I am 34 years old and feel like my life is
passing me by. I had my whole life
planned out, I was to be married at 25
and have my first child when I was 27.
None of that turend out. I believe I have
always suffered from depression and
anxiety. It was how I was brought up. We
were not aloud to discuss our problems, we
"didn't" have any we were told. I use to
stutter a lot in school and it was hard
for me. I have been in college now for 3
years and am going to be a nurse. But
what scares me is I have my good days and
then there are the bad days. I recently
lost a 5 yr realtionship which was my
fault. I was depressed a lot and felt
like I was not good enough. I am in a
relationship now that is very bad. Hes an
alcoholic and makes me feel even worse,
like everything is my fault. But I seem
to stay for some reason. Like I am
justifying that this is what I get for
screwing up a five year realtionship. I
wish that I had someone to talk to and
understand me or maybe even give me some
suggestion. I feel that I am not good
enough, do not look pretty enough or
anything. On my good days I know that is
not the case and that things could be
worse. Any suggestions or comments?
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 387 Location: Canada
Posted: 08-29-06 08:39am
I'm gonna state the obvious
here......................Get rid of the
drunk........Everyone, including you
deserve better.........Whether you believe
it or not.
And darling we .A.L.L scr*w up, it's part
of life............I'm 43 and i'm still
scr*wing up...............But I have
learned to forgive myself.
Your gonna be a nurse..............Bravo
for you! You'll have good ones
available...................So don't
worry.......................And get rid of
the dead weight. :)
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kwiseman
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Aug 2006 Posts: 5 Location: PA
Spirit Posted: 08-29-06 18:58pm
spirit
wrote:
i'm gonna state the obvious
here......................Get rid of the
drunk........Everyone, including you
deserve better.........Whether you believe
it or not.
And darling we .A.L.L scr*w up, it's part
of life............I'm 43 and i'm still
scr*wing up...............But I have
learned to forgive myself.
Your gonna be a nurse..............Bravo
for you! You'll have good ones
available...................So don't
worry.......................And get rid of
the dead weight.
:)
:) thank you I really needed to hear(read)
that. I know that is a lot of my problem
that I can't forgive myself for the
mistakes I made.
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 387 Location: Canada
Posted: 08-30-06 08:27am
You'll not only be okay.............You'll
be awesome!...............Although not a
religious-type, i'm a firm believer
that...............Everything happens for
a reason..............It wasn't your time
to get married........It wasn't the right
guy etc.........................Just
think, once your a nurse you'll be
surrounded by docs, nurses, paramedics and
firemen..............Ouch, i'm so jealous
I could burst! Lol!
One way I found to get out of depressing
circumstances was to surround myself with
"positive go-getter" type
people.................Even if you think
you have nothing to offer at the
moment................Their zest for life
rubs off on you...............Go gettem
tiger! :)
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kwiseman
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Aug 2006 Posts: 5 Location: PA
Posted: 08-30-06 14:05pm
spirit
wrote:
you'll not only be
okay.............You'll be
awesome!...............Although not a
religious-type, i'm a firm believer
that...............Everything happens for
a reason..............It wasn't your time
to get married........It wasn't the right
guy etc.........................Just
think, once your a nurse you'll be
surrounded by docs, nurses, paramedics and
firemen..............Ouch, i'm so jealous
I could burst! Lol!
One way I found to get out of depressing
circumstances was to surround myself with
"positive go-getter" type
people.................Even if you think
you have nothing to offer at the
moment................Their zest for life
rubs off on you...............Go gettem
tiger! :)
I needed that to,
thank you sooo much! I just got home from
today from class and seeing my 7month old
nephew. I got off the phone with him :x
and I realize that I don't need this. So
I stood up for myself and told him that I
don't needed to be treated that way. I
said am not your taxi driver and your
slave. If you want to be with me then
treat me right.
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 387 Location: Canada
Posted: 09-02-06 06:02am
Sooo how'd it go? I'm just thinking that
once you do start working as a nurse, your
gonna have loong hours with varying
shifts, so it's probably best to figure
out now if this guy's gonna change?How
much?And will it be enough to make you
happy?................Nursing is one of
the most stressful jobs I can think
of.........So you don't need a major
hassle at home too!
Personally if my guy starts to slip ie
taking me for granted or talking down to
me etc..........................It's time
for a little "me-vacation".......With
guys, actions speak louder than
words....
..........If we don't make each other
happy........L. Than what's the point of
dragging it on? :)
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kwiseman
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Aug 2006 Posts: 5 Location: PA
Posted: 09-04-06 07:38am
jsalvador
wrote:
kwiseman,
you've still got a whole lifetime ahead of
you. Sure, it this life we fall and
make mistakes... But you have the choice
to be the victim or the victor. Make
those scars into stars and turn that frown
upside down... :) I say take your life,
let go, and let god work in it and through
it.
If your still suffering from depression
try this:
natural cures,
remedies, and treatments for
depression natural cures,
remedies, and treatments for stress and
anxiety
:cry: thank you both for responding and
giving me advice. I really need and it is
time for me. Whats funny is he says I
think to much about me. Thats impossible,
I have been blowing off my school to take
him there and p/u his daughter and stuff.
But he treats me and talks to me like
that, I don't htink so!
Hope this
helps
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ccris123
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Sep 2006 Posts: 58 Location: Kentucky
Posted: 09-06-06 00:49am
I'm excited you're going to nursing
school. Please, don't keep that drunk
around. It's not good for you at all.
And if you were to have a kid, you
wouldn't want them in that environment.
My life didn't go as planned either. I
was one of the top students in high
school. Went to college, dropped out.
Had a son when I was 20. Was in an
abusive relationship. I finally gathered
the courage to pack up and leave. I've
met a lot of good people and supportive
people. I lost my job due to my son's
medical conditions, lost my apartment, and
hit rock bottom. I was so depressed that
I almost ended it all. My brother found
me balled up in a corner and he was my
saving grace. I went to nursing school,
worked full time as a nursing assistant
while doing it, and now my life (even
though it's still an up and down battle)
is starting to get back on track. I am 26
and have found the guy of my dreams. I'm
a cancer survivor. I'm a domestic
violence and stalker survivor. I decided
I needed to work on what was going to make
me happy. I haven't completely found it
yet, but i'm getting there. Life happens
for a reason and sometimes it just doesnt
make sense. Had I not hit that bottom and
gotten out of that relationship, i'd
probably be dead right now. Sometimes it
helps to start over. Go out a little.
Make some new friends. And most
importantly, don't let nursing school
go!!!! It's a wonderful achievement. It
opened so many new doors for me. And the
one post was right. There are lots of
nurses, doctors, paramedics, etc. To
meet!!!!! Everyone loves a nurse. And
one day, your prince will come. And if
you want a child, that will happen when
the time is right. Heck, my mother didn't
have my sister until her late 30s.
Anything is possible!!!!
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dead little me
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Sep 2006 Posts: 40
Posted: 09-18-06 09:20am
Hey this is no way near what you are going
through but I feel that I screwed up a
nine month relationship the best thing to
ever happen in my life but im fighting for
it.
I know that you are with this other person
but if you feel so strongly about the
other relationship is it not worth
fighting for???
Talk to the other person, apologise, talk
things through, try. Dont let if slip
through your fingers. At least try and
then if you cant be with this person then
move on efventually because then you can
stop blaming yourself because you tried to
make a right.
Some things in life happen for a reason
and me and my bf hurt and I no its my
fault but I have ahd to pick my self up
and try and find happiness although I love
im dearly but my advice to you is to fight
for this other person the 5 year person
because 5 years is a long time to just
throw away xxxx sorry if others think that
I am wrong. Good luck with what you
decide to do and I hope that it works for
you
