Joined: 12 Aug 2006 Posts: 1 Location: Somewhere over the rainbow
Confused Posted: 08-12-06 20:38pm
I dont want anyone to judgeme, i'm in a
really really tough decision, im currently
married to a male and all of sudden am
starting to have a liking to a woman
beyond the normal. I don't know if it is
a stage or just something that will
destroy a marriage because i'm in love
with another woman. What am I to do how
do I explain how I feel, how to do I
explain that i'm in love with another
woman, how the hell do I tell him i'm
(dont know bi/gay) this is so
frustrating. I need some insight from
someone who has been in this sitiuation is
this a normal thing or have I gone
completely insane??
I think woman are sexy men are disgusting
to me, the thought of having a bestfriend
and awesome sex completrly intrigues me
although I have never had sex with another
woman but I have kissed/gone on a date
with another woman.
Someone please help me
please.............
Confused
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fox1lady
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Aug 2006 Posts: 53
Posted: 08-23-06 18:02pm
Sometimes people go through fazes in
life..Once you have realized what you want
and that you want change it can be
confusing..If you really love your
husband, then tell him how you feel and
that you have an attraction to women...If
you have a good man he will understand, if
you have a nut be careful..There is
nothing wrong with being honest..But he
should know that what you are feeling..And
go to church..
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diamondsz
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Oct 2005 Posts: 3224 Location: , Candyland-Canada
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Posted: 08-23-06 20:00pm
Why would they want to go to church,
churche just rip you off for your
cash!!!!!
When the priest are driving bmws you start
to wonder if that money really makes it to
people anymore, they refused to baptize my
children at 15 churches where I live
because I dont donate my money every
sunday, god said thou shall not judge,
thou shall forgive.
Wheres the doing it forgivness in that
anyways my advice to any catholic you can
praise your god at home and still have
your spiritual contact with god, you can
confess your sins to your husband or
anyone for that matter.
Sorry im in a rant right now cause no one
will baptize my son f*ck them
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fox1lady
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Aug 2006 Posts: 53
Posted: 08-24-06 07:52am
Its always like that here in america...And
these are your issues with the church..Not
his..I am just trying to be encouraging to
a person who is going through some
extremely rough changes..Being a good
friend..
You know what, you can discourage a person
with remarks like that, first off not all
church is about paying money. Regardless
of what your beliefs are, spiritual
encouragement..Fellowship, and last but
not least being baptized, repenting and
being prayed for all come together. For
someone in a situation like this you have
to be more understanding..
Sometimes as christian people when we are
weak and need to be rebuilt spiritually,
we always find someone spiritually
stronger than us to feed off of and vice
versa..In this particular situation..He is
confused and going through a spiritual
warfare with himself..What place would you
rather be than in church asking for
forgiveness, guidance and strength..Now I
am not gay. But I have friends and family
who are and they each have said the same
thing..That the were able to overcome some
of these issues once they dedicated
themselves to christ..
So rather you are catholic or not you
still have the devil beating on you
somewhere, its always nice to be prepared
and carry the whole armor of god to
protect you even when you are in a
situation like this..
Dont be confused baby, pray about it and
god will lead you to your answer.. :wink:
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PassionFlowerLover
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Sep 2006 Posts: 23 Location: US
Posted: 09-05-06 15:43pm
Please stop arguing about church.
Molsonchick is asking for help, not about
church. If you want to argue about
church, start your own discussion
somewhere else.
With that being said, I think you should
be honest with your husband.
Relationships fall apart to pieces without
honesty. If he loves you, he will try to
workt things out. Relationships take so
much time to work out and it takes years
to fully understand eachother. Talk about
it with him and just tell him whats going
on in your mind.
I pesonally think you should try to work
it out with your husband. You would
really hate yourself if you ended things
with your husband and regretted it for
years to come. If through all the trials
of trying to work things out, you still
have feelings for women, or this
particular woman, then follow your heart
and do whats right for you.