Why Is Sex So Important to a Man In a Realitionship?! Posted: 09-01-06 23:11pm
Why does he want it so much that if it
doesnt happen theres something wrong with
me! He also said it could get in the way
of a marriage plan...Dont know what to
do!!!!Please addivce!!!Freindly! Thank
you...
I am very concerned that this might
destory our realitionship. We have been
together for almost a year now and I have
known him for 3 years. In the first about
six months we were very intament with one
another...Exsample: we would make love 6
days in a week and sometimes more then
once a day. Now: once maybe twice a
week.
He feels that I dont love him as much and
that this is a proplem and that I must be
depressed or ill... Hes been resreach on
female sex drive and then asking me alot
of questions... I try to tell him i'm
just not in the mood.
I dont think I can fix this! I dont want
him to leave me I love him but I have just
let him do his thing, but theres little
pleasure on those days. I dont know what
to tell him...
Sometimes I wish I didnt care...
Why is this so important to him?!
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singledad
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Posted: 09-03-06 11:08am
We all have different levels of libido -
both men and women with high libido's may
need to have sex more often just in order
not be thinking about all the time - it
sort of starts crowding out other
thoughts.
Men and women tend to have different
priorities, reflecting evolutionary
developments - men have generally evolved
to spread as much semen as possible -
i.E., men who have sex a lot tend to have
more offspring that they passed this trait
onto, while women more typically seek
resources to increase the probability of
raising reproductively successful
offspring - i.E., quality over quantity.
I wouldn't feel too bad about helping him
out if the relationship is important to
you, sacrifices have to be made in any
relationship, unless it's actually causing
you physical discomfort or damage - try
fantasizing, or porn to see if you can
gear your libido up, there are worse
problems in life than having sex too
often.
At the same time, communication is
probobly the single most important factor
in a successful relationship, I think
frequency of intercourse would have to
take second place there, so if you are
fearing for the stability of your
relationship, it's the communication
factor i'd be looking at.
My ex and i, for example, were well
matched libido wise: we both liked it at
least once a day, although she often
wanted at times inconvenient to me, when I
was in the middle of something else, but
we didn't communicate well (or at all) in
other areas, which eventually spilled over
into the sexual department, and that
(communication, or lack thereof, not sex,
although it was a factor) is what
eventually tanked the relationship.
