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Q: So

asked by: ThriftyGal on September 8th, 2006

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I've decided. And i'm pretty sure i'm going to stick with it, because I feel really strongly, but i'm putting my baby up for adoption. I just thought i'ld tell you girls. I don't know how I am suppose to go about it but I suppose i'll get my dad to take me to winnipeg where i'll talk to someone at an agency, and eventually get to pick the family and meet them and stuff. Anyways, I don't feel sad really... I just started a new year at school and really clued in at how few hours there are in a day, how much I still have to do in life to become self sufficient, and how little I really have to offer. I know some other family can give her a lot more, first off, a dad also, which I can't. In a way it's comforting knowing i'll give her what she deserves by doing this, and it's stopping me from feeling depressed about it. Because it's really sad, feeling her kick, talking to her in my belly, and knowing i'll only meet her and then have to say byebye. I already feel so maternal, like when I think about her being with her adoptive parents I get worried that she won't get to drink breast milk, and that she'll sense she's with strangers and they won't be able to comfort her. But i'm seriously going to be brave and do it.

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Mabel

replied on September 8th, 2006

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Big giant (((hugs))).

If you always follow your heart, you can never go wrong.

~*~Jillian~*~

replied on September 8th, 2006

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Omg ..I actually have tears in my eyes from reading that..But I am so proud of you ..You are a very strong person!!If every teen girl that became pregnant thought the same way you do then ...The world would be a much better place..You know that we are all here to support your decision ..Your a wonderful girl and im very happy for you..If you ever need anything just pm me..I know this is going to be hard ..But you will make it through...;)

HcoBrunette06

replied on September 8th, 2006

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Aww tanya, I love you. I'm glad you're making the decision you feel is right for you :) itll be hard but you can definitely make it!

AyaMiyaki

replied on September 8th, 2006

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Bless you for making such a brave decision. Just know that you're doing what's best for you and your baby. She'll be loved and well taken care of, and what better gift to give your child than a bright and secure future? That's the mark of a true woman: putting your child's needs first, even if that means putting her in another's care.

I'm so proud of you. I know it isn't easy... Just know that we're here for you, honey.

*big hugs*

DaliciaLynn

replied on September 8th, 2006

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Wow this really shocked me!

But if you feel that it's right, then follow how you feel because following how you feel is always the right decision.

I know what your feeling right now, i've been there & done that. No one will ever know how it feels to give your own child up until youve actually done it. For me, giving up my daughter was the hardest thing i've ever had to do in my entire life. But if you only seen the life she has now, it would seriously make you cry.

You are so strong tanya, and if you ever need anyone to talk to, please send me a message, or even add me to msn.

Dalicialynn [at] hotmail [dot] com

diamondsz

replied on September 8th, 2006

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Tanya you also have another choice, I read this and was saddened like jill said

if you need help contact cas I researched it before when I got preggo, basically the can help you with your child though foster care so you can get the time to finish school, have fun but be able to be to care for your child.

Im completely pro-choice and had to mention anopther choice that you have as a canadian!!

Make the choice that you feel comfortable with but ill like you all the same!

Kia

replied on September 9th, 2006

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Fostering is quite common in the uk and can be a great stepping stone.

Zanny

replied on September 9th, 2006

Supporter

Oh .Tanya, you're so brave! I admire your decision, you're going to make some people very very happy.. Especially if they can't have a child themselves. Go you, hun =)

ThriftyGal

replied on September 9th, 2006

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Thanks girls. I've been juggling with the idea for a while now, but now I feel sure. It's just so weird, i've already talked to one couple, how do you pick that family that will have your child forever? It's such an odd process, to talk to someone, with the purpose of seeing if they are right to give your child too.

Does anyone know if erik has to sign away his rights or if he has no say in the adoption process?

DaliciaLynn

replied on September 9th, 2006

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tanyaface wrote:

thanks girls. I've been juggling with the idea for a while now, but now I feel sure. It's just so weird, i've already talked to one couple, how do you pick that family that will have your child forever? It's such an odd process, to talk to someone, with the purpose of seeing if they are right to give your child too.

Does anyone know if erik has to sign away his rights or if he has no say in the adoption process?

tanya, when you meet the right family trust me....You'll know..... It's just a feeling you have, a feeling that I can't even explain to you. It took me a really long time to find a couple that I thought would be great, a very .L.O.N.G. Time.

I'm not so sure about your other questions because cole was with me throughout the whole pregnancy, and so was miliana's new parents. Cole and I both signed papers.

alanna

replied on September 9th, 2006

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tanyaface wrote:

i'm not sure if the us is any different, but here, the father does have to sign the adoption papers.

My sister was going to give up her daughter for adoption, and when she went to dylan to have him sign the papers, he changed his mind because he didn't want to give her up.

So yeah, he does have a say in the whole process, and he'll have to sign the papers.

I hope everything works out for you!!

Kia

replied on September 10th, 2006

Supporter

He only has a say if you list him on the birth certificate as the father.

If you put father unknown on the birth cert and he challenges it, he would have to prove his parentage.

ThriftyGal

replied on September 10th, 2006

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kia_breizzze wrote:

he only has a say if you list him on the birth certificate as the father.

If you put father unknown on the birth cert and he challenges it, he would have to prove his parentage.

would the court even make that a priority though, would they actually go through the dna process and everything or would they see that he's a loser and baby is happy and just let it slip. Haha I doubt it. But I hope because I know he won't make it easy.

Becky

replied on September 10th, 2006

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I just want to say that it must be very hard for you to make the decision and I respect you as you are a stronger woman than me! But you should think about what others have said about temporary adoption/ fostering so you can get her back when you have sorted things out.

I'm sorry if you have already said but what are your main reasons for not wanting to raise her?

ThriftyGal

replied on September 10th, 2006

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beckster06 wrote:

i just want to say that it must be very hard for you to make the decision and I respect you as you are a stronger woman than me! But you should think about what others have said about temporary adoption/ fostering so you can get her back when you have sorted things out.

I'm sorry if you have already said but what are your main reasons for not wanting to raise her?

i don't like the foster idea. I want her to bond with people early and know they will always be there, I think a foster home would confuse a child. It really has nothing to do about getting her back because I could raise her now. I know I could, but I also know it's going to be at her expense. I'm going to be busy with university full time come fall. I don't want to be half a parent. And I can't give her a father. She could live in a house with two people who are ready to be parents, who can take time off instead of putting her in a daycare. Parents who aren't still kids, cause I really feel like a child still. It isn't that I don't want to raise her, I want her more than anything, she feels like a chunk of my heart. It's just I know I have the chance to give her the opportunity at a quality of life she won't have with me.

Becky

replied on September 10th, 2006

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Well I just want to say to you that I am very proud of you. You have put your daughters needs first. You would of been a good mother as many people work and have babies but I understand completely where you are coming from as this is the reason I work from home.

I wish you so much love. I really hope you don't regret your decision. Are you going to hold her when shes born or are they taking her straightaway?

ThriftyGal

replied on September 10th, 2006

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I don't even have a family picked out yet let alone the details worked out. I'm talking to a couple who are interested in an open adoption that would include letters, photos, and visits. I would still like the breast feed the first 2-3 days or however long the baby stays in the nursery.

Becky

replied on September 10th, 2006

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Are you going to actually breastfeed or express? Breastfeeding is a big bonding experience and it might make you change your mind.....

michelle1981

replied on September 10th, 2006

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I was extremely surprised to find this thread, but maybe I wasn't paying attention. Like .Ingi said, just follow your heart. It will bring you where you need to be hun!

You know everyone here adores you, and will support you no matter what you do.

Good luck .Tanya!!!

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