|second off, if she refuses to go down but you are doing it constantly, then you need to stop it is not fair that she gets it all the time and you dont|
i'm going to disagree with you on that on hun.
It's totally wrong to blackmail her into giving head if she isn't comfortable doing it.
If you are happy giving oral and she isn't then it's up to you to give it but if she isn't happy doing it then you should respect that.
Sex is about respect not about receiving.