Now I know i'm not the only one out there
that has looked into adoption, tried to
adopt, and failed. I'm positive there
are tons of us here. So where is
everyone else?
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sandyallen
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Kiss of Angel Posted: 08-14-06 17:19pm
No, you are not the only one that has
tried to adopt and I am sorry it did not
go through. I bet you would have been a
good parent! I used to help with
adoptions and to me it is this yucky
system we have. Their are so many out
their I know that woud have made good
parents that were turned down that it is
soooo sad! Never look at yourself as a
failure!
My .Daughter works with special kids and
she always tells me howmany grand kids I
have, she just loves her job, I may never
be a true grandma as these kids are alot
of her life, have you ever tried doing
something like this? Those kids are so
loveable or working at a state foster
home, I worked with them for a while too,
thry are a lot of fun and I went to school
and was thinking about opening a foster
care home but went on with my nursing and
social servise job. That was enough!
She too is going to college.
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Guest
Posted: 08-14-06 22:17pm
You really should look into becoming a
foster parent first. My mother was unable
to have anymore children after me so she
became a foster parent. She has adopted
on girl and is adopting two more a boy and
girl who are siblings. Sometimes a lot of
children go through your home and don't
come up for adoption but when one does
it's really worth it.
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Guest
Posted: 08-14-06 22:17pm
You really should look into becoming a
foster parent first. My mother was unable
to have anymore children after me so she
became a foster parent. She has adopted
on girl and is adopting two more a boy and
girl who are siblings. Sometimes a lot of
children go through your home and don't
come up for adoption but when one does
it's really worth it.
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Guest
Posted: 08-14-06 22:18pm
I have no idea why that appeared twice.
Sorry
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Guest
Posted: 08-15-06 09:38am
We had hoped to do foster but because my
husband is away a lot they said it
wouldn't be a structured home for
children. They didn't even care that I
would be a stay at home mom. So right
now I am starting school my major will be
social services.
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kissofangel20
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 May 2006 Posts: 248 Location: ,
Posted: 08-15-06 10:15am
Ohh yes we were wanting so badly to do
foster two years ago. But he got
deployed and we couldn't get finished in
time. And now he is driving big rigs and
isn't home but maybe a day or two a week
and we were told with out having both fp
there on a daily basis it wouldn't be a
good home for children. Love and
devotion ....Security and safety didn't
seem to matter at all. Not to mention
the fact that we already have a nursery
set up with everything for newborns up to
4 years old due to failed adoptions.
We're not giving up completely. Just
stopping to recoup for a awhile...Give
ourselves a chance to heal a little and
restore ourselves so we can give it anther
try.
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Moo
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Posted: 08-15-06 10:57am
Hi. I've not any personal experience with
adoption but I do have a friend who's a
foster mum.
I hope you manage to achieve this
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BigSis_16
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Aug 2006 Posts: 12 Location: , PA USA
Posted: 08-15-06 16:46pm
I don't believe they wouldn't let you
become foster parents because of your
husband's situation. I mean I believe it
I just think it's terrible. One parent is
10 times better than what these kids are
coming from. There are people in our
agency who are single parents. As long as
the kids are in a good home it shouldn't
matter.
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Guest
Posted: 08-15-06 17:06pm
Thats exactly what I am saying but it does
seem to matter to them.
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sandyallen
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Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Kiss of Angel Posted: 08-15-06 18:05pm
Good point! Give it a little time, if
they see you coming back, they will know
that you care! You deserve someone to
care for and love and they deserve someone
that will love them! It will happen!
Be possitive even though it is difficult
at times! To me it is just not right when
I see some of these homes that are
horrible and the kids you can tell are
treated poorly when you have all the love
to give and you are turned down, it really
upsets me, even though I don't really know
you, I just feel that you would be great!
It will happen, just have a little hope
and faith and time!
All the best!
