What We Specifically Want - Suggestions In Here!

Hear hear!


I'm sick to death of those goddam "am I pregnant?" topics - they are repetative and they crop up at least twice a week. The pregnancy and teen pregnancy forums should be for what they were before - a chance to show of baby and belly pics, to talk about how life is going, to vent about b*tchy bosses and jerkoff ex-boyfriends, to talk about worries over labor and delivery, and to laugh and cry about parenting woes and joys. This is what it always was before (along with a few fakers in the mix). What's the point of these forums if al they're for is the doing it "am I pregnant" posts?

This going downhill quickly. I'm just at a loss to understand why mods had to ruin a perfectly good things.

I want to be apble to celebrate my babies birth and post my childrens topics. I think as long as you have been on here whilst pregnant, the babies that resulted from this pregnancy should be able to be posted about.

I hear ya but we have to break this down.
Are you saying you want all pregnancy and birth in one forum?
Are you saying you want a picture forum?
Are you saying you want a pregnancy and a post pregnancy (ie parenting) forum?

If you were new here and looking specifically for a pregnancy answer, would you find having post-pregnancy/parenting stuff all mixed together confusing?

Tell me if I am wrong but I suggest the best way would be to have pregnancy and post-pregnancy (ie parenting/babies, etc) as separate forums.

Yes, babies are the end result of pregnancy but they are such a large part do you not think they deserve their own space?

Yeah but kia, there is that already and the other forums very rarely get used. Everyone just comes on here. It would be best if we have it all together as people would just post questions and get an answer. Its been running fine like that ever since I joined

Ok so you would rather have it all in together?
Pregnancy and post-pregnancy and babies?

I personally would but I can't speak for everyone on here

If all the posts are in their respective place then all these women would search out and explore the other forums. So, I dont even see what the disagreement is all about. If someone posts pictures in a different forum then everyone will go there to see them. If someone has their baby then everyone will go to new births or something like that to see the posts about it.

It's okay---chill a little, ya'all. Change is good.

Yes, a certain place for pic would be a nice thing---just pictures. A chat window--or just chat forum would be okay. Then everyone would be there---right?

Okay, what I want:

if a topic is not offensive, inconsiderate, or unsupportive, please leave it alone. Trust us to post where we feel comfortable. A baby picture post in the pregnancy section will not kill anyone, and in fact (strangely enough) pregnant women like looking at little babies. It might have a little bit to do with *growing* a baby, but who am I to say.

I don't think we need a separate forum for pictures. I think they're fine where they're at. There are plenty of forums on here that rarely get used as it is. That's why many new mothers (myself included) take such offense when our innocent posts get moved to a forum that hasn't seen daylight in months, while the constant "am I preg?" posts are left, despite the sticky entitled "before you post..."

i think a post should only be moved if it has absolutely nothing to do with the topic... Say, a woman asking if she should get an abortion. That clearly has no place in a pregnancy forum where women *want* their babies. And it should only be locked if it is causing drama or is otherwise offensive and unsupportive.

This is my opinion.

Yeah we were talking about "mods not doing their jobs" because every other day we'd have newbs in here starting trouble, making fun of everyones children and calling us names and making horrible personal attacks to everyone and nothing would be done about it. Sometimes a mod here or there would join along in it, and making personal attacks on this forum is a big no no. Thats what we were talking about when we said the mods weren't doing their jobs, because rarley did those people get banned (i understand that you aren't the ones to do the banning), or the topics get locked, and if they did it was after 15 different pages of the same fight over and over and over.

You want to act all strict now, but what about when the whole fat family thing was going on, mods would make posts about her to make fun of her and nobody stopped it, after a while and having 10 different posts going about her at once they did, but there was still one going where all people did was make fun of her, I know that if that happened now itd be locked on the first page but hers went til like page 47 or something, how is that fare? Mods (no one specific) want to make fun of her because people think its funny but then a few months later we can't even make posts reguarding our children!

I just think we should have everything together like it used to be. You can't make everyone happy but that's what were all used to...

I think that the occassional picture post in the pregnancy forum isn't going to do any harm. If newbies come here &need to ask a question, they will ask it &it will get answered- no matter what other topics are floating around right then. It isn't fair to move others' topics completely out of nowhere to somewhere that no one would even think of looking for it. Like macysmama's picture post being moved to baby q&a? It doesn't make any sense. We are all friends here &.I think that a public forum should be moderated- but not so strictly that we can't even post a topic letting our friends here know what's going on in our lives. Newbies will come &go. But what about those of us who have been here for a while? We're important, too. Moderate the drama. Not the light hearted, friendly conversation. Directly pregnancy related or not.

I suggest we just leave everything alone... And only move the topics that absolutely need to be moved.. Like abortion, and miscarriage threads, and delete those that need to be deleted... Those that everyone .K.N.O.W.S will cause drama. When we post about our bosses, or dh's, or personal problems they shouldnt be locked or moved or deleted as long as they remain sane and respectful.

We complained about mods not doing jobs, pertaining to controlling the cursing, the slander, and the ridiculing each others opinions. We didnt complain at all about picture posts not belonging here, or that we didnt want to read about our friends problems.

Merging the pregnancy forums together would just cause a mish mash of crap and make things too complicated and lengthy.

Leave all alone. Do whats necessary instead of wasting so much time and energy moving and deleting topics that dont need to be. Seems easy enough.

I 100% agree with .Sandra.
Just leave all as it is.
&.Only moderate the drama.
The cursing, the rude remarks,
personal attacks, etc.

How can you lock posts/delete them when majority of things can be applied by the word pregnat

dictionary term
archaic : cogent
2 : abounding in fancy, wit, or resourcefulness : inventive <all this has been said...By great and pregnant artists -- times literary supplement>
3 : rich in significance or implication : meaningful, profound <the pregnant phrases of the bible -- edmund wilson>
4 : containing a developing embryo, fetus, or unborn offspring within the body : gravid
5 : having possibilities of development or consequence : involving important issues : momentous <draw inspiration from the heroic achievements of that pregnant age -- kemp malone>
6 obsolete : inclined, disposed <your own most pregnant and vouchsafed ear -- shakespeare>

pregnancy can have metaphors meaning growth

birth is part of a pregnancy and so baby pic/info is part of the pregnancy I hope you can respect that and stop bloody moving things where they dont belong.


The reason mods com in is because of bunch of us ge out of hand and then the mods get out of hand when is this doing it cycle going to end, why dont you just let us post..


I post about dh when it involves my kids which yes were from a pregnancy but anyways ill leav it there..


My opinion things that should be allowed in pregnancy forum
~pregnancy questions
~birthing questions
~marital/bf problem (pregnancy not only changes a woman it changes the whole family)
~finicial problems (who hasnt gone in debt after having a kid)
pictures yes kids are part of pregnancy and just because they grow up does no mean they didnt come from a pregnancy
~venting unfortunatly pregnant woman are hormonal and do need to get stuff off their heads
~people who have advice to share with other pregnant moms
~moms, every mom should have a right to post whos to say we cant we were pregnant once even the moms who adopted kids we are humans and by not allowing us speech you have become prejudist to moms.

Therefore how can this place be relaxed with someone breathing down our necks why not make it balanced like it was before, drama will never leave every woman has a drama queen in her


what I dont agreee on is people who sit their and call ppl morons cause thyey think they have no faults but anyways we wont go there.


Merging the teen preggo and preggo forum would actually be a bad idea because some adult dont agree with it and avoid it for a reason teens need their own place without an adult looking down on them with disgrace every second.

If the forums are not merged then you will have to post in the relevant forums.

So you either want to post all in one merged forum or you want (and will use) separate forums.

Trying to work out here what you want.

Because as it reads right now - you want separate forums for different areas of pregnancy but you want to pick and chose what you post where.
Those two are mutually exclusive.

If you want separate forums you will have to post in the correct heading.
If you don't want to be restricted by that then you'll want a merged forum.

See this is where the problems come from.
Wanting things that can not possibly go together.

What .I don't understand is why it all of a sudden has to change.
Things have always been fine &worked well this way.
There will always be drama, &that is what you should
worry about moderating.

You told us to tell you what we want,
but really it just doesn't seem like it matters.

I am just getting so frustrated.
This is so pointless, &all it's doing
is upsetting everyone.

Arcadia it has always been a vicious cycle..


We get out of hand and then the mods do (no names) and anyways we are both at fault after things start to lighten up one of us will go into a full drama queen (no names) and well things will start off again..

In a weird way I miss fatfamily that was the laugh of a lifetime, but hey it made my day and I see she posted again joanna im hoping you arent preggo again. No we wont bite your head off some os uf will accept you just dont tell us your preggo lol