Joined: 05 Jan 2005 Posts: 30 Location: , Washington
I Can't Feel Pleasure Posted: 09-07-06 01:15am
I'm 17 years old now, and though I have an
entire spectrum of problems this one is
probably the worst. For as long as I can
remember, I haven't been able to get any
pleasurable feeling. My penis isn't numb
to touch, temperature, etcetera, but I
don't get any enjoyable sensation from it.
I first tried to experiment when I was
13, and I didn't think anything of the
dullness of it because, after all, I
didn't know any better. It wasn't until
I was 15 and everything pretty much went
to hell that it occured to me that this
isn't normal. The only sensation I get
is at 'orgasm', but all it is is a slight,
vaguely nice twinge. And it's sore
afterwards, too. Any ideas as to what
could have caused this would be nice.
Thanks.
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singledad
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Posted: 09-08-06 12:21pm
Got me there, sounds like nerve damage
maybe, possibly congenital - have you
talked to a doctor about it? It sounds
like you might need a referal to a
specialist.
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user112233
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Jan 2005 Posts: 30 Location: , Washington
Posted: 09-09-06 02:33am
I'll talk to a doctor when i'm on my own
insurance so I don't have to suffer the
humiliation of my parents knowing about
it. That might sound crazy, but i'm
almost certain there's nothing that can be
done about it anyway; if you could repair
nerve damage, there'd be no crippled
people, after all. And having had the
condition for 4 years at the very least, I
can't imagine it hasn't reached its final
stage, whatever the hell it is. The
only thing i've seen that resembles it at
all is as certain rare and nasty symptom
of severe diabetes. I don't have
diabetes. I've been tested. And the
symptom doesn't match exactly anyway.
And how could this condition target
pleasure nerves and only pleasure nerves?
Argh.
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singledad
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Posted: 09-09-06 16:17pm
If you've only had it for four years, it
can't be congenital, and whether it can be
repaired or not is a call only a doctor
can make - it could be a treatable
infection, maybe just a pinched nerve -
there is no telling.
I wouldn't wait, I think your parents
would rather see you healthy, and the
sooner you get it looked at, the more
likely something can be done.
All you have to tell them is that you need
to see a doctor, you don't have to go into
details with them, just tell them it's
personal.
I really don't think there's anything to
be ashamed about except perhaps suffering
for the rest of your life because you're
embarrased to tell your parents you need
to see a doctor.
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user112233
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Jan 2005 Posts: 30 Location: , Washington
Posted: 09-21-06 23:34pm
singledad
wrote:
if you've only had it for
four years, it can't be congenital, and
whether it can be repaired or not is a
call only a doctor can make - it could be
a treatable infection, maybe just a
pinched nerve - there is no telling.
All you have to tell them is that you need
to see a doctor, you don't have to go into
details with them, just tell them it's
personal.
I really don't think there's anything to
be ashamed about except perhaps suffering
for the rest of your life because you're
embarrased to tell your parents you need
to see a
doctor.
don't get me wrong here. I don't expect
you to respond to this or come up with
some miracle solution. I'm just saying.
For one thing, I don't think my parents
take me seriously any longer after my half
hearted attempt to get this taken care of
last year. I mentioned as many of the
symtoms as I felt I could, hoping that the
greater problem would either show up on
the blood panel, or that I could get a
chance to talk to a doctor alone.
Neither of these happened, to my continual
amazement. All I got out of the thing
is a ridiculous food allergy restriction
that has done exactly nothing.
And I know my parents. They're not the
most invasive parents one could have, but
they always insist on knowing everything.
If I tried to get in without saying why,
they'd insist on knowing exactly what for.
And if I mentioned something i'd
mentioned before, or something that seems
less than dire, they'll probably think i'm
a hyperchondriac. I mean, for god's
sake, I had a practical overnight
personality shift, almost no motivation to
do anything, nothing but peach fuzz at age
17, and somehow, they don't see a
problem.
The only option i'm considering at the
moment is finding a way to get a physical.
I haven't had one in years, so I need
to figure out a way to get one. I could
get into some kind of activity that
requires one, but I am direly out of shape
and I haven't done anything like it in
years, not to mention I just don't want to
endure that. If I could just get them
to want me to get one, without them
realizing it was me that planted the idea
all along, it could be done. Of course,
they'd probably come in with me.
Not that this is a valid excuse, but the
"brain fog" that comes with this makes it
all the easier to put things off.
Indefinitely.
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rotnem
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Sep 2007 Posts: 2
I Know! Posted: 09-13-07 17:26pm
I have the same problem as well. I can
feel just about anything except pleasure.
I've just turned 18 and I've had it for
years. I found out this wasn't normal when
I started going out with my girlfriend and
when I read this post last night (I
googled my situation as a joke until I
realised it wasn't a joke, then I cried
). Any
help at all would be great, please!
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user112233
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Jan 2005 Posts: 30 Location: , Washington
Posted: 09-13-07 19:47pm
I never expected to see this resurrected.
I certainly can't help you, unfortunately.
Shortly after I posted this, I made
another attempt to do something about it,
but the initial tests didn't find
anything, so my parents put me on anti
depressants and that was that. Another
try is largely out of the question, as
they no longer take me seriously, and
they're pretty sick of me, in fact. It is
possible we have something similar, but if
so, my case is either far more severe or I
have two impossibly rare disorders.
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rotnem
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Sep 2007 Posts: 2
Posted: 09-14-07 08:52am
I think we're both very similiar. I can
feel just about anything except pleasure.
It's really painful to realise that
something is wrong, and that it concerns
this. I'm going to get my parents to back
me up on this and hopefully I'll see a
doctor. Sorry to hear your on
anti-depressents, but in our situation, I
don't blame you.
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user112233
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Jan 2005 Posts: 30 Location: , Washington
Posted: 09-14-07 19:30pm
Quote:
Sorry to hear
your on anti-depressents, but in our
situation, I don't blame
you.
I've been off of them for some time,
actually. I wouldn't recommend them.
Since you clearly have the courage to deal
with your parents, you are already far
ahead of me.
And yeah, we may be similar, but I am
screwed up on a whole additional level.
Very unpleasant. That's what I mean
before, but as you said, in this part we
may have the same thing. I mean, how many
things do this?
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donb_fl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Sep 2007 Posts: 22 Location: Palm Beach, FL USA
Posted: 09-17-07 15:52pm
I hope you do relize that most
antidepressants make this condition worse,
all SSRIs make it harder to O and decrease
libido. Its time you guys got everything
checked out by a endo, peach fuzz at 17 is
indicative of delayed puberty or related
syndromes. If you don’t get this fixed
now it’s REALLY hard to when you’re
body reaches adulthood. I studied this in
school and i would say from even my
limited knowlage you need real help, not
pacafacation. And an andidepressant during
teenage years can harm your development
more, most of them lower your testrostone
level.
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user112233
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Jan 2005 Posts: 30 Location: , Washington
Posted: 09-18-07 20:40pm
donb_fl
wrote:
I hope you do relize that
most antidepressants make this condition
worse, all SSRIs make it harder to O and
decrease libido. Its time you guys got
everything checked out by a endo, peach
fuzz at 17 is indicative of delayed
puberty or related syndromes. If you
don’t get this fixed now it’s REALLY
hard to when you’re body reaches
adulthood. I studied this in school and i
would say from even my limited knowlage
you need real help, not pacafacation. And
an andidepressant during teenage years can
harm your development more, most of them
lower your testrostone
level.
I'm aware of their negative effects,
believe me. At least I was only on them
for 6 weeks. And I also know that this
will be impossible to truly fix when I'm a
complete adult, but what can I do? I'm an
adult now at 18 anyway, aren't I? It's
pretty much too late. And knowing that
doesn't help me get out of bed in the
morning, to say the least. If I had stood
up to my parents when I was still young, I
might actually have a life to look forward
to. So all I can tell anyone that has a
similar issue (or any at all really) is to
never hesitate.
). Any
help at all would be great, please! 
