You are definatly not being selfish!!! And dont let anyone push you in to making a decision you arent happy with. My husband and I didn't want anyone else there either (lets face it there are enough people seeing you in all your glory without adding your mum to it). If you have problems telling her that you don't want her there then do what my husband and I did, we didn't tell anyone when we went to hospital, my husband rang them all not long after and said that it all happened too quick :-)
giving birth is a very personal thing and I know that for me I just wanted it to be us there, it was our baby being born and we didn't want anyone else to share that experience with anyone else and so we had some time to adore our baby in peace before everyone else turned up, and a bit of privacy!

I dont think you are being selfish but at the same time I had my mom with me the first time and it was very reassuring she helped me stay away from pain meds and told the nurses to bug off when I didnt want them around. If my mom wasnt there I would have had my baby on a chair in that case I appreciated it, with my second child im happy my mom wasnt there it was a bonding between me and baby and the nurses werent in face all the time thank god.

Why would you have had to have you baby in a chair?

Hi there. In my opinion, it is up to you and your husband whether your mom is in the room with you while you deliver! I, personally had my mom in the room with all 3 of my deliveries. She was actually very good, sweet and helpful. My ex hubby appreciated all her help I think!! On the other hand, it is a bonding time with your, your hubby and your first baby! Can I ask why you dont want her in there? Is she an over bearing type? Etc? My mom is very over bearing, but I was amazed how she was in my deliveries! Good luck to you guys and congrats on your baby!

Jeannine

There is some conflict between me and my mom.. She trys to be nice but yea I guess she is a little over bearing.

My mom is very, very overbearing! She wants everything her way, or no way at all! That is why I was so very surprised how good she was in the delivery room with me!! She kept her mouth shout and even had a wet washclothe for my face and lips. I was truly in shock! Lol

jeannine

Is this your moms first grandchild? I dont think that you are being selfish, but think of it this way. If the child that you are having is a girl, and she was going to have a baby wouldn't you want to be there for her? That is how someone put it to me one time. Do what is best for you and your husband, but dont let anyone make the decision for you. Think hard on how you feel not your husband and not anyone else. Good luck to you.

My mum and I have a great relationship we are more friends than mum and daughter but giving birth was one thing I didn't want to share with her and she was happy with that as she didn't want to see me going through child brith. My husband also didn't want her there (or anyone else) and I had to respect his wishes aswell, it just so happened that they were the same as mine. At the end of the day the decision is yours to make and if you get to the hospital and decide that you do want her there then (as long as she doesn't live too far away) you could always get your husband to give her a call.

I was in the same situation. But I told me mom that this was something that I just wanted my husband and myself to do. Your mom should respect that, and you should stick to what you want so you don't regret anything after.

This is your delivery, and you should have it the way you want it.

Good luck

I can't imagine not having my mom there, but we are really close. I think it is up to you and your husband and if you don't want her there, then I would just tell her. It is your baby and your labor-make the decision that is best for you and your baby.

Hope that helps! :d

When i had my First and only son,I wanted to have a bonding experience also (just my husband, me and the baby)as it turns out Everyone was their. Before i can realize it they were all their. And could not say go away because they were all their. I guess my husband called them. my mom was there(Well I guess everyone was their like if it was a party LOL) my mother in law, my sister in law and 2 of my sisters in the room...My dad, father in law, brother and 2 brother in laws were outside. If I had to do it again i would do it just my husband and me.

Well I know this post is 2 1/2 years old, I had a very quick and easy delivery Nobody had time to make it. My mom arrived about an hour after my daughter was born and my mother in law was there is like 40 mins after she was born.. so it worked out great.. Now I am pregnant with number two (hopefully a boy this time) and I hope it works out this good as it did with my daughters birth... Thanks for all the reply's! Sorry for the late update...