Excuse me if i'm being being too harsh here but your b/f is a cheeky sod who needs a kick up the arse! How dare he bugger off on a holiday while you are stuck at home after having an abortion that I assume he wanted as well? Sometimes men really piss me off!!!!

Thats pretty messed up. Especially if it was already planned for you to go and now you cant because of the abortion. Your guy is pretty messed up, how can he do that to you after you had an abortion. He should be sitting at home with you being a good boyfriend making sure you are ok and making sure that you feel comfortable and loved. You just aborted your baby you can be feeling all kinds of emotion. Your guy harsh.

He shouldn't be going away, you've just had an abortion and he should be there for you. You need his support not him pissing off to some boating holiday just becasue you can't go.

Sorry if this all sounds harsh but he shuld be with you.

I agree with everyone else that he should definitely stay with you. My guy has been with me through the days and has gone off with friends a couple of the nights after my abortion, which didn't necessarily bother me. Has your boyfriend talked about it at all? He did want you to have the abortion, right? Men can be so strange sometimes. I am not defending the way he is treating you. But as a woman who just had an abortion, I can tell you talking about it with my husband that he was very scared for me. Scared for me physically and emotionally, but didn't know what to say, and felt there was nothing he could really do to help me. Something that women do need to remember, and i'm not trying to make anyone angry here, is that guys do have feelings where this is concerned too. It should definitely be a woman's choice, and we are definitely going through a hundred times more by all means, but maybe your boyfriend is closing himself off because he's just not dealing with the stress the right way. Maybe he is stressed about your emotional state and is trying to just ignore it, or get away and cut loose as a way of dealing with his stress. In any case, that is b.S. And I would tell him not to go. He needs to be there with you. If he feels the need to do something so badly this weekend, he should include you and make it something non strenuous, like going to dinner with friends, and then a movie maybe. Or a nice "hang out" bar environment. Though I would definitely not recommend you drinking this soon. But these are ways he could include you, where you could enjoy your weekend too, and not exhert too much energy or do too much to cause you discomfort. And if you are not emotionally in the mood to go out, tell him to stay home. There will be other holidays. Though he might be grumpier staying home with you since he had to miss his plans. If he is that way, I think I would be taking a good long look at your relationship.

My husband and I never want babies, so I have had more than one abortion myself..

But he is always very supportive and loving, almost too much.. For me an abortion never affected me, I was just happy to not be pregnant.

He should be supportive, and he should stay at home and be near you..

You did this for you, but you also did it for him too... It is a team effort.

Thank you for your responses. It makes me feel like i'm still normal thinking this. I have talked to him and I don't know what he is going to do. He still hasn't decided but at least we have had a chance to talk and I was able to explain myself to him. It is just so frustrating that they don't fully know what it feels like to have emotions that are all whacked or to know what horrible cramps that almost make you not walk feel like. Sometimes I wish we could change places for a day.

Well, if you feel well enough, you certainly could go boating and fishing, the only thing you couldn't do was go swimming. However, you should still wear a bathing suit and pad, with a pair of swim shorts, and hang out on the beach/poolside. It could even be one of those cute bikini/skirt combinations!You could simply modify the vacation a little so it onvolves more fishing and boating, and less swimming. My boyfriend of two years lives 4 hours away from me, so I guess i'd just never expect him to always be there for me in the physical form, even when we'd lived together for a while.

Life is about adaptation! Don't stop having fun just because you have to wear a pad :)

If you want to go, you could even wear a pair of cut off's and a pad and if someone asks that does not know anything and you do not want them to know just tell them that you are having your period, not everyone has to know unless you want them to. Your b/f should be a little bit more understanding than what he is!