I am 24. I am married. We both have well paying jobs. I should be crazy excited, but the truth is, I never even planned on having children. This is crushing to me in my job career, and just physically all in all. I dont really have a motherly instict, either. I never even babysat as a kid! My pregnancy was unplanned, I switched birth controls from ortho-tri to the nuva ring and, viola! In 3 weeks! My husband is thrilled! He loves children and I dont want to damper his happiness by showing my hesitance. I know im going to have this child, and when I saw the heartbeat, it was amazing, but my question is, does this feeling change? And, am I the only one? I feel horrible for feeling this way because I know it is a miracle. I quit smoking, eat well, and rest often. Am I ever gonna be truly and completely excited? Its difficult to keep pretending when everyone around me is so excited!!!
It is perfectly normal to feel hesitant about a pregnancy, or even to be non excited about it especially when it is unplanned and wasn't even on the drawing board yet. You will however eventually feel different even if it is later rather then sooner. Also you not being excited about it could be related to every other hormone in your body going crazy. Don't worry about it! It will pass. I know for me I felt the same way too and the farther along I went very slowly the more excited I became about it. And regardless of how you feel now, eventually you wont be able to imagine your life without your baby. Now if you do find yourself becoming depressed about it, that is something your dr will want to know cause it could be caused by all the hormone changes. Also don't worry about a "motherly instinct" you will learn what works best for your kid as time goes on just like all the rest of us. It can be overwelming but don't worry, even though you don't always hear about it, alot of women aren't thrilled about being pregnant sometime or another!!