Oh huni im so sorry your feeling this way, I duno what to say :( I feel so sad for you :(! I know it must b hard to b around young children but uve gota try and think possitive I know it is very very hard but altho it hurts uv gota try and spend time with your other children just think god has blessed you with them and your lucky to have them think of some people who cant have children atall, your very lucky in that way, sorry im realy not good with words atall this may sound nasty im sorry if it does :( just b brave huni your little girl was just too good for this world!

Beck, I too am so very sorry for your loss. It broke my heart to read your post, especially the part about layla and logan. They need their mother............They will feel your emotions and as young as they are not understand, but, they will know you are sad. I understand you sending them to stay a day or two with family, but you will find isolation only makes depression worse. I feel it would make things a lot better for you tostay busy and show layla and logan as much love and attention that you can muster up. They didn't ask for this to happen either. You have a beautiful family. I wrote to you earlier and told you this after seeing photos. I am not saying to forget, but you have to focus on what you have now. Love these babies layla & logan) and your wonderful hubby as if today were your last. You are young and beautiful and one day can add again to your family. Stay strong girlfriend... I ask god to help your through this!

Maybe do something in her memory, like get her little footprints tattooed on you or something. Or make a scrap book of poems and stuff for her...
It won't take any hurt away but it will honour her and take up some time.

I'm so sorry for your loss hun... And I know nothing anyone says will help lessen your sadness, but try to remember you have two beautiful children and a husband that love you with all their hearts. I can see why being around them would be hard, but you shouldn't isolate yourself from them either. As much as it hurts, don't let yourself get in a rut, and don't let yourself get down so low you can't get up. You have suffered a terrible loss, but the last thing your baby girl would ever want would be for you to lose touch with your other children and isolate them from your life.

Although you may not have a lot of physical things to remind you of angel, you will always have the memory of her in your heart, and thats one thing you'll have forever.
I know it hurts, but don't ever forget that you have people in your life that love you and will be there for you no matter what.
I'm praying for you hun.

<3 sophie

Im so sorry beckster06. God bless you and your husband!!!! I dont know if this would be a good idea for you ,but maybe you can talk to someone to help you through this. Im so so so so so sorry. Im thinking of you and your family *

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rachel


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Hello lovey, i'm so sorry for what you are going through. I can only imagine how painful it is for you; i've been thinking of you lots since I read that your little .Angel passed away.

Perhaps it would be a good idea to go and see your doctor, s/he could refer you a group local to you where you could go and talk with other people who have gone through the same thing. I think that might really help you; the worst thing is to feel that you are alone. You mustn't feel guilty for feeling how you do - it's all part of the normal grieving process.

I think .Tanyaface's idea of a tattoo or book to memorialise your daughter is a really good idea. Perhaps plant a little tree in your garden or go somewhere beautiful and release a balloon in memory of her? These are things I have known other people do and they found it helped them feel some kind of peace.

Remember, .Angel doesn't want her mummy to be sad, she knows you miss her so much and she is with you in spirit, and always will be.

Oh honey, I can't even begin to imagine what you must be going through. It broke my heart reading your message, and your husband's. I'm really sorry for your loss. I know it's hard, but you have to try to be around the kids. Remember that they're feeling it too.

Geez this is so hard for me.
I'm almost 2 years since losing .Oliver at almost 20 weeks.
I still feel the pain.
While I know you will feel it differently to me, please know I can understand your pain.

Becks, if you want someone to vent at, someone to talk to, a shoulder to cry on, holla at me.

I'll pm you my email addy.

Do the docs know why you went into premature labour?

No idea. My blood pressure was normal. I'd had no bleeding or pain or anything I just suddenly started contracting. I felt her move earlier on in the day so I can't understand it myself. They are doing a postmortem purely because of the confusing circumstances but I haven't heard anything back yet. I can't have the funeral until then