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Q: 15 And Frightened
asked by: DamagedSoul15 on January 20th, 2004
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This is so embarrassing :opps: ok there is something that has been bothering me constantly for the past month... Recently my what is now x boyfriend and I had sex for the second time(in his car) yeah I know thats bad but anyway.. I came to find out that he had his friends in the back seat listening in.. So of course I dumped him but 2 weeks ago I was supposed to get my period and it still hasn't showed.. I have been on a major hunger strike.. Im not sure if thats cause for a growth spirt..But with the missed period to me it all runs together.. I have breast soreness, I feel sleepy all the time .. I can hardly forcus.. I feel sick constantly.. I can hardly go anywhere without being/feeling like I am going to be sick.. Im not sure if im just over reactting.. But I just hope that im not pregnant because not only and im not ready but my ex boyfriend would make a miserable father.. I wish I would have been more careful but I can't go back now.. So please can someone help me .. Im going crazy with fear. Crying or Very sad
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anorexicbeauty
replied on January 20th, 2004
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Take a test hun! But it sounds like you could be!
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Neva Whittaker
replied on January 20th, 2004
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Please Go Take a Test
Yeah he was a real jerk and I hope for you that you r not because it sounds like u dont want to be pregnant at least not from him so I would take a test to make
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DamagedSoul15
replied on January 20th, 2004
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15 And Frightened
Thanks you guys.. This is scary enough but going through it alone is worse.. Well thanks to you guys I won't have to .. Im going to call my ex and atleast talk to him about it..That night went so fast I am trying to put it all back together.. Im going to have him take me to a clinic or to get me a pregnancy test and then I am going to take it to find out for sure.. I am just scared that I am pregnant and I don't want to have a baby .. Im only 15 and I have my whole life ahead of me .. And it kills me to see these girls on here .. 15 & 16 saying how they want to have a baby.. And it's like .. You don't have the attention and finacial stability to have a baby yet. I was so scared to say anything to anyone because I thought people would think I was a prostitute or a promiscuous person.. We all have urges and make mistakes but if I am pregnant I am never ever going to tell my child that they were a mistake..But instead remind them everyday that I love them no matter what. Thanks for listeneing
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Neva Whittaker
replied on January 20th, 2004
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That is a very mature thing for you to say
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anorexicbeauty
replied on January 20th, 2004
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Thats is very mature of you! I gave birth to my first son 4 days after I turned 16. My second son when I was 19 and my 3rd baby, a girl, when I was 22. I will be 23 on the 25th and it is hard, but if your pregnant you can do it!
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DamagedSoul15
replied on January 20th, 2004
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15 And Frightened
Hey you guys check this out... I just called my x boyfriend and told him I needed to meet and talk with him sometime this week and he was like why ..And I told him it was personal and he was like ...Well to bad I don't care.. I have other stuff to do.. See this is why I don't want to be pregnant and if I am ...His attitude is going to stress me out even more then I already am . I just feel abcolutly miserable
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Neva Whittaker
replied on January 20th, 2004
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I agree having a baby young does not mean the end of the road it is just a pot hole in the road drive around it or over it just make sure that you past it dont let it be what makes you turn around
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PregnaJordan
replied on January 20th, 2004
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Go take a test and keep us posted on the results!
Jordan
june 23 (im only 17!), but im fine!
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Abril4
replied on January 20th, 2004
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15 And Frightened
Hi there,

i hope you are doing ok, even considering that you must be pretty stressed out. I don't know if you need advice, but just in case here it goes, and see if you can use any of what I say...


Do you have an adult you trust that you can talk to about this? Someone who is not going to panic or make you feel bad about yourself? If you feel like there is someone older you can trust, you might want to tell this person, and maybe they can help you out, because it doesn't sound like your x is going to be a source of much support. If you do tell someone, please remember that none has the right to make you feel bad about this, ok? It doesn't change who you are, or how good you are, or anything like that.


I don't know in what area of the country you are, but you might want to check out if there is a planned parenthood their website is www.Plannedparenthood.Org center near where you live. They can give you a pregnancy test, provide you with information on what to do if you are pregnant, and give you information on contraception (if you are not for the future!).


You can also check out some of these to see if they can direct you to more specific places in your area that might be able to help you out:

www.Advocatesforyouth.Org (website with information for young people about sexuality&pregnancy)

teen education and crisis hotline 1-800-367-7287

www.Thehelpline.Org (for advice on what to do if you are pregnant)

these are just some, but remember you are not alone, and there are a lot of resources out there, and people that can help you out...You just have to find them.


Best of luck! And let us know what happens
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allusivepond
replied on January 20th, 2004
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Stessing out is not going to help u, neither are what ifs u are saying what if im pregnant what will I do and I know u are trying to be mature about this and that has to be comended but u are better off to just bite the bullet and test that way u are in a better position to know what u should do and we are in a better position to give advice.

I know it may be scary but what is worse the knowing or the not knowing

from someone who cant wait to have a jelly bean all of their own
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kellyjt
replied on January 21st, 2004
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Hey, don't be so hard on yourself. As for the rude guy that is immature don't waste your energy on him right now. Save it for down the road if you choose. It doesn't sound like he's going to be of any help anyway. Find out about planned parenthood if there is one in your area or call around to find a clinic that is for those that do not have health ins. These people are usually very nice and helpfull.
We can tell you not to stress but it's hard not to worry and think about it I bet. If there is anyone you can trust to confide in that would help get things off your shoulders a bit, but first you need to find out yes or no before it gets too crazy. Let us know how your hanging in there... Kellyjt
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KariM18
replied on January 21st, 2004
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Hey hun.. Remember, if u are pregnannt, and dont think u can or want to have it at this time. .There are soo many people just waiting to adopt* but goodluck hun.. Sounds like ur in a hard spot. . The father of my soon-to-be is alot liek this jerk!
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insurancegirl
replied on January 21st, 2004
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I'm sorry you are going through this, but just remember, if you are preg...It is a blessing. In the teen pregnancy forum, we have a tight support group...And we would love for you to be a part of our "family". I know this guy is being a jerk and you don't want to have his kis, but things happen for a reason. I'm sorry that you are scared, but we will help you through this. Just get a test and let us know what happens.

Good luck,

jennifer Laughing
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DamagedSoul15
replied on January 21st, 2004
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15 And Frightened
First of all I want to thank everyone for their support..It really means alot to me exspecially at a time like this..Currently I have talked to my x and he is willing to go and by me a test , so hopefully tomorrow I will be able to find out whats going on and then go from there.. I took some of your advice and talked to a teacher/friend and she said that if my x doesn't get the test for me then she is willing to get the test for me and then she said she will help if I need anything so it's great to know people won't shut you out or make you feel bad about what you have done. It's hard enough being worried and stressed out let alone someone making you feel bad.. Well I will keep you guys updated day to day.. Thanks again

damagedsoul15
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