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Q: Husbands/boyfriends And Pregnancy

asked by: Sophie585 on August 16th, 2006

Experienced User

Hey everyone..... I haven't posted here in awhile because i've been so busy working... As of now i'm working between 50 and 60 hours a week. Its very tiring, but me and my boyfriend are both working non stop to try and save up some money for when the baby gets here. Its hard, and frusterating, because I really don't feel like working all the time, and having no social life, but I guess it will all work out.

So the reason for this post.....Did any of you girls notice a big change in your relationships with your husbands/boyfriends while you were pregnant? Because something feels different between me and my boyfriend.... I don't know what, but something does. We haven't been really fighting a lot, but i'm just getting stressed out over everything. We have money to support the baby, and ourselves, but i'm just scared nothing will be good enough for when the baby gets here. And i'm afraid that when I get further along he won't find me attractive anymore. I know he loves me, and he always assures me that nothing will change with the way he loves me, but I can't help feeling that everything will change... I'm afraid i'll be tying him down to a life he doesn't want.

But then I get confused because he has given me no reason to feel this way... Like its all in my head.

And I still haven't told my parents....But i'm going to have to soon, because i'm starting to gain a little weight... Not a lot yet, but some of my jeans are starting to get tight. But i'm still soooo scared to tell them! How far along were some of you guys when you started to obviously show?

Thanks!! :p <3

Replies(10)

Nataliachick7

replied on August 16th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

Everything w.I.L.L. Change. A baby changes everything. The most important thing is good communication between you guys. Babies can be stressful and they can make your relationship stressful. Its important to be patient and understanding of eachother.

I didnt show till about 6 months, but every one is different. I think yuo should tell your parents soon...The longer you wait the harder it will be.

arcadia

replied on August 16th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

My boyfriend &.I's relationship has definitely changed.
We don't fight as much, but .I've noticed there's more
stress on our relationship. He does everything ever
possible for me, &.I think it's stressing him out, which
in turn is stressing me out. &.We're both trying to
work so hard for this baby. So it is difficult. But our
communication is so much better for some reason.
It's like we are just better understanding of eachother.

&.You definitely need to tell your parents .A.S.A.P.
I was going to wait until .I was about 4 months to
tell my parents. &.I'm so glad .I told them early.
It's so amazing to have their support &have them
know. I'm not carrying around a big secret, &
they're so great about it. Tell them! It's a good thing.

Becky

replied on August 17th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

With my first pregnancy I was such a health forum to my husband I don't know why he stayed with me. Even though we were married we couldn't afford a place of our own so we were living at my mil's house. I hated it. I wanted a place of our own and we moved during the pregnancy which was way stressful.
Luckily my hubby went on to get a really good job and we managed to get a 3 bedroomed house but that was a really testing time for us. My point is if you are strong then nothing will bring you down. We are on our 3rd now and nothing fazes my hubby.
I was irrational with my first pregnancy trying to start fights all the time and I got diagnosed with antenatal depression. I then went on to get postnatal depression and had a black cloud hanging over me for some time.
I started showing around 5-6 months but this time I was showing at 3 months! Lol.

Good luck with everything. I hope it works put for you.

Cambion

replied on August 17th, 2006

Active User, very eHealthy

If preparing for and having a child is so hard and frustrating, why are you choosing to be parents? Why do it when you're so young when you could wait until you're more financially stable and not working yourselves into an early grave? Forgive me for asking this - i've seriously just never understood the logic of teen parents.

A baby will change everything, especially things between you and your partner. You'll disagree on parenting techniques, you'll both be stressed out and probably argue over nothing because of the stress, and life will be miserable more often than not. But if your relationship is built upon a strong foundation, you will persevere through the hardships. Also, just know that there's no such thing as a beautiful pregnant woman - all women will become unattractive when they start to show. But that's the sacrifice mothers make for their kids - their bodies and their beauty. If your boyfriend stays away from you because he finds your body repulsive, then I would strongly consider asking yourself what you're doing staying with him. I am not saying this to be mean or to just pick on you - i'm stating the truth. I apologize if it's something you cannot handle.

Out of curiousity, are you doing the whole "i'm not going to tell my parents until i'm six months gone so they can't make me abort" thing? I notice more and more pregnant teens doing this.

Melissa_20

replied on August 17th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

cambion wrote:

also, ust know that there's no such thing as a beautiful pregnant woman - all women will become unattractive when they start to show. but that's the sacrifice mothers make for their kids - their bodies and their beauty.

are your incredibly kidding me? What planet do you come from saying "there is no such thing a as beautiful pregnant woman"? I have seen very few pregnant women who were not beautiful and didnt look good and thats because they weighed 1000 pounds befrore getting pregnant.Being pregnant is a beautiful thing and it in no way means you are unattractive.That is just rediculous!

Emma2

replied on August 17th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

cambion wrote:

if preparing for and having a child is so hard and frustrating, why are you choosing to be parents? Why do it when you're so young when you could wait until you're more financially stable and not working yourselves into an early grave? Forgive me for asking this - i've seriously just never understood the logic of teen parents.

A baby will change everything, especially things between you and your partner. You'll disagree on parenting techniques, you'll both be stressed out and probably argue over nothing because of the stress, and life will be miserable more often than not. But if your relationship is built upon a strong foundation, you will persevere through the hardships. Also, just know that there's no such thing as a beautiful pregnant woman - all women will become unattractive when they start to show. But that's the sacrifice mothers make for their kids - their bodies and their beauty. If your boyfriend stays away from you because he finds your body repulsive, then I would strongly consider asking yourself what you're doing staying with him. I am not saying this to be mean or to just pick on you - i'm stating the truth. I apologize if it's something you cannot handle.

Out of curiousity, are you doing the whole "i'm not going to tell my parents until i'm six months gone so they can't make me abort" thing? I notice more and more pregnant teens doing this.

i have to agree with alot of what you've said in regards to teens and pregnancy but I am replused by your comment and views on pregnant women being replusive to men. First of all thats your opinion and >n>o>t> all men would agree with you. My bf loves my pregnant body and wants sex just as much as he did before and he gets it too! Your views are solely yours and shouldnt be voiced because you sound like a stup!D shallow fool and quite frankly very ignorant!

Nataliachick7

replied on August 17th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

cambion wrote:

also, just know that there's no such thing as a beautiful pregnant woman - all women will become unattractive when they start to show. But that's the sacrifice mothers make for their kids - their bodies and their beauty. .

umm...What?! Have you seen heidi klum? Elizabeth hurley? Cindy crawford? Posh spice? Wow you are dumb!

Cambion

replied on August 17th, 2006

Active User, very eHealthy

As far as i'm concerned, if a man loves his partner, he will find her beautiful no matter what...Pregnant belly and stretch marks or not. In general, those are not attractive features, but some people can get over those traits and see the woman for who she is...Spouses and boyfriends, hopefully. But if you present a typical single man with two women - a bloated stretch-marked pregnant woman and a slim-figured woman, he will most likely choose the latter...Unless he has a pregnancy fetish. So if your boyfriend loves your pregnant body (or pretends to, whichever), then good for him. It means he truly cares for you if he can look beyond the bloat and see the woman he fell in love with.

Engorged bellies on obese people are not found to be attractive by general standards, and neither are pregnant bellies. People might consider pregnancy to be a miracle (whatever), but the damage it does to the woman's body is not beautiful. That's like saying slash marks on someone's wrists are beautiful. I have nothing against heavy-set people (or people struggling with depression), either - i'm overweight myself and I realize i'm not attractive. But would someone be so kind as to tell me what is beautiful about gaining 50 pounds and having dark purple streaks across your abdomen?

If you think it's beautiful, then more power to you. And hey if you're going to insult me, you two-watt retard, take it to a private message along with all your other happy pregnancy claims. I'm not going to turn this topic into a debate over opinions. Show me your inability to read by replying to this here.

Emma2

replied on August 17th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

cambion wrote:

as far as i'm concerned, if a man loves his partner, he will find her beautiful no matter what...Pregnant belly and stretch marks or not. In general, those are not attractive features, but some people can get over those traits and see the woman for who she is...Spouses and boyfriends, hopefully. But if you present a typical single man with two women - a bloated stretch-marked pregnant woman and a slim-figured woman, he will most likely choose the latter...Unless he has a pregnancy fetish. So if your boyfriend loves your pregnant body (or pretends to, whichever), then good for him. It means he truly cares for you if he can look beyond the bloat and see the woman he fell in love with.

Engorged bellies on obese people are not found to be attractive by general standards, and neither are pregnant bellies. People might consider pregnancy to be a miracle (whatever), but the damage it does to the woman's body is not beautiful. That's like saying slash marks on someone's wrists are beautiful. I have nothing against heavy-set people (or people struggling with depression), either - i'm overweight myself and I realize i'm not attractive. But would someone be so kind as to tell me what is beautiful about gaining 50 pounds and having dark purple streaks across your abdomen?

If you think it's beautiful, then more power to you. And hey if you're going to insult me, you two-watt retard, take it to a private message along with all your other happy pregnancy claims. I'm not going to turn this topic into a debate over opinions. Show me your inability to read by replying to this here.

are you trying to say you dont beleive me when I say he loves my pregnant body? First of all, I have no stretch marks ! And just the way you find is gross ...He happens to find it f-ing hot..Because thats a woman at her peak of womahood...Your not deep enough to appreciate the beauty of a pregnant women and a very stupid individual. Dont assume everyone will have your views or agree because you have a mental issue! And the same way youve insulted every pregnant women here we will all insult you back f*** face retard.Oh and ive gained about 12 lbs and im almost 7 months pregnant and im hotter than you will ever be or anyone you know...Gosh you are the stupidest individual ive seen to date here!!!

Melissa_20

replied on August 17th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

Ummmm,we are not talking about regular slender women,we are tlaking about pregnant women,and yes they can be beautiful.Not everyone will get stretch marks on their belly and not every one will have a damaged body after they give birth.It's called taking care of yourslef.I'm sorry for you that you don't thin pregnant women are beautiful.But its only an opinion,not a fact.

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