I def. Can relate with you on this one. Especially after I had our daughter. It was like thank you but I dont need you anymore. That is the way I feel at times.

Thats how I feel.

It does happen or your relationship goes downhill for abit, kids put alot of stress on a relationship and you have to remeber when you have a kid the attention will be directed more to the kids during their waking hours.


The only advice I have is be patient, your relationship will start to improve, I wont lie it took a few months for mine to improve but it does work and then your learn how to work as a family unit. Once a child enters your life its all a balancing act, relationship,emotional, work, school etc.


You have us so vent but it does get better just be strong

Awww hun I feel for you.. I have a feeling my boyfriend will be the same when our daughter is born. It's the "daddy's little girl" thing I think.


I hope things get better for you soon!

Im scared I will feel like that everyone is just giving the baby attention and we wont me and max wont be that close anymore

Unfortunatly when you have a baby, your life becomes all about the baby. My mother doesn't ask how I am doing anymore, neither does my sister, nor the people at work. It's always 'hows the baby' but it doesn't really bother me because that is what my life has turned into. I don't have my husband anymore so I don't have the 'relationship issues' but I am glad to have my little one because it takes away some of the pain of loosing him. You know? I am sure it will get better for you. It's something 'new' and once motherhood and fatherhood sets in you guys will get back on track.

Well me and marc "my bf" are goin out for a meal and to the cinema tomorrow and the baby is goin to my mums I had a small talk with him last nite and says we need to make time for us too or we'll just fall out all the time like we have been doing im realy moody just now and feel like im being a nasty mother becuase everyone is pickin her up and its me that has to deal with her when she wants lifted and everyone is away shes gettin spoiled and I dont want that. Its horrible I feel like me and teegan arent bonding :( also my mum is realy pushin in :| its driving me mad its like teegan is my sister rather than my little girl my mum comes in and takes her off me to feed her and I feel like I cant go "what r u doin?" im gona go mad! Its so horrible :( I love teegan with all my heart and I just want me teegan and marc to b a family without anyone butting in!!

Phew girl I am really sorry your having a rough time. I know that when people come over to my home and they want to do something with the baby or something I ask them not to if I really don't want her to be held or picked up or fed or what ever the reason. But I guess its different when you live with those people.

I dont' know how you can leave your skoot at 5 days old.....I can't hardly leave her now and she is 8 weeks old. I only spent 20 mins away from her while I ran to the store and I thought I was going to die. I can't believe that I am back to work now and I only see her when I go down to feed her. I am glad that I am still feedign her though.

I so dont wanna leave her but I think me and marc need a bita time to talk and just cyuddle hes neva nar me he sleeps at the bottom of the bed to be near teegan I no all al do is miss her but I tihink if we dont have a bit of time together without teegan al find it eaier to talk to him,

Your not over reacting.Its just how it is.Tell him you need him sometimes.Its not stupid its normal! When the baby is sleeping its the perfect time!

I'll tell you something.

My experience.... As my son got older, the easier it was to have a relationship. I work a lot and attend school, my husband works a lot aswell and we always find ways to cuddle when the baby is sleeping. Things like going out to eat and such the baby usually comes with us. He's a really good baby too so that probably makes things a lot easier on us.

But I promise, it gets so much easier when they get older. Things may seem so crappy right now but if you just make it through this rough time things will eventually get better with time.

My husband and I also do things as a team. When the baby needs changed, we both go upstairs and do it as a team (unless hes at work) we give him a bath together and I think being a team when you have a baby makes a relationship a lot closer, so no one feels left out of anything.

I'm just rambling but I hope I helped anyways lol.