Hello everyone it's me again :) I didn't know this particular part of the forums wasn't so active.
Anyways, I have another question for all of you.
I have a daughter with two first names clarissa and faith. Both names were chosen by the father and I never really liked clarissa at first so we just call her faith, even as she started kindergarten everyone knew her as faith, and she's mastered writing that name only...I've even filled out her school application with just faith, then her m-name, then surname..To avoid being called clarissa. I've just always excluded clarissa. But lately it's been kind of growing on me, and I came to a realization that it's really technically her first name so she should be known as clarissa. I still prefer faith. But i'm considering of finally including clarissa and maybe gradually introduce it to everyone we know. I'm still not sure what to do though...She might get confused. I want to decide on what to do by next week before she enters 1st grade and meets her new classmates. I don't know what to do, she is used to being called faith...And to everyone she is faith.
Can anyone offer me some advice on what I should do? Thanks a bunch! :)
As a suggestion, you might start getting her use to her real first name being used so that she gets use to it. I had a similar problem myself!! My middle daughters name is haley. When she was born her father and I use to always call her bug or haley bug (her nickname) anyways, as she grew up she was so use to being called "bug" that when we called her haley, she would cry and say, "that's not my name! My name is bug!!" it was really cute, but we had to explain to her that her real name was haley and bug was just a nickname! Anyhow, she did get use to it..Now everyone calls her haley except for her dad and I who still refer to her as "bug". She gets mad if anyone else uses her nickname though..Hehehe good luck!
Hey jeanine, yea ur absolutely right. It is part of her real name and she should get used to it. The only differnce with yout situation and mine is my child's real name is faith, it wasn't a nick name like bug- which is by the way a very cute nick name! I used to call faith, toots all the time but that didn't stick for long lol thank goodness. She has two first name, m-name, then surname so her entire name looks like this; clarissa faith johanna m****. The school she's gong to right now allowed us to take clarissa out of her name because the child is used to faith. I only had second thoughts lately about getting her used to clarissa because this name grew on me recently. I'm still wondering if it's too late though. I'm going to take your advice into consideration but for the time being I think we might stick to faith.
I guess part of the question I was asking before but wasn't clear about was what do you think of the names clarissa and faith, and out which one do you prefer? :) (the father chose both names for her, I picked out johanna...I let him have his way because at the time I was just happy to finally be out of labor)
Actually, I quite like the name faith! (its my cousins name as well) to be honest, I have never really been fond of the name clarissa, though. (sorry, hope that doesnt offend you!!!!!) all you can really do is try to continue to call her by her given first name. She will come around eventually! She is 3, right?!
You must do what you feel is the right thing to do, you can always say that her name is .Clarsisa .Faith but she goes by .Faith as she has two 1st names just my opinion but you always want to keep the peace and she may like .Clarissa better later if you start using it now, who knows, all you can do is try.
All the best!
Hey sandy :) thank you for that advice. I agree with everything you said. I should have said that clarissa was her name but she just goes by faith as she has two first names. I guess i'm just lazy and just had to avoid having to explain. Yeah, that occured to me before...What if she grows up and ends up liking clarissa, then she might get upset with me. Argh. I asked her yesterday to practice writing her other first name clarissa, and she wrote it beautifully lol then I asked her if she remembered how to write it by herself and she spelled it ciarra. Lol probably because she had a friend in k-grade with that name. It was cute though! :) not many people are fond of that name clarissa, including myself....I wonder why...I can't even describe why I don't like it, I just simply don't. It all depends on preference I guess.
Hello again jeannine! Thank you! I love that name, faith too :) well , not at first..First time my hubby suggested it, faith hill came to mind, and i'm not a big fan of hers. You can say whatever you like about any names..I won't take offense! I used to dislike clarissa myself, now I don't have a problem with it, but I still don't like it much :( I was pretty reluctant to gave her those two names. But my hubby never suggested any names or even put his two cents in on any of my name suggestions , not *until* I gave birth to my daughter. Ugh. And he chose that day to argue with me about names. Darn him :( my chosen first name for her was gonna be johanna and her middle name was going to be my mom's name. Ugh again. Can't believe I let him won.
Anyway, my daughter is not 3..She is actually twice that age lol...She is 6, and will be entering 1st grade next week. I wish she was only 3, I miss those days...But she is still cute as can be. And she has the biggest heart, everyone notices as well, most grown-ups say she is quite different from other kids once they get to know her. Some of the kids from her kindergarten class took advantage of her kindness though, and she always came home with a brokenheart. I thought that all kids were angels, till I met those little devils! How old are your little ones? I know your middle child's name is haley, but i'd love to hear the other ones' names too! :)
I like the name aalieyah or jayla those are pretty good names I luv them or charlie my girl cusin is name that after her dad who died haha I luv ma cusin charlie it was all over the news yup him n his bestfren naill he was really cool to down to earth :( I miss them :cry:
Hi! Sorry it took so long to respond...I havent been feeling very well lately. anyhow, my oldest daughter is ashley maria and she is 13 1/2, then haley lynn who just turned 12 and joshua taylor 9.
Those are my lil angels...Well, not so little anymore.