It's not as easy as "right" or "wrong". There are young people that turn out to be wonderful mothers, and there are older people that turn out to be horrible mothers. It all depends on your temperament, maturity level, patience, and how hard you're willing to work for what you want in life. There are some disadvantages to having children so young, but you can work through them if you're determined, such as: supporting yourself and your child financially, continuing your schooling, and making the transition from being a pseudo-child into an adult. It's easier for some than it is for others. You just have to decide what's best for you and your situation. There are quite a few teenage mothers on this forum that are doing awesome jobs at raising their children as well as succeeding in school and work. It takes inner strength and a lot of work. Look inside yourself. Only you can decide what's best for you, and only you can make it happen. Good luck.

I'm 17, and i'm 6 months pregnant.. It's not exactly the ideal time, especially if it messes up your education etc.. But in my opinion it's not "wrong".. Age is irrevelant when it comes to how much you can love a child, and how "good" you are as a mother.

Talk to your mum, the sooner you tell her the better. She'll be shocked, and maybe disappointed, but she'll get over it in time and just remember that she'll still love you. Good luck! =)

Thank you so much for replayin bak to me, you made me feel alot less worried... I will do everything ot make sure this baby has a good future and I will be a good mother to my child.. Thank you so much.

God bless you

Hay im 16 and six m0nths pregnant... H0nestly this baby has saved my life... Im s0 much m0re determined in sch00l s0 much m0re aware 0f my surr0undings and ive been a much m0re l0ving girlfriend t0 my b0yfriend... I didnt tell my m0m my c0usin did... But its br0ught me and my m0m cl0ser even th0 we have 0ur days... But g00d luck... If I can d0 it as a juni0r in hs s0 can y0u!

Age is very relevant when you need to ask that question. But good luck telling your mother.

Zero is not a letter in the alphabet...

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Thank you!

Im 16 and have a 3 month old.Pm me if you wanna talk.

maybe her keyboard is broken?

Or maybe not

Dont b still why would you think its wrong to have a baby at 17 :o, im due next week and I just turnd 18 in june there and I could neva b anymore happy :d! I think you should tell your mom as soon as poss tho huni dont u think she'll b more upset if you dont tell her and she'll feel like you cant talk to her :p dont worry about it ur b fine :p just sit and think if its what you want 1st of all mabye tell your mom and have a talk with her about it if you feel your ready then your ready! I hope everything goes well, and one thing dont ever worry wot anyone else thinks becoz I did and now ive realised how fsilly I was too xxxx

Sweetheart, you live close to michelle 1981, she had her first very young too. Pm her and tell her I referred her to you-lol good luck.

My mom was sixteen when she became pregnant with her first child. She had him at seventeen, my mother, is by far one of the strongest, best mothers i've ever met. This is not a situation of "right" and "wrong"... Everyone's going to judge, so be prepared for that, but if you give this child a wonderful life, you have done nothing "wrong"

I got pregnant at 16 and im 17 now, and due in just over 3 weeks. It seems scary at first, but trust me it gets better. I love my little baby more than anything already and hes not even born yet. It's normal to be scared. As for your age, theres no right age to have a child, it depends if you think u are phisically, emotionally, and financially ready for one. Hope this helps, if u wana chat pm me..
Casey xxx

Your all ready pregnant so you cant change that so grow up an face up to what you hav to do you got pregnant throught no fault but your own

Everyone has their own definition of what "wrong" really is, so no one can tell you for sure if being a teen mother is right or wrong. Having a baby at your age is a lot of things, some negative and some positive (i guess), but there's no black or white - it's a million shades of grey.

What are your plans for the future? Are you planning on going to college? Do you live in your own home or do you reside with your parents? How is the father involved in this (if at all)? Can you afford this child? Can your mother afford this child (in the event you cannot)?

I strongly suggest you look at your current life situation based on the questions I asked and then examine each of your options, of which you have three. I cannot and am not suggesting you take one particular course, because what is right for me or for someone else may not be right for you.

Before any of you dive down my throat about this, I am not trying to talk this girl out of any decision - I am giving her some non-sugar-coated advice. Sweetheart18, if you are not aware of the amount of work, time, money, and patience childcare requires, I advise you to familiarize yourself with the concepts if you choose to keep your child. Remember, children need more than love to have a good life - love won't buy food and diapers, among other necessities.

Parenthood is no walk in the park, and it will impact your life enormously and permenantly. Baby-sit some infants and toddlers - do more than read the parenting books. F you haven't done so already, get some first-hand experience with kids so you'll know what to expect. I know everyone glorifies parenthood like it's the answer to the world's problems, but it won't be easy. Children might be blessings to some people, but they are so only if you are willing to put forth the tremendous effort to raise them.

Also, be prepared for some disappointment, frustration, and anger from your mother. There is no easy way to tell her, and this is something I cannot give insight on because i've never had to do it. Your mother may feel upset because you chose not to tell her right away. I assume you are waiting until you're a legal adult to tell her so she cannot try and put your child up for adoption (which, from what I know, can be done in some places with minor mothers) or try to dictate your decision otherwise. In any case, brace for the impact. This is all assuming, of course, you still live with her - if you have your own home, she may not be as affected by the situation.

If someone wants to get on my case about anything i've said, please be mature about it and take it to a private message (which is conveniently located in everyone's profiles). I do not want some petty, meaningless argument impeding sweetheart18's ability to get the answers she seeks.

No it not bad to have kids young i just found out i was 15 weeks pregant and couldn't believe it but being pregant has changed my out look on life i'm ready to finish school and be a mom. I found out i was pregant on my birthday and my parents were pissed and are still mad but thier getting excited bout the baby and are picking out names and now my bf wants 2 get married

Who cares................................

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Hun, like Zanny said talk to your mom, it would probably make you feel better, to get it off your mind, you never know she may be a little more supportive than you think. Its not impossible and since you live in Ontario, the resources are almost plentiful, welfare is a little shitty but better than nothing.

Just look on the brighter side of things~!

good luck

This post is 2 years old. All the pregnant girls have since had their babies - some are pregnant again.