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Q: Could I Be the Father?
asked by: singindave on August 30th, 2006
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I have a very odd situation and i'm trying to figure out if it is at all possible I am the father...



I was with a girl when I was in a different country and i'm not exactly sure what the date was. I have something she wrote me while we were together and it is dated 10/5/2005. I think at the very maximum I was with her at like 10/12/2005 but it was probably a little bit before that.



She had a baby on 7/7/2006. She told me she was 3.5 months preg in the end of march (she also told me I was not the father). If she was telling the truth she would have been pretty early, no?


All I know is that she is super tiny... Possible unheathily tiny (92 lbs and about 5'2'') and she had a c-section. I don't think she would lie about this to me but she has lied in the past. I just want to know, medically, is there a chance it could be my child? I want to do dna but I don't want to look like a fool for requesting dna. Do underweight girls have early deliveries? Is it likely that she could still have a late delivery or one that was on time? What do you think?
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natzcee replied on August 30th, 2006
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Yeah it is possible becoz she would have concived the baby around the 30/9/05 so it is possible

i duno if she would lie about something like that I think thats something u need to speak to her about xx
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Moo replied on August 30th, 2006
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sweet_wun replied on August 30th, 2006
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Is she in another country now?Would she come over if shes in another country so that u can do a dna cause she might not want that I think you should talk to her and say you want to know for sure if you have a child.X
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Emma2 replied on August 30th, 2006
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If she has a 28 day cycle and had her baby on her estimated due date set by her Dr. Then you have a very good chance because concpetion occured around friday, october 14, 2005
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singindave replied on August 30th, 2006
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Oh I did talk to her... It's drama city. I hate this... But I wont' go into it on a medical board. I really don't think it is mine but you all think it is possible. I think I can do dna kit test from abroad. She's lives in mexico and doesn't speak english (and my spanish is decent but far from fluent). I've told her I needed to speak with her again about this and she won't talk to me when I see her online so this is proving to be quite difficult.

I would like to know more about c-sections and girls that are underweight. She looked healthy but she was certainly very thin. I know c-sections can be used for about any reason but in mexico I would think it would only be used when medically necessary.
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Zanny replied on August 30th, 2006
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If she's tiny then it makes sense that she had a caesarean section.. Girls with a narrow pelvis can't always have babies naturally, because complications can occur during birth.
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singindave replied on August 30th, 2006
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I'm almost certain that was the reason she had a c-section. She had very small hips. I know she did gain weight during pregnancy... Do you think a girl like that would have nomal/late/early deilvery? Are all 3 possible? What is the most likely? Normal delivery date? Might she be slightly delayed from the onset of conception because she was so tiny and possibly not eating properly or does that not matter? This was her 1st time so I dont' know if that matters
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Sandbox Party replied on August 30th, 2006
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What makes you think she had the baby early?? Wishful thinking??


And if she says its not yours, then trust her. If it was, im sure she'd let you know considering she'd want child support and what not.

A woman knows best about her body.
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Emma2 replied on August 30th, 2006
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singindave wrote:
i'm almost certain that was the reason she had a c-section. She had very small hips. I know she did gain weight during pregnancy... Do you think a girl like that would have nomal/late/early deilvery? Are all 3 possible? What is the most likely? Normal delivery date? Might she be slightly delayed from the onset of conception because she was so tiny and possibly not eating properly or does that not matter? This was her 1st time so I dont' know if that matters



forget the tiny part...That is absolutely irrelevant!!! Why dont you ask her if she had her baby right on time (a few days less or more is still on time)....Thats what needs to be addressed.
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singindave replied on August 30th, 2006
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Trust her? I dont' think I can do that -- i'm sure she does know her body very well... I don't trust her and I have my reasons. I just wanted to see if i'm crazy for thinking it is possible medically speaking.

I'm gonna really push her to get in contact with me again... Thanks :-)
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Emma2 replied on August 30th, 2006
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singindave wrote:
trust her? I dont' think I can do that -- i'm sure she does know her body very well... I don't trust her and I have my reasons. I just wanted to see if i'm crazy for thinking it is possible medically speaking.


I'm gonna really push her to get in contact with me again... Thanks :-)


yeah u need to ask her if her baby was full term...
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