I Think My Mommy Is Sick.... Posted: 01-23-04 21:59pm
Hi, I think my mom may be suffering from
a type of mental illness. She is always
very unhappy and is always yelling at me
and my siblings. Don't get me wrong, we
do deserve to get yelled at from time to
time but this is more than nessecary.
Just an hour or so ago, she hit me for not
doing the dishes right...
She has had a past of depression and an
anger problem, but her mood swings are
very irregular and I can't help but think
there is something wrong. It 's been
this way for years and I am so young that
I feel like I have no choice but to sit
back and do nothing. I honestly feel that
she may do harm to us or herself because
she also drinks a lot. I need help trying
to diagnose my mom and see if there may be
a problem. My sister has spoken to her
about medication but she refuses to even
speak of going to a doctor to make sure
she really is ok. What am I to do? I'm
only 14!!
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purple333
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Dec 2003 Posts: 1420 Location: Sydney
Posted: 01-24-04 04:15am
Hi,
i am a 48 year old mother of 2 (son - my
"wild thing" currently sulking during his
9th birthday party!! & daughter 15).
I don't drink but have suffered
depression, anxiety, ocd etc etc for many
years & I have at times yelled
unfairly at my kids & with my son a
couple of times I have picked him up by
his shirt collar & shaken him in
frustration & anger.
Why, am I telling you this?? Simple, I
realized that I needed help, it was hard
to find I have been to several different
drs, counsellors etc before finding
someone to (i hope, the journey comtinues)
help me, but throughout I have taken meds,
gone to therapy sessions etc as suggested.
So from what you say your mum definitely
does need help!! Since you say mom not
mum I guess you're in canada or usa &
I don't know much about the laws there,
also you don't mention the ages of your
siblings(?) but since you don't mention a
father I assume he's not around(?)
is there any family member who could look
after you? Because, you need to seek out
the dr &/or a welfare officer to
ensure that your mum gets help, before she
hurts one of you so badly that, well I
think you know how bad, bad can be. But
if someone comes to help your mum then
there has to be someone to look after you
& your siblings & if there's no
family member then you will be placed in
foster care (i was a child welfare officer
& I wouldn't wish that on you) but it
may be the lesser of two evils.
Depending exactly how much your mum drinks
her problem may be largely alcohol related
but if the mood swings etc started first
then depression &/or mental illness
the two are different but can appear
together & with alcoholism. If your
mum is 40+ then she may also be suffering
early menopause??
When you were a baby you weren't able to
decide if you needed medical help so your
mum made that decision, I know you're too
young for this but sometimes we don't get
a choice & maybe you(or an older
sibling) need to make the decision for
your mum since she's not able to decide
for herself because she's not well
enough.
Take care & pm me if you want.
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Guest
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Re: I Think My Mommy Is Sick.... Posted: 01-24-04 09:11am
[quote="14goingonmommy"]hi, I think my
mom may be suffering from a type of mental
illness. She is always very unhappy and
is always yelling at me and my siblings.
Don't get me wrong, we do deserve to get
yelled at from time to time but this is
more than nessecary. Just an hour or so
ago, she hit me for not doing the dishes
right...
Hi,i at your same age went threw the same
thing and my mother turned very abusive
but it was my father that drank.If she
didn't abuse us during the day my father
did at night.We didn't know why we have
grown up in a terrible life.
But like you we didn't know what to do.Is
your dad around?
Is there a counsler in school you can talk
with that can stand by you and help your
family?
Too this day my mother is the same~my
father still drinking they are divorced
and care very little about us.She has
never gotten the help I know now she
should of been on hormones it really got
bad the older we got!!!
Social services around here didn't do
much.But with the aide for a school
counsler they can really help you to get
help for your mother and help you to take
steps to also be better. The burden for
you and ur siblings is great!!!
My mother did and still has awful mood
swings they change by the second.The only
difference now~~~she can't beat me and
when she starts yelling I can leave or
hang up.It is no life and for her she is
in constant turmoil. As iam sure your mom
is.And if your sis has already tried to
talk to her you need more help. Is there
any other family members that can help??
We didn't have any.
And now my sis is the same way! Angry all
the time.
I hope if you have a counsler you go to
one in our school they come on certian
days some big schools there is one all the
time.
I hope it helps.
I will be thinking of you and ur family
please let me know how you are doing.
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brdlygirl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Aug 2003 Posts: 9
I Was 12 Going On 40 Posted: 03-14-04 17:20pm
I know what you mean kid. My father is
an alcoholic as well as my mother (as I
suspect yours is) but I have always felt
that there was something else behind her
angry rants. In the end I was left to
raise my sister who was three years
younger than me. What can you do about
it? Well I would suggest talking to a
school counselor about it as others have.
But also a father, or if you do not have
one around, someone who has often
witnessed your mother like this and you
are close to who is an adult. They may
be able to give you more insight. Also
if the abuse continues you can always call
the police who will call dcfs this will
either get you into a relatives house or a
foster family and your mother would
probably have to get counseling to get you
back. Also, you can wait til you are
older and if you can not stand living
there and feel that you can support
yourself declare emancipation, which means
you could be an adult at the age of 16,
15, 17, whatever. I relied on my friend
to get me out. Was over at their houses
alot to hide away til I got to college,
but hun the scars she left on you will
never fade.
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jules32
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Mar 2004 Posts: 17
I Think My Mommy Is Sick.... Posted: 03-26-04 10:27am
Hey im 14! My mother I think has problems
too it seems to be that she never pays
attention to me and yells constently at me
and favors my older sister to death!
Sometimes I just go in my room and cry and
cant stop. My friends think im nutts b/c
whenever they come around she is the
sweetest thing and is so nice but the
second they leave it turns into hell! My
only real get away is school b.C she cant
come there and start yelling for no reason
b.C peeps would get suspiciouse! I say
stuff to my sister sometimes and she just
goes and tells my mom and then I get
yelled at more they both r in complete
denial! Its horrible day and night! One
time I was so upset with everything that
had been goin on in my life I was goin to
kill myself but thanks for my gaurdian
angle (my best friend in the whole world)
talked me out of it without knowing! Ive
tryed running away but when I come home
its to much. We have an exchange student
living with us this year and things r
somewut better but she went away on an
exchange week and I spent my whole week at
my second moms house. (shes not really
but she might as well be shes more of a
mom to me then my real one she calls me
her daughter and everything but its not a
true mother daughter thing! I wish it
were I would gladly go live with her) b.C
I couldnt take the screaming and yellin
over nothing my moms sister knows wut is
goin on and so does my dad but he thinks
things will get better. (i hope so) but I
dont have much hope b.C its been this way
since I was born I guess she never loved
me as much as my sis! my mom
also yells at me if I do the dishes,
laundry, vacummin, ect wrong and then
makes me redo them she is very ungreatful
for most things I do! So if u ever need
someone to talk to bout this just keep
posting ill try to keep in touch with u!
Also some peeps say its a stage that girls
go through sayin their mom dosent love
them and stuff but its deffinatly not for
me I dont care wut anyone says u dont live
my life so u wouldnt know!
I hope things get better with u and ur
mom!!!
sry its so long but I feel the same way!
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kellie0330
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jul 2004 Posts: 17 Location: ruston, la
Posted: 07-04-04 10:18am
Sweetie, talk to someone. What your mom
is doing to you and your siblings is not
only un fair, it is wrong anddangerous.
Don't put it off, it is easy to set back
and not do anything, but if the anger gets
worse, you or one of your siblings could
get hurt very bad if you survive it.
I have been treated for a mental illness
for years, the main thing I would talk to
my doctor was that I would lash out at my
babies. I never hit them, but the words I
would say to them could of damanged them
in the long run just as bad. I am better
now, thanks to my doctors, and I can enjoy
life...And my family.
I am not an alcoholic, but my abusive
ex-husband ws. I feared for my life, one
hit leads to another. And it did in my
case. Baby, you are so young and it kills
me to know you are going through this.
You shouldnt have to be the adult here,
but you may have to be to give your mommy
the chance to get better so she can be.
Keep your chin up, and no matter how hard
it is to turn your mommy in, this may be
the road you need to take so you and your
siblings wont have to suffer anymore. She
can get better, just not on her own
my mom
also yells at me if I do the dishes,
laundry, vacummin, ect wrong and then
makes me redo them she is very ungreatful
for most things I do! So if u ever need
someone to talk to bout this just keep
posting ill try to keep in touch with u!
Also some peeps say its a stage that girls
go through sayin their mom dosent love
them and stuff but its deffinatly not for
me I dont care wut anyone says u dont live
my life so u wouldnt know!
sry its so long but I feel the same way!