Are you the one thats been taking care of her all the time?

I learned that with jace..The more I held him the worse off he was..He began to cry when I put him down..And wouldnt let others hold him....And it was killing me ..So finally I stopped holding him as much ..I would feed him and lay him down ..Or put him in his swing ..Let someone else hold him..

She is going to have to get use to it and the only way she can do that is if you allow it...You cant pick her up and hold her all the time..If she crys when someone else holds her ..Tell them to lay her down and let her cry it out...Unless she is sick or something like that..

Oni was what I called a "commiunity baby" everyone held her.

Have you tried taking her outside? That was the .O.N.L.Y thing that calmed .Oni down. I swear to .God girl!! She might just be cold from the a/c. For some reason oni can't be inside for more than 4 hours without going outside. I don't know what i'm gonna do during the winter!!!!

She's about a month and a half now huh? Girl, it'll start getting better soon. Unless she has colic.

The screaming can definately get to you, in a negative way sometimes. I would get soooo outraged, i'd just leave the room and shut the door for like 5 mins. I had to, I was here alone and I was about to explode!!!!!!

Hang in there girl!! Time will make it alll better!!

Sarah

Sounds silly but worked for me try having a baby blanket drapped on you for a day or so that way your scent is on it so next time some one else holds the lil one have them drape themselves w/it first then put baby over it that may help. Best of luck

I agree with sarah.....The more exposure the baby has to others the easier they will accept to be held and fed by almost anyone.Please dont assume I mean strangers...I mean family and freinds....

Now the 'attachment parenting' style (ie. Dr. Bill sears) would say that the baby's need to be held nearly constantly is natural and should be done as much as possible. They recommend a sling to carry the baby in a comfy, close to your body fashion that apparently does wonders for baby's developement and security.
Then there's Dr. Harvey karp (best baby on the block? Something like that) who will say that the first three month of baby's life are like an extension of the pregnancy and baby should be kept swaddled tight as a bug and they'll be happy, happy, happy!!

As you might have guessed, I don't necessarily agree with these, but to each his/her own, right? Just a few other perspectives to consider. I did the sling and found it had it's uses and it did seem to keep my babies happy and my arms free. It was pretty hard on the shoulder though. Never tried the swaddle thing though.

This too shall pass!

~prsmama

I've got that book, the best baby on the block. I liked it, but my baby didn't have all of those problems. She a .Taurus and pretty laid back!! I did use the front sling though. I liked it until my back started screaming like I was 9 months pregnant again!!!

Sarah

Aaron (my husband) is pretty old-fashioned I guess. He thinks that, because he's at work all day, he should be able to relax when he comes home and not have to worry about the baby. I had to explain to him that I *never* get a break from her, and i'm basically working a 24/7 job instead of 8-9 hours like he does, plus I do all of the housework. He's of the opinion that, since I have the boobs, I should be the one to take care of her, since (and I quote) "i can't do anything for her." just recently we've had a major blowout about this, with me basically telling him to step up and take care of his daughter. Last night was the first big experiment, and it went sooo horribly wrong.

I'm not giving up. He'll just have to take her more and more often. She refuses to drink out of a bottle, so .I'll probably have to stick around for when she's hungry, but otherwise... She's all yours, buddy!

Yeah, I really like the idea of it and i'll probably use it again for this next babe, but it did a number on my shoulder and back. I couldn't use it for more than 3-4 months. It was a lifesaver though when I was out with the other two and needed both hands to hang on to them, and a stroller was impractical. I tell ya, it's the quickest way to get 5 people in one day saying to you, "oh my, you have your hands full". (oh, just wait till i've got four!!!)

I hear what you're saying about the daddy taking control sometimes.

Baron has been great! Especially in the beginning. I would watch her all week and he would literally take over the weekends. Maybe yall can start something like that.

I'm sure it kind of upsets him that you're the only one that can actually "soothe" her. Have it be with milk or just comfort.

Have you tried the playtex drop in bottles. The nipples actually mimic the breast and it's easier for dad's to come in without baby not knowing much of a difference!!

He's probably still in "baby shock"!! The fact that there's this new life that yall are responsible for prob still buggs him out!!

You need to tell him that parenting is a partnership that yall both signed up for. It took both of yall to make her, now it's gonna take both of yall to raise her. You didn't sign up to be a "single parent" ya know?

Just try to talk to him about this and hopefully it'll work out for the best!!

Sarah