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Q: Scared to Death
asked by: trevino61601 on August 20th, 2003
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Yesterday I had my second ob/gyn apt. I'm currently 9 weeks along. I was hoping to hear the heartbeat. The doctor said everything is progressing normally and not to be concerned if they didn't find one. Well, no heartbeat. I am scared to death because last april I miscarried. I had a completely normal uncomplicated pregnancy and began spotting. My doc. Told me she wanted me to get an ultrasound. The u/s showed that the heartbeat stopped someone around 8-10 weeks. I am scheduled to have an ultrasound this friday to reassure me, but i'm still so worried. Has anyone ever failed to get a heartbeat around the same time on a hand held dopler? Maybe i'm just being paranoid, but I really don't think I could handle going through another loss.....
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Duana Coleman replied on August 20th, 2003
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Typically you should hear a heartbeat between 10-13 weeks. If your doctor does not have a high-tech instrument, it may be as late as 14 weeks. An ultrasound will calm your nerves. Good luck!
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trevino61601 replied on August 20th, 2003
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That's what i'm hoping. I'm just so nervous......
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potatohead76 replied on August 21st, 2003
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Waiting For the Beat
Don't be upset I was almost 11 wks they couldn't find a heartbeat. Yeah I was very upset but my doc said not to worry. My next visit I heard the heartbeat loud and clear. Please be patient and I hope everything is fine.
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jessicalynn replied on August 21st, 2003
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Im Tripin to
Hey im 9 1/2 weeks and I havent got to see a doc yet, besides when I found out I was preg, but yeh I have an apt on sept 3rd ill be 11 1/2 weeks, im so scared, ive had 3 misscareges, I just want this one to go through, this is the longest ive been preg the others were shorter, but I can feel your pain on loosin it again, but good luck and hang in there,
i wish I could get into see a doc sooner but they want me to wait tell im 11 1/2 weeks so they can do an ultra sound, so I guess I got to wait,
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HongKongChick replied on August 21st, 2003
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It's normal! And dont be too stressed out or upset coz that's not good for u and the baby! Be a happy pregnant woman! Smile

i am sure u will be able to hear the little life's heartbeat in no time, and when that time comes, it's gonna be extra wonderful coz u have waited so long for it! So dont worry!


Jess-------------------wow....Still waiting for the doc's appointment?! Man..I am nervous for you too!

But dont worry so much becoz u know its not good for the baby! And I am sure everything will be all right. And I keep u in my prayers (even if u are not religious)
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trevino61601 replied on August 23rd, 2003
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I have been stressed this entire pregnancy, worried something would go wrong. As I stated before... "scared to death". I had my ultrasound yesterday and did not receive good news, once again. This is my third consecutive miscarriage. I don't know what's going on. I was perfectly fine with my first daughter, other than the bad stuff I get, (gest. Diabetes, etc.). The doctor said the baby just stopped growing around 6-7 weeks. My placenta and uterus continues to grow. They know this means something chromozonal (sp). Because I am now classified as a habitual miscarrier, they are going to run some genetic research tests to see if there is a physical reason this is happening. I have to have surgery (d&c) on monday. I know this is god's way of saying it wasn't meant to be and the baby wasn't healthy. It doesn't make it any easier, or any less disappointing. I want another child so desperately and so does my husband. I know this isn't my fault. I just don't know if i'm up for the continuous try and let down. It's hard to even get excited about pregnancy anymore, especially when it seems as though everything goes so drastically wrong. Crying
or Very sad Crying
or Very sad Crying
or Very sad Crying
or Very sad Crying
or Very sad Crying
or Very sad Crying
or Very sad
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Denise replied on August 23rd, 2003
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I Am So Sorry
I am sorry to hear of your news. I know what it feels like to want a (another) baby to add to your family and share your families love with. It is hard when you have had a baby already and would like another. Don't give up. Some people tell me, "atleast you have one" but the pain of wanting another is still there. You will be in my prayer, I am here if you need someone to talk to.
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trevino61601 replied on August 23rd, 2003
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Re: I Am So Sorry
denise wrote:
i am sorry to hear of your news. I know what it feels like to want a (another) baby to add to your family and share your families love with. It is hard when you have had a baby already and would like another. Don't give up. Some people tell me, "atleast you have one" but the pain of wanting another is still there. You will be in my prayer, I am here if you need someone to talk to.


thankyou for your thoughtfulness. I think I am in shock. I have cried so much I really can't cry anymore. I feel so bad for my husband, he was thrilled to have another. The doctor was so reassuring, that I really thought this one was ok. I want another, just to give him a son. We started everything in our relationship so ass backwards, that doing something "right" and in order seemed logical. It's almost like we are being punished for making stupid mistakes earlier.
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carvytaph replied on August 23rd, 2003
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Trevine
I am sorry to hear about your miscarriage. A baby is a wonderful thing, but don't give up. Don't lose hope.

When/if you try again...Have your doctor check your progesterone level. If it's low suppostories are given. A low progesterone level is the number one cause for miscarrying.

Good luck in the future.

My thoughts are with you.
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beccaliz replied on February 4th, 2004
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Knowing the Pain
I haven't miscarried yet, but they couldn't find a heartbeat. I had people pray over me and annoint me with oil. Everyone is praying for me. I'm getting married next week on friday (2/13/04) and I was wondering if a miscarriage at 8.5 weeks is painful. Was it painful for anyone else? I know this is something that happens. My soon to be husband will try for another if this one fails. We need prayers and support so bad! God is there for me. I can feel his sadness in response to mine, but I just don't feel like this is over yet.
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caracook replied on February 4th, 2004
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I'm so sorry for the woman that started this topic. I hope you got some good luck and are happily pregnant. As for beccaliz, a heartbeat at 8.5 weeks isn't abnormal. It says on many websites that usually around 10 weeks is when they first hear the heartbeat. I hope that you have a healthy baby. What has your doctor said? As for if the miscarriage hurts at 8.5 weeks, i'm sure it is excruciating. Most women say they get very bad af cramps with bleeding.
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