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Q: Teenage Mum
asked by: sharonm on September 17th, 2006
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I dont know if you get a lot of messages from mums of teenage girls who are pregnant but we need help.........My daughter who is two weeks away from her 15th birthday told me two days ago that she is 8 weeks pregnant and she wants to keep it we are still in shock I need advice on were to go for financial help the father of the baby is only 16 and cant support her I am the only wage earner in my household so I need help and fast.Just to let you know I have 7 children myself 4 including my daughter still live at home
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Makoto
replied on September 17th, 2006
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Was your first child a teen pregnacy as well? You have seven children, how did that happen? I wonder did you alread set a pattern for your children to follow? Maybe you should take steps to make sure your other children do not do the same.

I think for the sake of your other kids you need to tell or teach your kids about teen pregnacy and how to avoid it.

You daughter is going to have to get a part time job, or for the family excell at school. Plus she is going to have to look after her child. Even though she is a child, she has to grow up and take care of a life she is creating now.

Mr16 year old as well, better get out there and sell newspapers or something for his child and help support. If he will not, you can sue his parents for some kind of support I would say. He is a minor.

You do not have to pay for the whole thing, his parents, plus 16yearold himself should provide whatever support they can.
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littlesqueaks
replied on September 18th, 2006
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Sorry but she may be going to be a mother but that does not make her an adult. I was a young teenager myself when I became pregnant with my first son but I also knew responsibilty of raising a child. Is her education done, does she have a full time job, is the father a type of guy that is going to be around forever and is the child going to be brought up in a stable home. All these questions I answered myself with no help from anyone and my answers were no as a teenager you hardley have time to take care of your self. So really "mom" who is going to be raising this child. To give a child the care they need some of the things listed above need to be there and if there not the child is going to suffer from it maybe not now but maybe in the long run. I chose to place my child under adoption 11 years ago and I know that he is in a home that will provide what is needed for him. I don't regret my decission at all because I knew the responsiblity of raising a child is more than just playing with dolls!!!!!! She needs to finish her "childhood" before raising one of her own she should weight her options before making such a decision and you as her mother need to place them in front of her unless you want to raise an 8th child.
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Melissa_20
replied on September 20th, 2006
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heathercarl wrote:
I chose to place my child under adoption 11 years ago and I know that he is in a home that will provide what is needed for him. I don't regret my decission at all because I knew the responsiblity of raising a child is more than just playing with dolls!!!!!! She needs to finish her "childhood" before raising one of her own she should weight her options before making such a decision and you as her mother need to place them in front of her unless you want to raise an 8th child.


i agree.She needs to know her options.Kids don't relize how big of a responsibility babies are and they think it will be wasy,especially with mom ther eto do everything for her.Is your pocketbook large enough to support all those children?I suggest you go talk to the boys parents and if they do not intend to help you out I would go for adoption
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