Joined: 08 Aug 2006 Posts: 251 Location: North Carolina
What Do I Do?! Posted: 09-04-06 07:17am
Me & my boyfriend have been together
for almost 7 months. At the beginning of
our relationship we both told eachother
how many people we'd been with. Well,
just last night.. I fessed up and told my
boyfriend that I had lied to him about how
many guys i'd been with [ I said 5 at
first - it was really 12 ] . He also
fessed up after I did, and admitted that
he'd been with more girls than he had
initially said. [ 14 turned into "around
the 20 mark" ]
i'm such a hypocrite for this, because I
lied to him as well.. But it really hurt
me. What if he's lied about other things
as well? I love him very much.. But I
have a hard time letting go of things..
And I know this is part of the past and I
shouldn't be worried with it because we're
happy with eachother but like I said, I
have a hard time letting things go.
Should I feel bad/upset/partially mad? Or
should I just say screw it?
I'm hurting inside..
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ccris123
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Sep 2006 Posts: 58 Location: Kentucky
Trust Posted: 09-04-06 22:57pm
It's important for you all to trust each
other or it will never work. You feel bad
because he lied, but then again, you lied
too. It's never good to discuss numbers
in a relationship because it always hurts
someone in the end. Everyone wants to
feel like the first, even if they're not.
Also, take this into consideration. Maybe
he was hurt by your number, and as a spite
thing, blurted out something he thought
would hurt you as bad as you hurt him.
Trust.
