Maybe she just doesn't want to and you'll just have to get over it.Your lucky any way cause most the girls I know wont give head at all.Not all girls like doing it and if they do,they don't like having a penis shoved down their throat all the time.

Do you do the same to her?

When I read something like this, I always wonder if it isn't my own boyfriend writing in. :)

i like to give head, but I don't like to do it as much as he wants. I mean, he'd like it every night, right? How often do you want her to perform it? What is your idea of "very rarely"? She might think otherwise, you never know.

Make sure you're clean. Maybe shower right beforehand. That helps me! Be vocal. I like to do it more when I know he really enjoys it.
Give her pointers; maybe she doesn't think she's good at it?

I think this is very important: tell her that there's no pressure to "make" you ejaculate. If she thinks the pressure's off, then she won't feel obligated to go forever, and might enjoy it more. Of course you want to ejaculate, but you might have to go without a couple times so she understands that you're sincere about it.

Of course, tell her when you're about to come so she has options! Many girls don't like to be "surprised" by a mouthful of semen. Have you tasted your semen before? If not, why? You can't expect a girl to lap it up and be disgusted by it yourself. :)

try doing "69". Not my favorite thing, I like to concentrate on one thing at a time, but maybe you can start by 69 and then give each other head separately.

Watch porn together.

I hope this helps! Good luck.

I didnt say I wanted it all the time. More than once a month would be cool though. And im very patient, im not a guy that shoves it in. Shes not down with that.

Oh and to answer your question, yes I do go down on her all the time and I enjoy doing so (i made the mistake of telling her this, so she kinda uses this against me by saying that she doesnt really like giving head whereas I do). She gets it a little less than usual lately cuz the pube situation has gotten out of control (and she got mad when I commented on the fact that its hard to do when ive got to keep pulling hair off my tongue) and I do a much more thorough job when its better maintained. If she cant grasp this fact thats her problem. She gets it wayyyyyy more than I do.

Wow,if I were you I would stop doing it so much.Maybe she'll start missing it and tell her "well,you don't do it for me so i'm not doing it" and sdon't let her use that excuse "you like to do it more than me".Just say "well I don't like getting a mouth full of hair!" and see what she says.Other than that there isn't much you can do besides what the above poster said,that you can do about it.

Lmao!~

just wait till you get married and have kids, you'll never wear the much loved "tonsil hat" again!

depends who you marry!

I agree that more than once a month is hardley being demanding but as it obviously bothers you then I think you're going to have to bring it up with her - don't be harsh or demanding but maybe just mention that you love it when she goes down on you and maybe you'd like it to happen a little more frequently. Unfortunately talking openly is sometimes the only way around things like this.
If she's desparately uncomfortable doing it then ask if there's anything you can do to make it better for her etc...

Good luck!!

Wait until 2 or 3 kids come along and the only head youll be getting is a sore one lol x nite

I think it really depends on the woman. I've been married for almost 10 years, and I give head a few times a month (some months are more productive than others). Maybe your girlfriend thinks that it's boring? I have to get pretty turned on first before I want to do it. I feel very sexy and "in charge," and usually suck on his fingers first, which drives him mad, and makes me want to do it more. Sometimes it's fine for it to be all about him, but others I need some action too. I hate 69 though (too distracting), so fingers are fine for me and then I get off after he does. Maybe you just need variety. Location? If she's always doing it in the same place at the same time of day (or night, whatever) then that could get old after a while. Also, she might just not be turned on enough before she gets propositioned. Women need to be warmed up, and it doesn't just have to be all about sex. During the day make eye contact with her, talk to her, touch her hair or her back when you walk past her, sneak a kiss. If that doesn't put her in a lovey-dovey mood then you may have to trade her in (kidding).

Should I be asking for it, or shouldnt it just come natural?

Asking once is ok - asking over and over again is not.

If she doesn't want to do it or doesn't like doing it then you can't make her do it - either you love her for herself and live with it or head is more important and you find a girl who likes doing it.

Btw the worst turn off is a man who isn't clean ugh - even at the end of a working day it can be a little "unfresh" down there - cleanliness all the way.

May be a man out there can lighten us on how they like on getting head

Have to comment on two things

one im married and nothing has gone down hill/lack off.....

Second off, if she refuses to go down but you are doing it constantly, then you need to stop it is not fair that she gets it all the time and you dont......

On another point she does need to shave if she wants it done pubes are actually not clean an collect dirt I think you need to phrase things differently!!!

i'm going to disagree with you on that on hun.
It's totally wrong to blackmail her into giving head if she isn't comfortable doing it.

If you are happy giving oral and she isn't then it's up to you to give it but if she isn't happy doing it then you should respect that.

Sex is about respect not about receiving.

but it should also be a give and take sitiuation as well, im not saying blackmail but if she enjoys it and she doesnt want to give any to her man how would she feel not have it?

That to me is irrelevant and a very chauvenistic (sp) approach.


No one should be made to perform a sex act they are not comfortable doing.

If he doesnt' want to go down on her fair enough, but just because he does go down on her that is no reason to make her feel guilty or pressured into doing something she is uncomfortable with.


My fella is not comfortable going down, never has been and never will - I respect that and he pleasures me in other ways.

I'd not dream of saying "i'm not giving you a blow job because you won't go down".


I give head because I want to not because I want something in return.

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read your post again and I think I see what you are getting at so to put it another way - yes, pleasure for pleasure is fair enough.
But that doesn't mean giving head for going down, there are plenty ways to pleasure your partner.

I think that is a case by case call. Some people are selfish in the bed, and need a wake up call. So not going down on her might work for him if his gf is such a girl.

Other girls are just prudes, and no matter what will not go down on a man. So the guy not going down on the gf in this case would not help.

So akward has to decide that one for himself, and I feel both of you are right.

If it was me, I would not go down on her. If it does not work, then I have the future choice to go down on her or not. If I kept going down on her and she does not change, there will always be that question.

Personally I think she is being selfish. I think for mostly everyone, oral sex in the beggining was gross. But we acquired a taste for it. She should get off her ass and catch-up.

What good reason is there to make someone give head if they don't like it.

Sex is not a tit for tat thing it is sharing pleasure - and giving head is not the only way to give pleasure.

Well now...
Have you tried buying her some flavored lube? Flavored condoms even? It makes teh job much more tasty. I don't really give a **** myself, I love doing it for my man. It makes me feel sexy. But for some girls, it makes them feel uncomfortable and dirty.
Speaking of dirt...Would you go down on a girl who hasn't showered for a couple days? No. And guys have the same problem with odors. Nothing is a bigger turn off than tasting sweat and urine when you're trying to get into teh mood. And that's another thing, I know some girls who won't give head unless they are turned on. So warm her up first. Let her experiment too. Just make her feel comfortable. And if all else fails.........Break a couple of your ribs and do it yourself! Lol. Jj