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First of all she has to go to the doctor and start her pre-natal vitamins. Also she's going to need a lot of support through the next 30 some odd weeks ahead of her....Which it sounds like you are willing. But I think the main thing right now is get to the doctor, and work on telling your parents. Since you 2 have been together so long, maybe they won't take it that bad. But who am I to say, since I don't know either of you or your families. Good luck, and good job at supporting your girlfriend

Yeah thank for the support umm do you know how we should approach our parents and tell them

Well there are a lot of ways you *could* do this, but I think you should go about it in a mature manner. I suggest setting them down (either all 4, or just one set of parents at a time, whichever you think is easiest/more comfortable for everyone) and just telling them...The flat out truth. Then give them their space to let their minds settle after the news. Try not to take it to heart if they react badly, as this is big news....Their babies are having babies (even tho you are 17, you will always be your mom/dad's baby in their eyes) usually with a little bit of time they come around and start getting excited. Keep us updated.

You can tell them in person, by a letter or by the phone. They will probibly freak at first. Some parents are calm when they find out some arent... I think if you explain your situation , it will work out for the best.... I think it helps that you 2 have been dating for so long. I had to tell my parents I was pregnant when I was 16.... We have been dating for over 3 years now... My parents took it ok... My mom freaked! But my dad was cool. We didnt end up having it :( but I think it you just talk to them and explain your situation and how you both are feeling I think you 2 will be fine. I would tell them sooner rather then later.... Your girlfriend need to go to the doctor asap!!!! Its for her health and her babies health.

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I think you should both plan out exactly what you'll say and what you plan on doing as far as monetary and living expenses and where will you all live. Make sure you dont go in there with no answers and clueless. You need to both be there and just be up front and make them understand that the decision has been made and that you would love their support and blessing. Gl

U need to prepare yourself for the worst... The obvious is going to happen... **i cant believe you two did this... You have your whole lives ahead of you.. How are you going to support this child...**

you need to prepare yourself to answer these questions without hesitation... And with heartfelt answers. (meaning you have to .M.E.A.N what you say and actually have plans on following thru with them.) that will put ur parents at ease the slightest bit, but I guarantee they're going to still be livid.

U and your girlfriend need to sit down and start planning for the future. Thats your main concern. Once u have planned out what you are going to do to support each other and this child then approach your parents.. Because if you tell them without preparing yourselves to answer their questions, you're just going to make yourselves look that much more irresponsible and unprepared. (this is a lifetime commitment.. You cant quit like basketball or biting your nails.)

Me and my girlfriend did talk about the future on what we are going to do but it wasnt really in full detail we were basically spitting out different ideas

well.. My only advice is to make sure you have everything planned out before you approach ur parents. It will make things go by much smoother if they see you were responsible enough to prepare and accept responsiblilty.

So far I figure we could live in my basement rec room, its big enought to make into 2 rooms. A bedroom and rec room. I figure we could live there since its is only used there to hang out and I have my studio set up there. Plus there is a full size bathroom, kitchen, laundry room, bar, storage/electrical room with the heater and a good size hall way in the basement. Plus I have my suv,a 1989 gmc jimmy 2 door, black clearcoat lowered 2". But I dont know do you think its a pretty good plan so far and as formy suv do you think I would need a better vehilce to my child?

As long is its safe and sound... And in good mechanical condition I think its ok. A friend of mine drives his son around in a '98 .Supra .T.T so I think a .Jimmy will suffice lol

as for living in your basement, I thinks its ok as a temporary soulution.. But you guys need to start thinking about gettign your own place sooner or later. Your parents are going to want to hear that you plan on doing things for yourselves and not living off of mom and dad. Trust me.. Ive been there.

If you dont fully prepare yourself for the pending argument, and your left there stammering and digging for explanations, you'll look horribly irresponsible. Think it allll the way thru first.

Well my gmc is good running order I use it to get me around the city, to some side djing jobs I have, take my girlfriend out and drive my sister around I take her to school and pick her up.

Living in my basement yes it would be a temorary thing. I figure I could live in my basement for a few months, untill ive made enought money to be able to find a decent place to live, and it need to be decent living wise and space wise cause I need to be able to set up my studio, the money I have now isnt going to be enough to get my own place.

You need to ask yourselves if you're actually ready for parenthood. Read parenting books, go to parenting classes, and both of you see if you can baby-sit some kids of varying ages. In keeping this child, your lives will change forever - this job you are planning on taking on requires immense patience and a lot of money, among many other things. I'm not trying to talk you out of your decision, but please keep in mind that love and a minimum-wage job at mcdonald's alone will not provide an ideal life for a child.

As far as telling the 'rents, prepare for it, because it won't be pretty. Your parents will be disappointed, frustrated, angry, and probably tell you to move out. They may or may not follow through with their threat, and I advise you to brace for a harder impact if your parents are religious and/or believe in abstinence until marriage. Also, do not go making promises to them you can't keep...For example, don't promise you'll take care of the child all on your own if you have even a tiny inkling in your mind that you'll need to borrow/take money from them at some point post-birth.

The basement room actually sounds rather nice, and believe me, you don't need to have a tank for a vehicle just because you have a child. Something that runs, preferably on little fuel, would be just fine. I advise against a gas guzzler because you'll need all the money you can get for your child, so there would be no point feeding tons of cash to a huge car when you could get one that's smaller and uses less gas.

All I can say is you've got a few months to decide on your future, and I would advise doing more than reaching for straws - in a few months, you'll have another life depending entirely upon you and your girlfriend, and this should not be taken lightly.

Whether you're ready or not, this baby is going to be born. If she's already said she wants to keep it, then respect that, &keep it. You guys will be fine. This happens everyday, unfortunately. But if you guys really work hard &know what you want out of life, &out of the future, then you'll be okay. I agree with .Sandra, though. Make d*mn sure that you have talked about everything &make sure that you already have answers for the questions that your parents are going to ask. When .I told my mom, .I already knew what .I was going to say [.I'm 19], &how .I was going to say it. She was really impressed that .I had put some thought into it, &that my boyfriend &.I were taking responsibility for our actions &planning what to do about it.


It isn't going to be easy, &they probably will be angry.
But whatever you do, stay calm &don't start yelling if they do.
Keep your cool &show them that you're ready to be an adult.


Good luck!

I believe that I am ready. I baby sit my 10 year old sister all the time. I take her to school in the morning and pick her up everyday no matter what my plans are for that day. When the weather is good I go by walk when the weather is not so great I drive down.

As for work, im not planning to go to mc donalds here in toronto they actually pay .25 cents less then minimum wage. Djing is what ive always loved to do, was and still is my choosen career. Which will bring in a good pay check every week.

As for my '89 gmc jimmy, it doesn't really cost me alot in gas, since I dont drive it all the time. Well I dont drive it alot right now since most of the day im in school. $55 of gas usually last me 2 - 3 weeks. So I think that keeping the tank would save me money on the long runm since it is in good condition and run's great.

I applaud u on wanting to be so responsible...

Thing is...

Hun after this baby is born, u wont have much time at all to do anything in your studio. Ur girl can only do so much. Some things have to put on the back burner when u have children. Thats a choice u guys made.

Im not trying to be a b***h.. Im ust trying to clue u in on reality.

And another thing.. Dont base ur decision on whether to keep it or not on what type of job u have. Mcdonalds, .Burger .King, hell even a garbage man... All are respectable jobs because of just that-- they're jobs and you may have to get a second job until the baby is born to save money.. But either way, as long as u are doing something to support your family, dont let anyone get you down by making fun of the job choices u have.

Good luck hun.. And we're all here if u wanna talk.

Thank you thank you for the applaud
umm you are right I wont have much time to work in my studio for a while at least. But its something im willing to give up, any mixing I need to do I can do it on spot. A steady job is what I think I should get untill the djing career kicks off.

dont give up your dreams.. Just dont make them a priority until you have time to do so.

Where do u live? A friend of mine does dj'ing for clubs and theme parks and such. If you have good referrals you can get jobs scratching.

I live in toronto ontario canada