Jennyj, I agree that no information should be withheld from women seeking abortions, especially if it will be their first. It doesn't always hurt, because the woman can choose to be put under anesthesia during the prodecure - she might be achey afterward, but I digress. Fetuses look vaguely like babies until about the second trimester - until then, they look like beans with veins.
I do know what abortions entail - I have watched many abortion videos (including silentscream.Com) and read about the procedures. It's not exactly pretty (interesting to me, but not pretty), but I realize abortions can be life-savers to lots of women.
You want to hear the lies? I'll be glad to share them. Pro-lifers throw all kinds of crap to women seeking abortions, like "it hurts the fetus" - no it doesn't. Fetuses' brains aren't developed enough to register pain until the third trimester. They say abortions cause breast cancer - no they don't. There is no proof of this, not even on the american cancer society's website - I think, of all sources, they would have something if this claim was true.
They say abortion renders women infertile or sterile - no it doesn't. Childbirth and pregnancy do more damage to a woman's body than abortion does, and a woman would have a better chance of losing her fertility and childbearing abilities due to birthing a child. They say abortion is against god's will because you're 'playing god' - ivf, c-sections, surrogacy, and even popping an aspirin are all forms of playing god, yet these are deemed acceptable because they promote life rather than take it away.
All these lies they throw at people - it's so sick. The worst part is they tell their biased bulls*it to women in the support forum, and these women get misled by incorrect information. When it comes to that, it's not even about being pro-life or pro-choice - it's about telling the truth versus telling lies, and I think any woman seeking abortion deserves to know the truth about it rather than get infected with pro-life garbage.
The pro-choicers - the ones who care about the woman and her health more than the fetus' - are the real pro-lifers. The people we currently refer to as pro-lifers are merely anti-choice, anti-woman, and anti-truth. I'm not trying to bash on you, jennyj - I just wanted to support my claims. I apologize if I sounded like I was ranting/b*tching at you; I was just ranting in general, honest.