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Q: Our Baby Was Still Born
asked by: daddy_neil on September 3rd, 2006
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My wife has asked me to post a message on here and I think it is only fair I respect her wishes. On friday night around 1.30am she started having contractions. We called an ambulance and she was rushed to hospital as she was only 21 weeks and 5 days pregnant.


When we got there they called someone to examine her but it was too late, within 10 minutes of arriving she pushed out our tiny baby daughter.


She didn't make a sound as she had already passed away. As you can imagine we are distraught with grief. She weighs 1 lb 1oz.


We have named her angel as this is what she will be. A tiny beautiful angel looking down on us from heaven. We have a few photos of her but I do not feel right posting them on a public forum as they are our private memories.


My wife is still in hospital as there was a few complications. The doctors are trying to determine the cause of death as just eariler in the morning rebecca had felt her kicking around.


We are planning to make funeral arrangments even though legally they aren't required. I ask of you if you can please send some kind thoughts our way in this difficult time.


Kind regards, neil

husband of rebecca (username beckster06)
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sweet_wun replied on September 3rd, 2006
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Oh my god,please tell your wife that I am so sorry to hear that I was speaking to her thee other day that is terrible news.I send my sympthy and my love so sorry to hear that.I really am I hope you both get threw this and god bless ur daughter x from sweet wun x
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diamond splinter replied on September 3rd, 2006
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I am so sorry for your loss hun my sympathies go out to you and rebbeca
it is so hard to comprhend the fact that your baby is gone especialy when you have felt movement the same morning .

Talk about your daughter often hun it will help both of you
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angellaura_81 replied on September 3rd, 2006
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Hi neil, I too went through the same as your wife. I was 17 weeks and delivered my baby and saw him. Its the most traumatic time a couple can go through I think. All I can say is be there for her when she gets home. Because for about 4 or 5 weeks after my miscarriage I couldnt stop crying and wouldnt eat anything. But just having my husband there for me helped me massively. He was my strength and I was terrified if he ever just popped out to the shops. I was scared to be alone. He helped me through it. We had a funeral for our son. It does help to say goodbye. Im really sorry you had to go through it.
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sandyallen replied on September 3rd, 2006
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Daddy_neil
Thank you for letting us know about such sad news and about your loss of your little .Angel and a big thanks and hug to .Rebecca. I am soooo sorry about your loss! You are all in my thoughts and prayers. It is such a big shock to us all, I know it is for you too! We are here for you if and when you need us! Please be there for each other as I am sure you will be!
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daddy_neil replied on September 3rd, 2006
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I just want to thank you all for such kind words. I had tears in my eyes whilst reading the replies. It is very hard for me to carry on as normal with our two kids when all I want to do is break down.
My wife is a wreck so I have to be strong for her. It is of little comfort that we have 2 children to look after as constant reminders of our loss.
I just want to say though that you have been kind. We have been given lots of helpline numbers to help us but I don't feel like I could talk over the phone to someone so it does feel good to put my pain into writing. When I was younger I used to keep a diary when I was feeling down. I think this is something I will have to do again now.

Kind regards,
neil
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sandyallen replied on September 3rd, 2006
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Daddy_neil
We are here for you also if you just need some an ear or someone to talk to along with your wife! Our thoughts are with all of you! Although I do agree diary's and journals do help as long as you are writing it down and it is kind of like your secretive little place to be. Please give rebecca a large hug for us! Along with your other children! Don't worry about trying to carry on normal right now, it will take some time and I am sure that your family understands!
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Anonymous replied on September 3rd, 2006
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Thank you so much sandy allen. I think I will come on here for time to time and talk things through but I think this is rebecca's haven and it would be wrong to take it away from her.
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daddy_neil replied on September 3rd, 2006
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anonymous wrote:
thank you so much sandy allen. I think I will come on here for time to time and talk things through but I think this is rebecca's haven and it would be wrong to take it away from her.


sorry this was me I don't know why it has put guest
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diamond splinter replied on September 3rd, 2006
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daddy_neil wrote:
anonymous wrote:
thank you so much sandy allen. I think I will come on here for time to time and talk things through but I think this is rebecca's haven and it would be wrong to take it away from her.


sorry this was me I don't know why it has put guest



there is enough support here for both you and rebbeca hun you need an outlet to I am sure rebbeca won't mind sandy allen speaks for us all when she says we are here for you both
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