I know this isn't the right place for this topic but there is a lot of moms that read topics in this room:
my mom wants to be in the delivery room with me and my husband. But I don't think I want her in there. Me and my husband have talked about it and he said he thinks it should be a bonding time between me him and our first child. Whats your guys opinions? Am I being selfish that I don't want her in the room with us?
I would also like to know a mom point a view that has either experienced or is going to experience theyre daughter giving birth. Would your feelings be hurt is your daughter told you she didn't want you in the delivery room?
Last edited by aduke00 on August 23rd, 2006 03:43 PM; edited 1 time in total
No way! It is your birth, you should be allowed to have who you want in the room. You get the make the decision on who should be in there. You can request with the hospital staff that no one other than your husband be present at the birth (other than hospital staff) and they will respect that by keeping your mom out.
My doctor noticed that whenever my mom came into the room, I got agitated. He asked her to leave. She got to come in afterwards.
The good thing about babies is we get to take them home with us! Your mom will have plenty of time to bond and get to know your baby later. Enjoy your birth.
No she does not have to be in there.Yes she may be hurt but if you don't want to hurt her tell your doc and have him tell her only your hubby is allowed for fear of stressing you out too much.Thats what I would do anyway.Enjoy your baby!
Yes fairy godmothers are moms too.......23 years ago my mother and my husband were in the room with me, up until I had to have an emergency c-section. Your mother is going to feel hurt, coming from a mom, its a maternal kind of hurt. Unless you are someones mother you can't understand this. Also, unless you have a close relationship with your own mother, of course its understandable you do not wish for her to be in the birthing room with you. My mother is like one of my best friends....Unlike my daughter and myself. There is probably no way she would want me in the room either....And I would not feel hurt. I would understand. If you can talk to your mother, talk to her about how you feel. If not, ask your Dr. Too. I would want my daughter to talk to be beforehand so there aren't any suprises and I wouldn't have my hopes all built up. Your mother will understand......If she doesn't then I feel thats being just plain selffish........