I on;y wish I had that problem that my boyfriend and I only had it 2-3 times a week. Since he has been on antidepressants his sex drive has dropped to the point where we use to have it 2-3 times a week to now maybe once every other week. Yes that equals out to 2 times a month. So he should be happy with what he does get because it could be worse!!!! Sex should deffinantly not be the basis of a relationship intamcy can be given in many forms. Good luck to you and I hope that you can make it clear to him that you do care for him and does not have to be shown through sex.

I have but maybe I just havent said the right words...I hope that he will uderstand that I do love him and that he does please me when I want it...I love him too much for this to be the main down facter in our relationship. Thank for you incourgement and I hope things go better for you in yours.

Sounds like he has some insecurity problems. And if he's threatening a detour off the marriage plan because of sex, maybe you should reconsider what and who is important. Me and my fiance used to do it like bunnies. We've been together for three years now. Since then , we've experienced my thyroid going kapooey, my hormones being completely off balance, cervical cancer with surgery, and then an appendectomy a week after that surgery. I have a full-time career, i'm in school full time, and we have three children we're raising together. I'm still on restrictions for sex and i've been sick, so we've had to do alternative methods for a while. Before that, with everything going on, we dwindled down to maybe once every other week. But....Not once has he ever said anything about it affecting our relationship or our marriage plans. He tells me that even though we're not married yet, he loves me through sickness and in health and he's more than willing to weather the storm with me. He has a very high libido and I know he gets frustrated. I make sure I kiss him every day, tell him I love him, flirt with him.... And it works for now. I wish you the best of luck with everything. If he can't accept that you care for him and find him attractive, but that sex isn't your number one priority, then maybe it's time to find someone who cares a little bit more.

Thank you for your addive, I talked with him and when ever the subject came up I asked him just to give me time and to let me come around on my own...So far things are going a little better without him pressuring me and asking why I am depressed hes helping out and making me feel special! I feel like this is what I needed to want to be more intiment with him...Were taking things at a little slower paste. Sorry for my spelling. Thank you agian!

I used to have that problem. When my boyfriend and I started dating we would have sex everytime we saw eachother ( wich was every weekend because we were in school ). Then after a year and a half.. I was never in the mood. He would want to and we would almost due it and I would be like.. " im not in the mood ".. I went through this for awhile. Now my boyfriend and I have sex like 20ish times a week.. And I feel so close to him now. Closer then ever. We are now ( after 3 years ) engaged : )
so I would say it will all work out in the end and your just going through a faze.

Rachel*

How about doing it 2 to 3 times a year. Your bf should feel lucky,my wifes antidepression pills kills her sex drive.

I dont understand, I was doing fine with give in a little more...And that was only days ago I had the problem of not being in the mood. Well i'm not in the mood agian...I know it made him really happy that I was so sexual with him...Why does my desire burn out so quickly?! It cant be because hes not hot because he is! And its not because he isnt great in bed, cause he is! Do most women go through this in long term relationships?!

I do love him and I want him to always feel loved. But wounder if I dont always make him feel that way?! Why is it I dont feel like kissing sometimes? Is this a problem I need to fix within myself?!

Does it just get worse?! When I force myself it begins to annoy me when we kiss! I know thats not suppost to happen! I'm looking for anyone or intenerested in ending our relationship. I love him, why am I doing this?!

It's always important to make yourself happy first. Maybe you need to find out what makes you happy before you can make someone else happy. Otherwise, it ends in resentment by one or both parties.

Sorry I hope I didnt confuse anyone, but when it says I 'm interested in others and i'm looking to end it is supost say i'm not interested and i'm not looking for it to end.

Angel,
i say stay with him, it sounds like that he trying to wait for you to get in the mood. It just sounds like he is getting horny and he can stop that from happening. One lady on here said that she had to play with herself to get in the mood. She said she would do it just before her husband got home. She said her doctor told her to try it and that it helped her. I guess she masturbated every other day until she raised her sex drive. Now her sex drive is back. My wife's doctor told her to pick a day at first and save that for making love. It helped a little, she also said try new positions.The bad thing for us is we already did it in alot of different positions. I hope everthing works out for you, good luck!!! :)

Old post but bringing up a few pointers


you need to understand and this goes for other people as well marriage is based on a ew things
~sex
~friendship~
and of course commitment/devotion

without any of these a relatioship lack and will fall, there will be time where sex wont be able to happen but to take away from one partner their please all the time is wrong.

If you cannot/feel up to providing there is other things you can do to pleasure a man/woman basically the human mind craves sex and it is also a natural destressor so in a way yes it is a necessity.

Why should marriage be based on sex?

It should be based on love and trust and commitment.
Sex is a bonus - not a neccessity.