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September 14th, 2006
Hey folks, I need some advice from you all, so please hear my story. I am an 18 year old guy from england who has met online a girl that lives in new york, we have extremely strong feelings for each other, and I feel like she is the perfect one I want to share my life with, id strive like hell to have her. So I plan on visiting her next summer, I should be 19 by then, I asked around to a few of my friends asking if they would come but each replied ''i dont know, it depends if I have the money'', I am willing to go there on my own though, but I know my parents would be weird with that. I cant just tell them I am meeting up with someone ive met online because well, they will be all paranoid about it and most likely will not let me go, I dont want to risk that. Ive never done anything like this before in my life but I desire too, its going to cost me a hell of a lot and I hear you have to book these things well in advance and I dont have all the money yet. Also, does anyone have any advice on the travelling side of things, I know your gonna be thinking ''this guy doesnt have a clue how to get this organised, he has no chance'' but I really want to be with this girl and as crazy as it sounds, I am willing to do this. Thanks for reading.
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MissAdvice
replied October 6th, 2006
I think that you need to be careful in this situation. For all you know, this girl could be a 40 year old man. I suggest meeting in an extremely public area - where a lot of people are around.

I understand that you feel that you and this girl are 'meant to be'. Online relationships can lead to this, as most people feel comfortable speaking to a person that they don't truly 'know' yet. If it works out for you, then congratulations - you are a lucky guy. However, I would be wary. Sometimes online relationships are merely a facade, as many emotions and thoughts can get lost in transalation through the internet.

Make your trip to new york one that isn't just about meeting this girl. If things don't work out you don't want to feel as if you've wasted your hard earned money on something that was never meant to be. Schedule time to see the sights, go shopping and dining - as new york is a great city.

As far as money is concerned, book in advance to insure a cheap flight. Don't travel during the holidays or any other time that demand for flights may be high - this increases the price. Look into staying at a hostel as opposed to a hotel - there are many websites that can lead you to these. Also, hostels host many a foreign travelers, so who knows, maybe you'll meet a touring companion!
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bhabe
replied November 12th, 2006
19 yrs old ? Too young to consider a serious relastion. Finish your studies first then get a job....Take time to find a good girl that you want to involved with....
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