Husbands/boyfriends And Pregnancy Posted: 08-16-06 20:45pm
Hey everyone..... I haven't posted here
in awhile because i've been so busy
working... As of now i'm working between
50 and 60 hours a week. Its very tiring,
but me and my boyfriend are both working
non stop to try and save up some money for
when the baby gets here. Its hard, and
frusterating, because I really don't feel
like working all the time, and having no
social life, but I guess it will all work
out.
So the reason for this post.....Did any of
you girls notice a big change in your
relationships with your
husbands/boyfriends while you were
pregnant? Because something feels
different between me and my boyfriend....
I don't know what, but something does. We
haven't been really fighting a lot, but
i'm just getting stressed out over
everything. We have money to support the
baby, and ourselves, but i'm just scared
nothing will be good enough for when the
baby gets here. And i'm afraid that when
I get further along he won't find me
attractive anymore. I know he loves me,
and he always assures me that nothing will
change with the way he loves me, but I
can't help feeling that everything will
change... I'm afraid i'll be tying him
down to a life he doesn't want.
But then I get confused because he has
given me no reason to feel this way...
Like its all in my head.
And I still haven't told my parents....But
i'm going to have to soon, because i'm
starting to gain a little weight... Not a
lot yet, but some of my jeans are starting
to get tight. But i'm still soooo scared
to tell them! How far along were some of
you guys when you started to obviously
show?
Everything w.I.L.L. Change. A baby
changes everything. The most important
thing is good communication between you
guys. Babies can be stressful and they
can make your relationship stressful. Its
important to be patient and understanding
of eachother.
I didnt show till about 6 months, but
every one is different. I think yuo
should tell your parents soon...The longer
you wait the harder it will be.
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arcadia
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Posted: 08-16-06 22:19pm
My boyfriend &.I's relationship has
definitely changed.
We don't fight as much, but .I've noticed
there's more
stress on our relationship. He does
everything ever
possible for me, &.I think it's
stressing him out, which
in turn is stressing me out. &.We're
both trying to
work so hard for this baby. So it is
difficult. But our
communication is so much better for some
reason.
It's like we are just better understanding
of eachother.
&.You definitely need to tell your
parents .A.S.A.P.
I was going to wait until .I was about 4
months to
tell my parents. &.I'm so glad .I
told them early.
It's so amazing to have their support
&have them
know. I'm not carrying around a big
secret, &
they're so great about it. Tell them!
It's a good thing.
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Becky
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Posted: 08-17-06 01:50am
With my first pregnancy I was such a
health forum to my husband I don't know
why he stayed with me. Even though we
were married we couldn't afford a place of
our own so we were living at my mil's
house. I hated it. I wanted a place of
our own and we moved during the pregnancy
which was way stressful.
Luckily my hubby went on to get a really
good job and we managed to get a 3
bedroomed house but that was a really
testing time for us. My point is if you
are strong then nothing will bring you
down. We are on our 3rd now and nothing
fazes my hubby.
I was irrational with my first pregnancy
trying to start fights all the time and I
got diagnosed with antenatal depression.
I then went on to get postnatal depression
and had a black cloud hanging over me for
some time.
I started showing around 5-6 months but
this time I was showing at 3 months!
Lol.
Good luck with everything. I hope it
works put for you.
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Cambion
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Posted: 08-17-06 09:56am
If preparing for and having a child is so
hard and frustrating, why are you choosing
to be parents? Why do it when you're so
young when you could wait until you're
more financially stable and not working
yourselves into an early grave? Forgive
me for asking this - i've seriously just
never understood the logic of teen
parents.
A baby will change everything, especially
things between you and your partner.
You'll disagree on parenting techniques,
you'll both be stressed out and probably
argue over nothing because of the stress,
and life will be miserable more often than
not. But if your relationship is built
upon a strong foundation, you will
persevere through the hardships. Also,
just know that there's no such thing as a
beautiful pregnant woman - all women will
become unattractive when they start to
show. But that's the sacrifice mothers
make for their kids - their bodies and
their beauty. If your boyfriend stays
away from you because he finds your body
repulsive, then I would strongly consider
asking yourself what you're doing staying
with him. I am not saying this to be mean
or to just pick on you - i'm stating the
truth. I apologize if it's something you
cannot handle.
Out of curiousity, are you doing the whole
"i'm not going to tell my parents until
i'm six months gone so they can't make me
abort" thing? I notice more and more
pregnant teens doing this.
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 08-17-06 10:09am
cambion
wrote:
also, ust know that
there's no such thing as a beautiful
pregnant woman - all women will become
unattractive when they start to
show. but that's the sacrifice
mothers make for their kids - their bodies
and their
beauty.
are your incredibly
kidding me? What planet do you come from
saying "there is no such thing a as
beautiful pregnant woman"? I have seen
very few pregnant women who were not
beautiful and didnt look good and thats
because they weighed 1000 pounds befrore
getting pregnant.Being pregnant is a
beautiful thing and it in no way means you
are unattractive.That is just rediculous!
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Emma2
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Posted: 08-17-06 10:29am
cambion
wrote:
if preparing for and having
a child is so hard and frustrating, why
are you choosing to be parents? Why do
it when you're so young when you could
wait until you're more financially stable
and not working yourselves into an early
grave? Forgive me for asking this - i've
seriously just never understood the logic
of teen parents.
A baby will change everything, especially
things between you and your partner.
You'll disagree on parenting techniques,
you'll both be stressed out and probably
argue over nothing because of the stress,
and life will be miserable more often than
not. But if your relationship is built
upon a strong foundation, you will
persevere through the hardships. Also,
just know that there's no such thing as a
beautiful pregnant woman - all women will
become unattractive when they start to
show. But that's the sacrifice mothers
make for their kids - their bodies and
their beauty. If your boyfriend stays
away from you because he finds your body
repulsive, then I would strongly consider
asking yourself what you're doing staying
with him. I am not saying this to be
mean or to just pick on you - i'm stating
the truth. I apologize if it's something
you cannot handle.
Out of curiousity, are you doing the whole
"i'm not going to tell my parents until
i'm six months gone so they can't make me
abort" thing? I notice more and more
pregnant teens doing
this.
i have to agree with alot of what you've
said in regards to teens and pregnancy but
I am replused by your comment and views on
pregnant women being replusive to men.
First of all thats your opinion and
>n>o>t> all men would agree
with you. My bf loves my pregnant body
and wants sex just as much as he did
before and he gets it too! Your views are
solely yours and shouldnt be voiced
because you sound like a stup!D shallow
fool and quite frankly very ignorant!
also, just know that
there's no such thing as a beautiful
pregnant woman - all women will become
unattractive when they start to show.
But that's the sacrifice mothers make for
their kids - their bodies and their
beauty. .
umm...What?! Have you seen heidi klum?
Elizabeth hurley? Cindy crawford? Posh
spice? Wow you are dumb!
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Cambion
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Posted: 08-17-06 10:40am
As far as i'm concerned, if a man loves
his partner, he will find her beautiful no
matter what...Pregnant belly and stretch
marks or not. In general, those are not
attractive features, but some people can
get over those traits and see the woman
for who she is...Spouses and boyfriends,
hopefully. But if you present a typical
single man with two women - a bloated
stretch-marked pregnant woman and a
slim-figured woman, he will most likely
choose the latter...Unless he has a
pregnancy fetish. So if your boyfriend
loves your pregnant body (or pretends to,
whichever), then good for him. It means
he truly cares for you if he can look
beyond the bloat and see the woman he fell
in love with.
Engorged bellies on obese people are not
found to be attractive by general
standards, and neither are pregnant
bellies. People might consider pregnancy
to be a miracle (whatever), but the damage
it does to the woman's body is not
beautiful. That's like saying slash marks
on someone's wrists are beautiful. I have
nothing against heavy-set people (or
people struggling with depression), either
- i'm overweight myself and I realize i'm
not attractive. But would someone be so
kind as to tell me what is beautiful about
gaining 50 pounds and having dark purple
streaks across your abdomen?
If you think it's beautiful, then more
power to you. And hey if you're going to
insult me, you two-watt retard, take it to
a private message along with all your
other happy pregnancy claims. I'm not
going to turn this topic into a debate
over opinions. Show me your inability to
read by replying to this here.
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Emma2
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Posted: 08-17-06 10:47am
cambion
wrote:
as far as i'm concerned, if
a man loves his partner, he will find her
beautiful no matter what...Pregnant belly
and stretch marks or not. In general,
those are not attractive features, but
some people can get over those traits and
see the woman for who she is...Spouses and
boyfriends, hopefully. But if you
present a typical single man with two
women - a bloated stretch-marked pregnant
woman and a slim-figured woman, he will
most likely choose the latter...Unless he
has a pregnancy fetish. So if your
boyfriend loves your pregnant body (or
pretends to, whichever), then good for
him. It means he truly cares for you
if he can look beyond the bloat and see
the woman he fell in love with.
Engorged bellies on obese people are not
found to be attractive by general
standards, and neither are pregnant
bellies. People might consider
pregnancy to be a miracle (whatever), but
the damage it does to the woman's body is
not beautiful. That's like saying
slash marks on someone's wrists are
beautiful. I have nothing against
heavy-set people (or people struggling
with depression), either - i'm overweight
myself and I realize i'm not attractive.
But would someone be so kind as to tell
me what is beautiful about gaining 50
pounds and having dark purple streaks
across your abdomen?
If you think it's beautiful, then more
power to you. And hey if you're going
to insult me, you two-watt retard, take it
to a private message along with all your
other happy pregnancy claims. I'm not
going to turn this topic into a debate
over opinions. Show me your inability
to read by replying to this
here.
are you trying to say you dont beleive me
when I say he loves my pregnant body?
First of all, I have no stretch marks !
And just the way you find is gross ...He
happens to find it f-ing hot..Because
thats a woman at her peak of
womahood...Your not deep enough to
appreciate the beauty of a pregnant women
and a very stupid individual. Dont
assume everyone will have your views or
agree because you have a mental issue!
And the same way youve insulted every
pregnant women here we will all insult you
back f*** face retard.Oh and ive gained
about 12 lbs and im almost 7 months
pregnant and im hotter than you will ever
be or anyone you know...Gosh you are the
stupidest individual ive seen to date
here!!!
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 08-17-06 10:55am
Ummmm,we are not talking about regular
slender women,we are tlaking about
pregnant women,and yes they can be
beautiful.Not everyone will get stretch
marks on their belly and not every one
will have a damaged body after they give
birth.It's called taking care of
yourslef.I'm sorry for you that you don't
thin pregnant women are beautiful.But its
only an opinion,not a fact.
