Why would someone be selfish for having a child if they have the financial resources/patience at that age???


I was pregnant with my daughter at 19, I have an awesome job a place to live and I do my schooling at home when the kids go to bed does that make me selfish?? I still hang out with friends, I still go clubbing 1 every two months and I still have money to pay for my kids stuff and resp.

I am not irresponsible, but im ahead of the game!

Many people say that women who have abortions are selfish, yet the reasons they have children are selfish in and of themselves. It's just an "acceptable" selfishness that disguises itself as altruistic that makes it okay.




because it's selfish to have a child, period. I challenge you to give me one non selfish reason people choose to birth children.



no- what would make you selfish, at least in the spirit of this thread, is if you purposefully conceived children when your life circumstances were not of the ilk to successfully provide for them. If you're living at home, 18, no job, no security, nothing that a child needs, and purposefully attempting to have a child, especially without telling the man involved what your intentions are, then yes, that isn't just selfish, it's lunacy.

Yong women desperately try to get pregnant for any number of reasons. Some do it because they think their lives are lacking in something and a baby will fill the void. Others think they need someone to love them (because boyfriends aren't good enough). Or some may just do it to keep their partners with them or try to keep marriages together, which are both childish reasons.

The reason many girls dive head-first into pregnancy is because everyone glorifies children and makes parenthood seem like the greatest experience on the planet. And, of course, young girls equate "greatness" with "no work" - you know, they like to think the best things in life are free. They don't bother telling anyone else who might know something about children about their desire to spawn because, heaven forbid, said experienced person might tell them something negative or that work is involved. We can't have teenage and college-aged girls getting their hopes crushed by facts, now can we?

In my honest opinion, I don't think anyone has any business having kids these days because of the overpopulation. If everyone in the world quit breeding for a couple of years, we would still have overpopulation problems. And the people who make the worst parents or who can't support themselves are the ones shooting out the most children/welfare checks.

I don't even want to get into how much I hate those girls who poke holes in their condoms or "forget" their birth control to get pregnant without their partner's consent. There's a special place in hell for these evil women. But what can you do? Humans are selfish by nature.

Yes but it would be great if people knew what the the heck they were doing before having kids besides taking another number on the welfare line expecting to be taken care of all of their lives and handing it down to their children and on and on. Welfare is great and i'm not against it if you need it for a while for example your husband passes on and leaves you nothing and you have kids to raise or your husband leaves you and he cannot be found or you are going through an abusive relationship, then get in, get yourself trained for something, then get a job and get off of welfare heck, don't let it be your security blanket for the rest of your life, show some pride!

If it is selfish to have a child then it is selfish for you to be alive!!!


Are you suggesting that every pregnant woman get an abortion, thats nowhere near pro-choice that f**king extremist thinking!

Are you going to tell me that love is a selfish act,bringing up a child with your value/moral is selfish, I think not. Honestly if you dont wanty kids great but for people who do dont breathe down there necks for wanting children.

If love is a want then all of you who are with someone have just shown that you are selfish when I so strongly believe in choice and that a pregnancy is based on choice for a variety of reasons, if a woman did not want a child the she has a choice of what to do with it.


Some of you are hypocrites

They have ointment for that.

[qupte]because you are choosing not to have children to continue your lifestyle. Having children makes the single life non existent.[/quote]

what do you mean having kids makes single life nonexistant? Haven't you ever heard of single parents? I still don't understand why you think the cfers are selfish - because we choose not to make the world a worse place and make more people to suck up the dwindling resources? I suppose if you want to see the downfall of the human race come faster, then the cf would be selfish for not contributing to the plan. I'm not attacking you, stillherelosers...Just still sort of scratching my head at your post.



it may not be selfish to have a child emotionally (and in a few cases, financially, when welfare is not involved), but it is biologically, especially now that people choose to defy nature with things like ivf. Infertility is natural birth control, and since people have chosen to mess around with that, we get women spawning premature franken-litters who have all sorts of birth defects. Then we also get women who make ten kids the old-fashioned way who have more than enough to make up for those who choose not to make the world suck even more. It's disgusting - these women must be on some good meds to handle such a workload. But i'm sure doctors aren't complaining about all the thousands they receive for ivf.

Actually, I find it funny that people continue to have kids - they are contributing to the downfall of their own race and they either are oblivious to it or they don't care.

Also, there's a difference between wanting kids and wanting them for the right reasons. There's a handful of good parents out there, but they are greatly outnumbered by stupid parents who don't know the first thing about childcare or who want kids for the wrong reasons (i.E., because it's what adults do, I want to keep my marriage intact, I want a free little slave, etc.). These are the people who shouldn't be having kids.

Wanting certain things isn't selfish. Love is a human necessity in my opinion, but children are not. There are way too many people having kids who can't even support them, and then these kids end up living crappy lives, get neglected, or get abused. None of you can say that child abuse doesn't exist. But since children are the world of tomorrow, it's okay to have them and beat them, right? Who cares how kids get treated, just as long as they get born. {sarcasm}