Hi vickie,
i'm sorry to read that you are having so many problems. I have had tmj for 26 years and my eyes are also sensitive to light and burn quite frequently (they are right now). It took me years of seeing doctors, etc., before I realized that everything going on in my head is because of tmj.
Unfortunately, tmj can be very difficult to get treat properly. It is possible, but you have to find the right tmj specialist (usually a dentist) and that almost seems to be the most difficult part of treating tmj.
The easy scenario would be that your bite is off just a little bit and you are grinding your teeth at night because of stress or really any reason. This situation puts strain on any/all the muscles, tendons, cartilage, etc., in the area around the temporal mandibular joint(s). Our tm joints must work well together (or balanced) usually in order for the mouth system to work properly. It can just be one little part of a tooth that is throwing everything off. So, your first step would be to see a good dentist who specializes in tmj.
Usually before I recommend that appointment though, I highly urge you to educate yourself as much as possible by going to support groups, message boards and general internet surfing. There is a lot of information on the internet (i wish it had existed when I really needed it), but be careful to not compare your situation to someone else's. Sad to say, tmj is so very different for each of us (but sometimes so alike). What may work for me, might not work for you.
I can tell you here and now the basic instructions that most new tmj patients are usually told to help themselves -
1. Use lots of moist heat and/or ice
2. Eat only soft or liquid foods for some weeks. Stop all gum chewing.
3. Do not open your mouth wide for any reason (yawning). Be gentle to your muscles, etc.
4. See if the dentist or your doctor will prescribe either valium or xanax to take at night for a few weeks. Good sleep is essential.
5. Ibuprofen tends to be the most effective pain killer (600 to 800 mg)
6. Evaluate your posture. How you are sitting at a computer or a desk can play a very large role on the stress put on the tmjoint. Go to nismat.Org (physical therapy, tmj) for some pictures of posture problems and some good exercises to do, etc.
7. Reduce your stress anyway possible (yoga, exercise, massage).
8. If above doesn't work - ask your doctor to refer you to physical therapy with a tmj-trained therapist.
9. Bite splints (but I must make this comment that bite splints are only as good as the bite splint maker. A good bite splint maker is worth his/her weight in gold).
10. No surgery. No surgery ever. Never.
I hope the information here can help you. I will pray that you find the right tmj specialist and he/she can help you.
Take care and god bless...
Carol