional supplements and start-stop method) but it didn't help. The problem is still there.

Now he has proposed, I really do not know wat to do. Yeah I love him and really think that he is the one for me. However I do not believe in marriage without sex. If this problem persists I do not see that our marriage will work out. I knew this because at times I am really depressed as my needs are not fulfilled. He is not too keen in seeking a solution either. As mentioned, I love him, the last thing I want to do is to upset him and force him to do something he does not want to.

Please help!! :(