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Q: Premature Ejaculation, Please Help
asked by: Wrastler on August 15th, 2006
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Ok so i'm 19 years old turning 20 next month and going into my second year of college. I have been sexually active for 3 years now and have been suffering from premature ejaculation ever since. I have always tried the "stop start" and "squeeze" techniques but these have not helped in the long term at all.

I have been doing alot of research lately and have come across the fact that ssri's (anti-depressants) help in aiding premature ejaculation. I don't really feel that I am a depressed person but I am more than willing to try this out.

The problem is just actually going to a doctor. I am willing to go but I am unsure if the doctor will even prescribe me the medication or just deny me completely. My question is if anyone out there has done this before? Could anyone give me some tips on what to say to the doctor, or at least what kind of doctor to go to?

Any responses will be greatly appreciated!
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Wrastler
replied on September 11th, 2006
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Yeah but can anyone give me tips on how to approach a doctor with this?
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DaManIam
replied on September 11th, 2006
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Tell him straight up!

No need to beat around the bush. Tell him you have this problem and have been researching possibly remedies.

If that's not his area of expertise ask him for a reference.
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fiona05
replied on September 12th, 2006
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There is no harm in going to the doctor (what's the worst that can happen?) damaniam is right, you just need to approach him straight up about it. My recommendation would be to get a very early morning appointment too, because often if you visit a doctor in the afternoon, by that point they're so tired from a day's work that they're more likely to brush you off. So catch them in the morning. My boyfriend had to go to a doctor over erection problems, and it wasn't half as difficult as he had expected. The doctor had seen and heard it all before and was very reassuring. These people are professionals so there's no need for embarrassment. Explain to him how you've read into .P.E and you've tried a lot of techniques to try to help but none of them have proved successful and you want to know where to go from here. I wish you the best of luck!
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Jadc
replied on September 12th, 2006
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Try sensation condoms.

I tryed it last night and I was away at it feeling nothing for about 8 minutes :p

numbs the end of your penis...The sensitive bit
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mikeanderson
replied on October 10th, 2006
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Hi wrastler

i'm not surprised the the stop-start and squeeze don't work long term - did you realize this ‘method' was developed way back in the 1970’s?

I mean, that’s over 30 years ago!

I'm sure you can imagine how our understanding of human sexuality has advanced dramatically since then - like big time!

What's more, these techniques have now been shown to enhance performance anxiety which can make your premature ejaculation worse...

As for taking anti-depressants, I would strongly advise against this radical measure. Sure, these drugs are known to delay ejaculation, but they are not a real solution to your problem.

Like so many of today’s medications - they only treat the symptoms but do not offer cure.

And...Without the drugs, the problems still exists.

Ask yourself, do you want to be on anti-depressants for the rest of your life???

They're really very powerful drugs that last a long time in your body and have a considerable list of potential significant side effects.
• nausea
• drowsiness
• headaches
• increased appetite
• weight gain
• erectile dysfunction (inability to develop or maintain erection)
• decreased libido
• anorgasmia (delayed ejaculation)
• increased feelings of depression and anxiety
• tremors
• increased sweating
• insomnia

not only that, the use of antidepressants carry an additional warning. You must remember that you’re taking a drug that was not even originally designed for pe.

You’re essentially taking a drug for its ‘unwanted’ side effect while its primary purpose is to treat depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder and other psychiatric disorders...

There are natural ways to cure your premature ejaculation that do not involve dangerous prescription drugs, delay lube, stay harder longer sprays or any other type of 'miracle cure in a can'.

Firstly though you need to discover the cause of your particular type of pe and there are 7 main causes - the most common being poor psychosexual development (most common) and neurological which means that your body is actually hard-wired through your nervous system to have a quicker ejaculatory reflex.

Don't worry becasue there are methods for treating these types of pe.

You basically need to recondition your mind and body regarding the way you respond to sexual stimulation.

The key is in being able to tune into your sensitivity rather than away from it - which may seem counter intuitive but this is also why all the delay lubes and desentsitizing creams actually work in the reverse way that they should if they really were a solution...

Here's the thing. The natural cure is nhere'sovernight cure but it works and is not harmful to your body and mind!

All the best

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Wrastler
replied on October 24th, 2006
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Can anyone recommend a specific type of doctor to go to? I would feel ackward going to my family doctor for this type of problem
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Fencepost
replied on October 27th, 2006
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Having tried many ed products, I can only quote my dr, "try a sample of the major products and determine what works best for you". I am no dr, and I don't get paid to do ads, but I can say that I think cialis is a godsend for ed and sensitivity issues.
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number game
replied on August 25th, 2007
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my boyfriend has this problem and took meds but it completly took away his sex drive. So he stoped the meds. He still has this issue. I've wondered at times if usinf Viagra would work? Anyone know?
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Mikolas
replied on September 10th, 2007
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Amazing what people would do for sex -_-. Hey man, if you really want to take anti-depressants for a few more minutes in the bed, its your life and health. I can see the possibility of why they would help you, but you can't exclude the side effects that they often have. Additionally, how it affects people as an individual mentally and emotionally... its just not worth the price. I had a few friends who were on anti-depressants because they actually "needed it", it just takes the life out of them. After taking it they would be all quiet and zoned out and not care about anything in the world. Don't take it.

As for a solution, I've seen some forums here and there on this one talking about exercises that can increase your libido/size. As to whether or not they are valid... I cannot say, it could just be some random guys that work for a enhancer company attempting to advertise. But I know kegel exercises at least contribute to sexual health.
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NYC216
replied on September 10th, 2007
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well SSRI's is my next step. I have oone more visit with a therapists and if he okays it the i will be prescribed an ssri. Certain steps are require before prescribed. but i just got done reading on other sites that people who have pe and are on ssri's it increased there time dramatically. like from 2min to 15-20 or even more. and thats a big jump. and for some one like me who never gets in and cums in the pants 9 out of 10 times i will take the side effects if the pill helps. Cause my problem is way to embarressing and i have no sex life becuase of it and it sux. i tried exercises and all and nothing worked. so my last option is ssri's so i'm going to give it a shot with some side effects involve, so what as long as i can increase my ejaculation time. i'll keep u posted.
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