Just recently my boyfriend and I that I have been with for 3 years got into a very extreme arrgument that had caused us to be seperated from eachother for a few days to cool off.This also almost ended our relationship but I begged that we work things out because we have been through so much. He wanted a few days to think about it but he only took one day then called me and we worked things out.


Now this one arguement was not what caused the almost split it was acctually the straw that broke the camels back. The thing is, is that we have been argueing alot ( at least 2-3 times a week) for about three months. Now there is alot behind this then just plain argueing. Last year he was injured on the job which put him out of work and battleing with lawyers for workmans comp this whole year. I was the only one working to pay the bills and we had to move in with his mom and stepdad and we will have to stay here till we get out of school. ( his injury was so bad that he has to be trained in a new line of work and I was in school before the injury) his parents are also haveing financial difficulty so us moving in with them I am also helping them where I can with my paychecks and child support. (yes there is also kids I have 2 and he has 2.) which is not much and we were litterally living paycheck to paycheck gathering change to get milk.


The year for him being out of work caused alot of depression, anger, and anxiety so he had to be placed on meds to get him through now if you know anything about antidepressants they can change a persons way of looking at things, and just how they are in general. So for the last 6 months it seems as if I have been getting to know someone new. I should say he was a pain in the ass before the meds and almost scary but after the meds although for the good he was just different. He use to very compassionate, snugglie, and had no trouble being affectionate. Then all of a sudden that all disappeared the meds took his sex drive away and he is just mellow sometimes I thought of him as a zombie. Sorry in short the sex and compassion has lessened and thats another delimma I have faced.


For the next one I will remind you this has been going on for the last 3 months (over the summer) in the summer my boys go with their father for 2 months. I have them for 10 months out of the year so this time is very difficult for me. It's better when I can keep my mind occupied. I n the years past we have gone camping alot, hiking, swimming, movies ect... Which really helped me get past not haveing them. Well this year with no money we did absolutly nothing we may have went to 2 movies and that is it. So I went to work came home sat on the couch went to bed wake up do it again day in day out with out a breeak and even gained 10 pounds over the summer ( at least enough that my youngest noticed when he got home) in the mean time he stayed at home and didn't do a thing he's a bit on the lazy side because he is a mama's boy and she took care of everything for him cook clean ect.. So I worked and payed he sat and slept. So there's another stress issue.


I could probably go on and on about the stresses but I would be here all night so there is just a few to give you an idea.


Now things are about to mellow out alittle bit he won the case, we got our school money and have our bills payed up. We are both occupied with work and school and I have my boys back.

So to get to the main purpose of this post is with the threat of a break up once in our relationship is our relationship scard? Or do you think that there is a possibility that we will be ok. I want this relationship to last but like he says the argueing has got to stop or it's over. Is there a way we can put this horrible year behind us and move on or will it damage us forever?

Sorry this is so long I had to give you an idea of what has been on our shoulders. I hope someone could help thank you heather