|I guess I'm perplexed, and it's hard not to take the highs and lows personally. I am a pretty understanding person, but can't fathom why my bf just drops off the face of the earth. Doesn't call. Doesn't write. Doesn't let me know what's happening, and then the next time I see him it's like nothing's happened. I used to call all the time and try and make this work. Make plans only to have them broken. I can't do that anymore.
The manic phases, at the beginning of the relationship, were wonderful. The newness and excitement of falling in love matched well with the mania he exhibited. Saying he loved me. Expressing care and concern. Now, when things seem to be settling in, he disrupts everything and pushes me away.
It seems as though he has a fundamental lack of respect or consideration for my feelings or time. I have been more than accommodating, and it seems as though the more I bend, the more he tries to break me. And that's hard to put up with.
I do love him, and want to be there for him, but it's killing me to be in a relationship with someone who is either unwilling or unable to emotionally connect and have empathy.
I would like to add a caveat to the statements above. I think it's fine to be in a relationship with someone who is bipolar. But, only if the person is honest about themselves and willing to seek the necessary help they so rightly deserve. Being with someone with an untreated illness is painful to say the least, and it's taken me a long time to realize that I can't do this anymore. And it breaks my heart.