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Q: Told My 'rents
asked by: IoannI on September 12th, 2006
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Well me and my girl told our parents. They didnt take it as well as we thought they would. There was alot of yelling at us. We got the typical "how could you do this" "why did you do it" "where did we go wrong raising you" the whole nine yards.
We basically explained that it was a mistake having sex in the first place and not being so careful. But now its time to take responsibility for our actions.
Then we told them we have it all figured out. They threw at us "what do you have figured out, you have nothing figured out". We explained to them that first of all my girlfriend is keeping the baby and that we will be moving in together, raise the baby. That first we are going to move into the basement for a bit then after we have enough money find out own place.
"what are you going to do for work" was another thing they said to us. I explained I am still going to go into djing and get another job so I have a fixed income comming in every week, untill the djing thing works out and I am busy almost every weekend.
My girlfriends parents are like "are you going to get married", we told them not right away.
In the end they were taking it better then what we thought they would. Now my sister was like "cool" throughout the whole time she found it nice to have a baby in the family but I guess it's cause she is till very young (10 years old). I would like to say thank you for every one who gave me advice.
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michelle1981
replied on September 12th, 2006
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They may except it more once they get over the initial shock.

You'll be ok! Good luck!
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IoannI
replied on September 12th, 2006
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Thanx.
Well I hope they except it more, I want them to accept it how my little sister has excepted it.

michelle1981 wrote:
they may except it more once they get over the initial shock.


You'll be ok! Good luck!
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JennyJ
replied on September 12th, 2006
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I'm sure they will. Just give it some time. Your parents are just still in a state of shock but they will love your baby so much before long. A friend of mine got pregnant when we were in high school (she was 16 when she had her son). Her parents flipped out when she told them and her dad wouldn't hardly even speak to her for months. When she got married to the baby's dad and moved out of the house 2 years later her dad cried! He missed his grandson and didn't want them to leave.
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~*~Jillian~*~
replied on September 12th, 2006
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ioanni wrote:
thanx.

Well I hope they except it more, I want them to accept it how my little sister has excepted it.


michelle1981 wrote:
they may except it more once they get over the initial shock.



You'll be ok! Good luck!


well your parents are your parents ..They are grown adults and know right from wrong..And in their eyes you and your girlfriend done alot wrong..I know that right now you and your girlfriend are wanting them to be as excited as you two are..But it takes time..They have alot more to worry about..They know what its like to have children and with you two being so young thats more weight on them..You will one day understand why they are saying the things they are..Just remember not to argue with them and just listen...You little sister is very young ..She is excited yeah..What little girl wouldnt be..I loved playing with babys at that age..But I just have to say congrats and good luck..
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Emma2
replied on September 13th, 2006
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ioanni wrote:
thanx.

Well I hope they except it more, I want them to accept it how my little sister has excepted it.


michelle1981 wrote:
they may except it more once they get over the initial shock.



You'll be ok! Good luck!


ok sorry to be really upfront here but your comparing a 10 yrs old who thinks babies are dolls to adults....Your parents reaction is quite normal under the circumstances...You are young and having a baby will change your life forever and force you to grow up ...You did the right thing by being honest but now youre gonna have to accept lots of criticism and judments by all sorts of people...Price that comes with being this young and irresponsible....Everyone will eventually get over it though...Good luck
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IoannI
replied on September 13th, 2006
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Thanx everyone and if any one has any more advice please post
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jessamyn
replied on September 13th, 2006
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Your right about getting married for a baby is not the right reason.

But be prepared to keep up on that "plan" of yours.
Save every penny you can because you'll need it even if its not buying that afternoon soda or what not.

Look into stable jobs aside from djing and show them that. Whats rent around your neighborhood?

I had already graduated when I got pregnant and my parents acted the same way dont worry. But once this becomes something real they should change their mind. (it happened with my parents around 6 months) be responsible!
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IoannI
replied on September 13th, 2006
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Im going to save every penny that I can. I already do that by buying cd's in bulk. The money it cost to buy a pack of 100 cd-s at office depot is the price I get 600 cd-r's for.
Rent varies from 500-1200 depening where you go and what kind of place you get. My friend lives in a rental unit, which his parents own he is 19 and has come back for oac(grade 13) his room cost 500.00 and he can hook me up with one of those, but that doesnt include a kitchen.
Work wise I plan to apply at this computer store thats opening up down the street from my house, it should open up within the next week or two. But like you said to look into a stable job aside from djing, and that what I plan to do, until I get a good name out there and I can do djing as a full time career in which I could bring up 1gran in one weekend.

jessamyn wrote:
your right about getting married for a baby is not the right reason.


But be prepared to keep up on that "plan" of yours.

Save every penny you can because you'll need it even if its not buying that afternoon soda or what not.

Look into stable jobs aside from djing and show them that. Whats rent around your neighborhood?


I had already graduated when I got pregnant and my parents acted the same way dont worry. But once this becomes something real they should change their mind. (it happened with my parents around 6 months) be responsible!
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