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Q: 18 Wanting a Baby, Dont Know What to Do!
asked by: danib on August 28th, 2006
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Hi every one, im 18 my name is danielle and I realy really really want to have a baby, okay heres my situation, im engaged to be married in about a month, or at least get our marriage license, and we live on our own, we are buying a 2 bedroom trailer (its nice :>) we both have jobs, and I will soon be starting college online. We have been talking about having a baby a lot and ive heard what people in my family have to say and I would like to have some outsiders opinions about it all, so please if you have any advice on what we should do let me know!
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Nataliachick7 replied on August 28th, 2006
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Why would you even want some strangers on the internet opinions on whether or not you should have a baby? Obviously you are really immature if you have to ask other people to make life decisions for you.
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babiisparkle replied on August 28th, 2006
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Hey
Dont listen to her cause I say if you want to have a baby then go ahead and have a baby cant no one stop you cause you said you're 18 its your choice no matter what anyone say. Actually its everyone choice to have a baby no matter if your in your teens. No one can stop you because how are they gonna stop you from having sex. That something you wanna do then go ahead dont listen to what other people say 8)
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Nataliachick7 replied on August 28th, 2006
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Re: Hey
babiisparkle wrote:
dont listen to her cause I say if you want to have a baby then go ahead and have a baby cant no one stop you cause you said you're 18 its your choice no matter what anyone say. Actually its everyone choice to have a baby no matter if your in your teens. No one can stop you because how are they gonna stop you from having sex. That something you wanna do then go ahead dont listen to what other people say 8)


that was exactly my point.

Wow you are dumb.
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SamanthaM replied on August 28th, 2006
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Natalia, why are you so rude all of the time? It's called advice for a reason. We are all around that age and obviously have children, she probably wants to know if it is a bad idea. Having a baby at that age is hard, no matter how much money you have and wether you are married or not. You have no room to call anyone dumb or immature. Get over yourself.

Danielle, if you think you can handle having a baby and doing the online college thing at the same time, go for it. It will probably be difficult though. Good luck with whatever you choose to do!
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Nataliachick7 replied on August 28th, 2006
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Oh really samantha, you should talk-you called someone dumb recently because they asked if they were pregnant with twins since they run in the family.

Anyway, it is very sad that this girl has to ask strangers about whether or not she should have a baby. Pathetic, actually.
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SamanthaM replied on August 28th, 2006
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I forgot about that. Damnit i'm a hypocrite now. Oh well, you're right about this one.

I understand where you are coming from, but maybe she just wants to hear from people who have been through it. It is a difficult thing to do. I know you know that. I'm not even going to college now and it is hard. Now that he's 3 months it's easier, but in the beginning it can be pretty hard.
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Nataliachick7 replied on August 28th, 2006
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Im not saying it isnt hard. In fact it is extremely hard.
The fact that this girl has to ask people whether they think she should have a baby proves that she is not ready and has no idea what she is in for.
Grow up, go to college, and then think about having a baby. And let it be your decision, not some peoples over the internet.
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SamanthaM replied on August 28th, 2006
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I agree with you on that natalia, the best thing for her to do would be to go to college and then thin about having a baby. Even if it is just online, when you have a newborn, there are just not enough hours in the day.
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Melissa_20 replied on August 29th, 2006
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nataliachick7 wrote:
im not saying it isnt hard. In fact it is extremely hard.
The fact that this girl has to ask people whether they think she should have a baby proves that she is not ready and has no idea what she is in for.
Grow up, go to college, and then think about having a baby. And let it be your decision, not some peoples over the internet.
just because she asked for other's opinions doesn't make her immature and doesn't show that she's not ready.I think you need to grow up a little.Like sam said,she just wanted some opinions and maybe wanted to see based on others who have children how hard it is. Stop being so rude!
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Cambion replied on August 29th, 2006
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A lot of teens go through the baby rabies thing, but I would say give it time and allow it to pass. I mean, you're getting married, so why try for a kid right now? Don't you want to at least enjoy your marriage and enjoy your husband a little bit before dedicating yourself entirely to a shrieking infant?

The bottom line is that you've got about another thirty years to have a baby, so why rush it? You're in the prime of your life right now, and you want to throw it away to be a mother? Having babies at any age is difficult, unless you pawn them off on grandma or a nanny so you can live normally.

I agree with natalia - if you have to ask us whether or not you're ready to be a parent, then you should already have your answer. Finish college, enjoy your marriage, and try to have a little bit of fun too. If you have a child, you will be unable to do any of those things.
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Jules replied on August 29th, 2006
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I agree with cambion - I think you should wait. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with being a teenage mother - my mum had my brother when she was 17 years old and she brought me and him up wonderfully. However, I think it's better to wait if you can.

I know it's hard to ignore those baby urges and at the end of the day you know what you want to do, deep down. But having a baby is really hard work. It is also fantastically rewarding but I feel like that because I have done a lot of the things I wanted to do, like go to university and experience life with no responsibilites.

Good luck to you.
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Emma2 replied on August 29th, 2006
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A trailer huh? Enough said. Youre too young ...There is absolutely no need to rush into this...Enjoy your youth and spend some time getting to know your fiance because once youre married things change and people change.
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Melissa_20 replied on August 29th, 2006
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purestgreen wrote:


i know it's hard to ignore those baby urges and at the end of the day you know what you want to do, deep down. But having a baby is really hard work. It is also fantastically rewarding but I feel like that because I have done a lot of the things I wanted to do, like go to university and experience life with no responsibilites.

Good luck to you.
yeah thats true.I notice people are a lot happier when thay have accomplished things and are truly ready for not being able to go out for quite a while
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danib replied on August 29th, 2006
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Okay people...One, I was not asking if you think I should have a baby or not because I really couldn't give a caca less if you do or not, I was asking about your experiences, and since you are all so mature and got knocked up I figured you could make me feel better about doing what I want to do instead of listening to people like yourselves, thanks by the way to those of you who said something semi-nice anyway. And nataliachick7, since your so mature your self, why do you have a baby? Are you buying anykind of house or anything? Are you in school? Do you even have a job? Don't talk to me about being immature okay? Im probably more mature than most of the people on here I just thought since this site was supposed to be for advice type caca maybe some one would give me some? Hmm....Guess not, I didn't post that so that all of you could argue back and forth okay?
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Emma2 replied on August 29th, 2006
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Re: 18 Wanting a Baby, Dont Know What to Do!
danib wrote:
hi every one, im 18 my name is danielle and I realy really really want to have a baby, okay heres my situation, im engaged to be married in about a month, or at least get our marriage license, and we live on our own, we are buying a 2 bedroom trailer (its nice :>) we both have jobs, and I will soon be starting college online. We have been talking about having a baby a lot and ive heard what people in my family have to say and I would like to have some outsiders opinions about it all, so please if you have any advice on what we should do let me know!


seems to me that you asked what we thought and we told you...And if you dont care then dont come and ask. Your so young and you just proved it with your insecure and jumpy response. Good luck ruining your life!
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danib replied on August 29th, 2006
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Ok well I just read pretty much all of nataliachick7 posts. Wow. Common sense is always great.
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Emma2 replied on August 29th, 2006
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danib wrote:
ok well I just read pretty much all of nataliachick7 posts. Wow. Common sense is always great.


so is experience!
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Zanny replied on August 29th, 2006
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emma2 wrote:
a trailer huh? Enough said. Youre too young ...There is absolutely no need to rush into this...Enjoy your youth and spend some time getting to know your fiance because once youre married things change and people change.


"too young".. Hmm well that's debatable.

Although you did call me a "little girl" once despite the fact that i'll be 18 a month after my baby is born.
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Emma2 replied on August 29th, 2006
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emma2 wrote:
a trailer huh? Enough said. Youre too young ...There is absolutely no need to rush into this...Enjoy your youth and spend some time getting to know your fiance because once youre married things change and people change.


"too young".. Hmm well that's debatable.



Although you did call me a "little girl" once despite the fact that i'll be 18 a month after my baby is born.


that is little hun! You think because 18 is a legal age it makes you a grown up? I rest my case. And besides your the one taking your bike to drs. Apointments , no job, no support from your bf and without your parents approval..Thats pretty much all there is to know ...Your a kid and if you were mature and responsible you would have made sure your life was in order before creating a child and putting yourself in this mess.
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